How Much Does an Engagement Ring Matter?

How Much Does an Engagement Ring Matter?

October 20th, 2005 @ 3:36 pm by Mrs. Bee
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One of the small diamonds on the band of my engagement ring fell off a couple of months ago. I have yet to get it fixed because I usually just wear my wedding band. This got me to thinking recently about how much importance a lot of girls place on engagement rings. The carat. The cut. The color. The clarity. It has to be from Tiffany’s. It has to be at least 2 carats. It has to be worth at least $10,000.

I’m not going to lie - before getting married, I cared a lot about it too. Would I have been disappointed with a small rock at the time? Yes. I knew that Mr. Bee and I were going to get engaged and before he popped the question, I constantly envisioned myself showing off my ring to all my friends and family. I’d dreamt about the perfect ring forever and I understand completely why it means so much to women. Now that I am married however, I could care less about how big the diamond is, or how much it cost, or what store it was purchased from. Because cliche as it sounds, a ring’s value doesn’t represent how much he loves you. Unless your fiance has the money for a fat rock and is just really cheap. Just kidding.

Why do women place such importance on the engagement ring? Do women really care that much about the size, cost, etc.? Or are they more concerned with how their family and friends will judge the ring/relationship/fiance. Is it both? Is it those damn DeBeers commercials? (Admit it you know they’re good.) Does the ring symbolize how much your fiance loves you not only to you, but to the world?

How much do you care about the size, quality, and cost of your engagement ring?

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4 Responses to “How Much Does an Engagement Ring Matter?”

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snot

You know, I used to think all of those things were important also. But now that I am actually engaged. I really could have cared less what the ring was, I was just so excited to have found the right guy! heh. Funny how your priorities change as you get older. (Although my ring is beautiful!)

8/1/06 @ 9:46 am (reply)

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Beth

I told my boyfriend (we’ll be engaged hopefully in the next 6 months) I don’t need an engagement ring, but he is absolutely adamant. I told him I don’t want a diamond, he again, insisted. Until I told him, that really, I don’t WANT a diamond. Now he’s perplexed. I know he can’t afford a diamond, and while part of me wants one, it’s just the silly part. I want something more ME and diamonds, no matter how simple, are simply not me. It matters far more to him than it does for me.

8/14/06 @ 1:42 am (reply)

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Disappointed

My boyfriend keeps telling me, “Don’t be disappointed when you don’t get the ring you want.” He thinks I’m demanding so much. I asked for a quarter carat…That’s it! I would love to have a little more than that or half a carat, but I can live with a quarter. We found a beautiful ring I loved for $1000. But that is so much money in his mind. Maybe it is. He doesn’t understand why I care so much. I keep telling him most girls demand so much more than that. He thinks that’s not a liable excuse.

11/16/08 @ 7:32 pm (reply)

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ellabee (message) 2,837 posts, Sugar bee

This actually is very interesting.

The ring wasn’t important to me at all until he told me that I need a diamond because I had to have one. I like expensive jewelry. I’d rather wear no ring than one I don’t like. I’m horribly picky. So, the fact the diamond ring means so much to him and his image–well that was a problem for me.

Let me quote you: “Because cliche as it sounds, a ring’s value doesn’t represent how much he loves you. Unless your fiance has the money for a fat rock and is just really cheap. Just kidding.”
(Except I don’t think you’re really kidding.)

Originally I was very upset at his price because he wanted a new laptop AND a new TV. Both of them cost more than his budget for the ring. Again, why did I need a ring at all, in that case?

I was of the opinion that I would rather have no ring than have a ring that he cared less about than a TV or computer. I was very very frustrated. I didn’t want a diamond. He said I NEEDED a diamond.

Then we talked about it. Got a different ring–costs more than the TV, but less than the computer. And I feel much better about it. And he’s happy because it’s a diamond.

His electronics can’t *always* be more important.