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Mrs. Ant, New York/Jamaica Age and Occupation: 25, PhD Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Finance Engagement Date: July 26, 2005 Wedding Date: November 18, 2006 Blogging Since: February 15, 2006 Venue: Rockhouse Hotel About Me: I live in New York but I'm planning a destination wedding in Negril, Jamaica. My fiance and I are high school sweethearts!
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A Secret Engagement

August 27th, 2005 @ 11:11 pm by Mrs. Ant

I’ve known about the engagement ring for 4 months and been officially engaged for over 1 month, but I still haven’t told any of my friends yet. (with the exception of my very closest friends)

I’m not sure why. I suspect that it’s because I’m scared of further alienating myself from my single friends. We’re all pretty young- around 23. But I’m just in such a different stage of my life relationship-wise. They’re all living up the single life in NYC. Whereas I’ve been living with my fiance for a year now.

Ever since Mr. D and I moved in together, my friendship dynamics have changed for the worse. They don’t call me to go out unless it’s a big get-together. In fact, they hardly even call me anymore just to talk. I don’t know if it’s because they assume that all my time is taken up by him. Or if they don’t want me around when they hit up the singles scene. Or maybe we’ve just grown apart because our lifestyles are so different.

Whatever the reasons, the case is that despite having such a wonderful man in my life, I still feel lonely sometimes. I miss the way my friendships used to be.

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Dear Miss (or I guess it’s Mrs. now … or Ms.) Ant,

I’ve been checking in on Weddingbee for a while now but just followed a link on it to your entries exclusively, and read it all backwards! It was like a blog page-turner. Anyway, it’s funny to end here at your first entries but start with the pictures of your beautiful wedding in Jamaica. Everything looked perfect. Congratulations on a job well done!

Also, I feel a special kinship as I’m also from Taiwan. I’m still in that part of wedding planning where I sometimes hate the wedding as it has been the source of more frustration than fun thus far. Luckily, the fiance is a huge source of emotional support and partner in planning or I would shoot myself. This entry especially resonated with me - I didn’t realize how the getting engaged would actually cost me friendships. Perhaps they weren’t meant to survive the change, but it’s still rough (and lonely!) going through the rite of passage!

I look forward to reading about your married life!

 


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