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I still have to contact the florist re: the sample centerpiece she made. I was surfing online for ideas and came across an arrangement I liked in a similar color scheme (without the yellow flowers). I had to take pictures of the computer screen with my camera.

I even like simple tulip arrangements. And I love floating candles.

I like how fabric is wrapped around the vases here. Orange and pink would look great like this!

A giant “B” arrangement.

Cute for an outdoor wedding.

This is a sample centerpiece our florist did for us. It doesn’t include fall berries which she says weren’t available now but will be around the time of the wedding. Maybe it’s just that I don’t really like hydrangeas mixed with other flowers. I think hydrangeas usually only look good on their own. I’m not too crazy about the greenery and I’d like bolder shades of pink and orange (my brother’s color scheme). I also told her previously that I didn’t like the vase so the arrangement will be in a smaller vase. I don’t like it.

What do you think? Please be brutally honest.

These were flowers from my wedding and I loved them (click for larger view). Clean, elegant, and modern. I wanted a similar aesthetic for my brother’s wedding.

My mom is buying four “adult” gifts for the games we’re playing at the wedding. For the “kids” I bought: 1) first season of Lost, 2) first season of 24, 3) a bottle of patron, and 4) a $50 gift certificate to Cheesecake Factory.

Now I need to come up with games that don’t require a lot of explanation since up to 40% of the guests may be Korean speakers and we’ll need to translate all the rules. This is what I’ve come up with so far:

1) Fill a jar with jellybeans and ask people to write down their guesses and names at the beginning of the reception. Winner will be announced later. The promise of gifts to come will encourage guests to stay.

2) Person with closest birthday. This will encourage interaction among guests.

3) Most recently married person.

4) Longest married person.

5) Taping winning tickets under seats for 3 random winners.

Any other ideas for simple games?

I was also thinking about playing games to give the centerpieces away. Korean ahjummahs are notorious for eating, stealing centerpieces before the party is over, and then running away. If we make an announcement at the beginning of the wedding that we’ll be playing games for the centerpieces, no one will take them. Hopefully.

Mission Impossible theme song for the bouquet toss. Do you love it? Or is it too cheesy? Haha or how about the Rocky theme song?

I wanna do something kinda fun instead of the classic songs…

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
Express Yourself
Like a Virgin
Pretty Woman
I Feel Like a Woman
Lady Marmalade
Just a Girl
Sex and the City theme song
American Woman
Ladies Night
Milkshake

I’m filling out a reception planner for our DJ and it’s pretty amazing how many songs you have to choose for each little event.

• processional
• bride’s entrance
• recessional
• grand entrance
• first dance
• parent dance songs
• bouquet toss song
• garter toss song
• cake cutting song
• last song

Pretty amazing how many little decisions go into planning a wedding huh? Are you using any original songs?

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Oh my goodness. I most likely have to give a toast at my brother’s wedding, but I’ve tried not to think about it. But I need to start writing my speech now!

The 10 Commandments Of Toasting

1. Plan to speak from 1 to 4 minutes. No one wants to be bored with an extraordinarily long toast covering the entirety of your friendship. With wedding toasts, even a short toast will do if delivered with feeling and sincerity.

2. Make sure all other glasses are full before beginning. You may want to announce to the guests, or have the MC announce to the guests, to fill their glasses because toasting will commence shortly. Then give guests 3 - 5 minutes to fill their glasses.

3. Stand to give a toast (sit to receive one) and hold your glass with your right hand as you toast. After the toast, it is tradition to then clink the glasses together before sipping.

4. Start with something personal. How the bride and groom met is always a favorite. You can also use humor or quotes to get started.

5. Always use humor in good taste. While poking fun at the bride and groom can add the touch of humor you’re looking for, poking too much fun will only gain you a disapproving audience.

6. Speak in your normal voice, and avoid unnatural hand gestures or fake accents. Wedding audiences want to hear what you have to say, not watch a drama unfold. Just remember you were chosen to be you, not someone else.

7. Practice your toast. Unless you are an accomplished public speaker, just ‘winging it’ for the wedding toast is always a bad idea.

8. Look around the room at the audience and to the bride and groom as you toast. Eye contact is an important characteristic of a good speaker.

9. Speak clearly and don’t rush. Take your time and take a deep breath, because if you speak too fast, no one is going to understand you.

