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Mr. Bee and I had been living together for 6 months before we got married. Did things instantly change or feel different after we were married? Well it did take me awhile to get used to calling Mr. Bee “my husband.” But the biggest difference was how we brought our own ideas of what a husband or wife should be into the marriage.
I’m constantly defining myself in terms of what makes a “good wife.” I feel guilty if I haven’t cooked or cleaned (which is quite often)… But Mr. Bee could care less about any of these things and they don’t make him love me any more more or less. (Although I must admit when he cleans or does the dishes I do love him just a little bit more. 
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He sent me a link to this interesting blog today about how people love their spouses through their definitions of love (cooking, cleaning) and not in ways the other person needs. It was an interesting read and I can see my own parents in that story and perhaps a bit of myself as well.
I’ve decided to care less about being a superwife. So what if I put off the laundry or the dishes… that’ll be time we can spend together instead. 
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That’s a great entry. My bf and I started living together soon after we started dating. I guess you can say we’ve done everything backwards (ie, planning a wedding, but just waiting for the official proposal). But since we’ve been living together for 2 straight years, we’ve honed in on what makes each other happy, what pushes our buttons, and what makes us angry or sad, and they are all very powerful things.
I’m not sure if much will really change after we get married, aside from the labels and owning our first home together (and maybe I can finally cash in on that puppy he promised me 2 years ago). We joke that we’re married already.
When I first moved in, it was like 6 months of “honeymooning.” I loved being with him. Then the next 6 months, I kept telling myself I was going to leave him because our “love language” wasn’t matching and I didn’t think he loved me back. Then 6 months later, we’ve learned when to embrace each other and when to give each other space and how to make our schedules work and prioritizing ourselves. It’s been so wonderful ever since and I never feel lonely but I still get butterflies when I see him come up the stairs after work. I still love cooking him dinner and I love that we still go out on dates almost every other day. I hope our life doesn’t change much after marriage, except for the better. We continually keep our lines of communication open on our opinions of marriage and what a good wife/husband is. Some of our friends (couples) are so miserable together but won’t admit it. I’m so thankful that we genuinely enjoy each other’s company and if the world was just two of us, I think we’d be happy.
(sorry, wowzers, this was a LONG comment. I was inspired….)
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Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
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