Bathroom Anxiety
April 3rd, 2006 @ 3:40 pm by Mrs. Bee
Even though it’s been a year since we got married, I still make Mr. Bee turn on music or leave the bedroom whenever I have to go to the bathroom (I’m talking about numero dos). We live in a small Manhattan apartment where the bathroom is in our bedroom, and you can hear everything through the huge gap underneath the door. 
Mr. Bee sent me this great article about women who aren’t able to “take dumps” near their boyfriends. Well I can’t take dumps near my husband either. When Mr. Bee and I were first dating, we went away one weekend to a small B&B. It was an older building with old plumbing (my excuse). After using the bathroom one time, I flushed the toilet and watched in horror as the water slowly rose. I silently prayed, “Please don’t overflow, please don’t overflow, please don’t overflow.” That would have been my worst nightmare.
Thank goodness it didn’t overflow - another flush and everything was ok. Phew - close call. (Mr. Bee won’t even know that story until he reads this blog). Heck in the beginning of our relationship I didn’t even have the urge to go to the bathroom when we were together. I think I was subconsciously able to control my bowel movements.
Of course now I don’t care if Mr. Bee knows when I’m pooing… but I still make him leave the room. My friends tell me I’m being silly because we’re married after all and we should be comfortable about things like this. I guess I’m just bowel shy. 
Would you be able to go to the bathroom if your significant other could hear everything - the good, the bad, and the ugly?
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27 Responses to “Bathroom Anxiety”
I also like to turn on the faucet when I go so that it sounds like I’m washing my hands instead.
The Beard and I talk to each other through the door while we’re in the bathroom. The difference between me and him? I talk through the closed door. He likes to open it a notch or two.
like i said, we don’t keep anything from each other. nothing to hide! we use the bathroom together all the time..
does that make us gross?! i hope it just means we’re comfortable… =oP
My bf and I have been living together for almost two years. We’ve vowed to get a house with at least 1.5 bathrooms when we move so we can have our private times (and avoid any stinkiness).
Some tips I’ve got:
1) Keep the faucet running to drown out any noises (this is great if you don’t have to pay for the water bill)
2) If your cell phone has itunes, play some nice tunes.
3) Or run the shower while you go (plus the water’s hot by the time you go in).
For stinkiness
1) Have a candle burning while you’re home- makes the house house/bedroom smelling great.
2) Keep a book of matches in the medicine cabinet.
3) A small spray of febreeze is great too.
Worse comes to worse- go to the bathroom in the middle of night, when he’s too busy snoring and drooling to hear you or smell you. 
*Quick story: I was visiting my bf’s parents for the FIRST TIME a few years ago and went to the bathroom… and for me, the water DID come back up! OMG, I was mortified. BF had to go and ask his dad for the plunger and didn’t hesitate to point his finger at me!!!! It’s okay; we’re all still friends
glade, running water, door locked.
haha My bf has seen it all and I am not ashamed. We’re really comfortable around each other.
I can pee around my fiance, but i can’t even make myself go number 2 in a public female bathroom when other people are also inside. I have to wait until they all leave… it’s a terrible affliction!
my FI runs the water - he’s always done this. 99% of the time, i only hear water running, and a couple of flushes. we talk about it though - sometimes i make fun of him cuz boys can go multiple times a day. i find that very weird. i dont run the water, but i do spray afterwards…..its just polite. =)
we never close the bathroom door and feel comfortable doing EVERYTHING in plain view. we use the bathroom together everyday. we’ve been together 6 years but started doing this maybe year 2?
I pull up a stool (no pun intended) and my fiance and I would have conversations while he’s doing the deuce…or vice versa.
we’ve been dating for 2+ years and living together since august. i always turn on the vent and sometimes run the water. sometimes even if i’m peeing;-)
i also try to do go right before i shower so that if i’m in the bathroom for a long-ish period of time, he wouldn’t know why i’m in there…
my girlfriends and i talk about this
i think it’s so funny cuz i pee & poop in front of my hubby… with the door open… we will have conversations while i’m on the loo… it’s so natural to me cuz growing up my mom would doo doo & talk like it was nothing…
i may once in awhile light a courtesy match (which btw i always have stocked near the toilet)…
HAHAH at first i was like that but now i don’t even think twice about going to the bathrrom in front of him. i can go pee without even closing the door but if it’s the second one, um, i’ll close the door. i can’t believe u still can’t go to the bathroom after being married over a year!! how is that possible? i think by the time i’m married, we;re going to be comfortable to do just about anything in front of each other. hmm…maybe we’re too close!
def no! =)
i had a similar story about an overflowing toilet. i was only going number one in his apt in SF (very early on in our relationship) and it clogged!!! i was SO embarassed. it was an old apt with old plumbing! =P
we took small steps . . . my fiance and i first started burping in front of each other, then farting. we can pee in front of each other, but as far as pooing goes . . . maybe after we’re married.
When my husband and I first got married I couldnt use the restroom in front of him, not even to go number 1! But eventually I got use to it and its not a problem now! Good luck!
for the first time, i have no problem going to the bathroom. of course he can’t be in the bathroom when i’m doing number 2, but don’t mind if he hears. he makes me feel so comfortable.
this topic the most comments yet~ on pooing!! so funny. but I want to also share. it was gradual for us — for two years i couldn’t fart in front of him, now i have no inhibitions much to the annoyance of my bf. but we’re comfortable with each other now. he even wanted to compare our log sizes once. i said NO.
we do everything in plain view and use the bathroom together. there is only one bathroom at the apartment so we do this usually when we are crunched on time or when we just want to spend more time together. lol.
i think its great that people feel so comfortable around one another, but pooing in front of each other kinda kills the romance a little, no? i personally would like a little mystery around that topic….i dont have to know EVERYTHING.
I have always been shy when it came to number 2’s. I was having horrible stomach problems and had to take a laxative and was spending the night at my bf’s house. There I was, running back and forth to the bathroom, so embarassed hoping that he didn’t hear anything. A few weeks later when I needed to use the bathroom and I asked him to go into the living room he said “Why are you trying to hide it? You don’t like I heard all the noise that night at my house? You don’t have to be shy.” I was soooooooo embarassed, but at least now I know I don’t have to hide it.
Nu-uh, not me! I’m just like you–bowel shy!
I can’t stand going in public bathrooms, either. Just with other woman! It’s quite a problem 
oh emm gee! i’m 13 and i’ve been thinking about that for like when i go to a guy’s house! what if he hears, or like what if it smells?! though i never thought about turning on the vent. that’s actually really smart. and the glade/febreeze. that sounds smart too! but yeah, i would definitely have problems with that. i don’t like going into public bathrooms either, just because what if somone you know is there and they hear you like fart really loud?! haha I know that’ stupid, but still!
I guess I’m like Miss Ant, too. My bf and I don’t live together, but whenever we’re over at each other’s places.. it doesn’t bother either of us to pee or poo. I figured, hey, we’re only human. =) Which brings up another topic-farting.
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not me.. i always make sure i’m in bathroom w/ the door closed and vents on. i also tell the FI to turn the volume up on the tv just in case.