10. And finally, finish your toast with a wish, blessing, congratulations, or cheers.

The 5 Biggest Mistakes To Avoid

1. Having more than one drink to calm nerves beforehand. It may seem like a good idea, but besides calming your nerves, too much alcohol will also keep you from speaking clearly and hinder your good judgment of appropriate speech material.

2. Swearing and/or lying.

3. Apologizing for being a bad speaker - Never apologize for being a bad speaker, and don’t say you really didn’t want to speak. It’s a rule for all speeches and all occasions, not just weddings.

4. Mentioning previous girlfriends, past marriages, or past relationships. Not only could it be potentially embarrassing, but it’s inappropriate at a wedding. Leave this for the stag party.

5. Stories about the Bride and Groom that aren’t rated PG. Remember, Grandma, Grandpa and possibly even children will be present at the wedding. Make sure your stories are appropriate for the audience.

So here’s to your next toast, my friend, may it be a sweet success!

ok so today was good, minus the weather.

anna bailed cause she was sick (suck it up soldier! sike, get better sweetie.), but eun jung came out. first we hit sae young vu at 11 and we made the executive decision on the dresses. this is what it’s going to look like, kind of. it’ll be the pink dress but in the apple green shown with a chesnut brown sash. and for my sister since she likes the tier on the bottom it’ll be apple green but with a chesnut brown tier. they didn’t have a brown sash so we rolled up a brown skirt to see what it would look like.

with flash w/o flash with flash

afterwards ej and i hit amsale. i actually had a 4pm appt but we got finished a little past 12 at saeyoung vu so she called amsale and somehow got us in for 20 minutes just to try on my dress. hahaha thank GOD i have bitches for bestfriends. i forgot how beautiful it was. it’s gorgeous! while we were in the dressing room, i was changing out of the dress and she kept saying how pretty it was so i said “wanna try it on?” that girl stripped in seconds! hahahaha… she just got married in may and missed wearing her gown. cukoo! the woman said that she would give me 10% off if i purchased the dress from there instead of kleinfelds and that she would honor it if i came back. ej’s like “Excuse me, just so that we have it in writing can you write down that you’re going to honor the 10%?” she’s a shark i tell you. i don’t have to be a bitch, my friends do it for me. woohoo!!! afterwards we ate at joe shanghai’s and then headed home. thanks for coming out ej. you were a lot of help!

(she said that for my wedding gift she’ll buy me nice shoes cause for hers she got a pair of stuart weitzman’s. isn’t it sweet that she offered? i’m just gonna wear the shoes that i wore to her wedding. i have the bestest friends.)

For outdoor summer weddings, I think providing parasols or fans for the guests is really nice.

Parasols from Chic Wedding Favors for $4.95.

Big paper parasol selection at Pamela’s Parasols.

Sandalwood fan favors from Wedding Favors to Love for 99 cents.

Mini Palm hand fans. 10 for $5.99 from Bliss Weddings Market.

Large Palm Hand Fans for 99 cents from Bliss Weddings Market

Here’s a program idea with the palm fans.

Paper fans from Wedding Day Originals. 25 for $27.90 for blank ones, 25 for $39.00 for personalized ones.

Paper hand fans from Beau Coup for $1.25.

Here are fan shaped programs from Custom Programs. I’m ordering my programs, menu cards, and table cards from this company.

I posted these lottery ticket holders from Bliss Weddings Market a long time ago, but pc1004rn just reminded me about them because she’s giving lotto tickets as favors at her wedding.

The two of you are LUCKY IN LOVE so why not spread the luck with lottery tickets! Surprise your wedding guests with $1 Scratch-off state lottery tickets in our glassine envelopes. You never know!

Materials:

1) Medium-size Glassine Envelopes
2) Bridal Label (shown above in MS12; Metropolitan; Lilac)
3) Your state?s $1 Scratch-Off Lottery Ticket
4) A penny (for scratching) with your wedding year printed on it

Instructions:

Enclose a $1 Scratch-off state lottery ticket in a glassine envelope. For scratching, include a penny minted in the year you are getting married. Seal the flap of the envelope with double-sided tape. On the front of the envelope, affix a label that cleverly reads ?Lucky in Love!?

Koreans looooove gambling, and there are sure to be some winners among the tickets. What do you think? Better than the coasters or wine tool set?

Since we’re doing a chocolate fountain, I don’t want to give chocolate as favors anymore. Most wedding favors are just cheesy cheap tchotchkes that guests never use. (omg I can’t believe I got the spelling of that right - I just checked!) And no one wants to spend a lot on favors either - I’d say most people spend about $1-$2 per favor. I spent yesterday surfing for favors people might actually like and didn’t cost a fortune and came up with coasters or a wine tool set. I looked at tons of sites to find the cheapest prices for these things because a lot of different sites sell them at different prices.

Set of 4 Fall in Love Glass Coasters - $3.00 each

Set of 4 cork Fall in Love Maple Leaf Coasters - $2.00 each

Cheers to a Great Combination Wine Tool Set - $3.49

Mr. Bee thinks the coasters are more for girls and he likes the wine tool set best. I don’t really like the second set of coasters but they are cheap and I’m paying for these remember. The good thing about all these favors is that they come prepackaged so no extra work for me buying containers or ribbons. Although I would remove that cheesy fall in love tag and make my own to match the color scheme.
Which do you like best?

I wanted a chocolate fountain for my wedding. Then again I wanted a lighting designer, ice sculptures, sparklers, and a partridge in a pear tree. But you gotta cut back the expenses somewhere. My brother loves the idea of a chocolate fountain for his wedding though so yesterday I contacted Chocolate Sensations after seeing it on HereComestheBridezilla’s site. I love sharing vendors!

The cream puff and strawberry trees are an extra $25.

Now I have to decide on the dipping items. The package includes 5 different items, but I’m thinking about doing maybe 7 or 8. It isn’t a big sweets crowd so I was thinking more variety for the people who do like sweets.

Please help me choose! We’re prolly gonna do strawberries and cream puffs for sure. Which ones are your favorites?

Maybe hate is a strong term, but it wasn’t the dress. The problem of course is that it was the dress my mother had paid for already. Problem.

Last week I went back to Mark Ingram, the bridal salon where I ordered my wedding dress, to be re-measured for my dress (I needed to lose a little weight so that they could order a smaller size). I asked if I could try on the sample again and take a picture. One hour photo later and…well … it just wasn’t it.

I posted pictures on theknot. Asked friends. Some thought it looked great (well, considering that it was 3 sizes too small). Others tried to pinpoint what wasn’t quite right. The sash too thick? The skirt too poofy? My friend Maria hit the nail on the head - my best assets are my arms and my boobs and the dress was hiding both.

Luckily while the fabric had been ordered, because Mark Ingram was waiting for me to lose the weight - they had not given Monique Lhiullier a size yet. So I got to pick a different lace top that better suited my assets.

I went back with my best friend and maid of honor and we both quickly decided that the Jacqueline - the original top that I had picked out way back in the spring (pictured below) was best. Plus we are going to make the sash a little thinner and I will wear the dress with just a bustier underneath - no camisole - so that more of the lace will show (still not as much lace as is showing on the runway picture. She has nothing on underneath and without airbrushing, it would be indecent exposure

Problem resolved.

The new (original) the dress.

Thankfully, no longer the dress.

One of the small diamonds on the band of my engagement ring fell off a couple of months ago. I have yet to get it fixed because I usually just wear my wedding band. This got me to thinking recently about how much importance a lot of girls place on engagement rings. The carat. The cut. The color. The clarity. It has to be from Tiffany’s. It has to be at least 2 carats. It has to be worth at least $10,000.

I’m not going to lie - before getting married, I cared a lot about it too. Would I have been disappointed with a small rock at the time? Yes. I knew that Mr. Bee and I were going to get engaged and before he popped the question, I constantly envisioned myself showing off my ring to all my friends and family. I’d dreamt about the perfect ring forever and I understand completely why it means so much to women. Now that I am married however, I could care less about how big the diamond is, or how much it cost, or what store it was purchased from. Because cliche as it sounds, a ring’s value doesn’t represent how much he loves you. Unless your fiance has the money for a fat rock and is just really cheap. Just kidding.

Why do women place such importance on the engagement ring? Do women really care that much about the size, cost, etc.? Or are they more concerned with how their family and friends will judge the ring/relationship/fiance. Is it both? Is it those damn DeBeers commercials? (Admit it you know they’re good.) Does the ring symbolize how much your fiance loves you not only to you, but to the world?

How much do you care about the size, quality, and cost of your engagement ring?

This site modgirl is so cute! It doesn’t have that much content, but it does have some good links to vendors. The woman behind paper-girl designed the site.