Choosing Bridesmaids
May 30th, 2006 @ 1:26 pm by Mrs. Bee
When choosing bridesmaids, most brides usually consider their friends, sisters, close relatives, and sister-in-laws. I have no sisters and virtually no family in the States so my decision was relatively easy - I chose my three closest friends. My maid of honor I’d known since 10th grade, and my two other bridesmaids since the 7th and 11th grades.
I was lucky the decision was so easy because sometimes it can get quite complicated and sticky choosing bridesmaids (and groomsmen).
How did you choose your bridesmaids? Was it an easy decision?
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initially, i chose my sister, 1 childhood friend, 2 high school friends and a “newer” friend for my bridesmaids. after we decided on a small destination wedding, it made things easier… now i’m only having my sister as my maid of honor (my fiance has one brother, so that makes his choice easy) and those who were supposed to be in the wedding party are now our only guests besides family.
it was pretty easy for me. i chose my 4 friends i grew up with since grade school, my cousin, and one gf who’s been dear to me for the past 5 years now.
I chose 4 ladies. One I’ve known since high school, the others since college. I didn’t choose any family which caused a problem with a family member. I chose my bridesmaids because I value their friendship, the impact that they have had on me, and most importantly they hold me accountable.
I chose my sister as MOH, my two closest friends since college, and my 15-year old cousin as a jr BM. The cousin was my mom’s idea. I agonized over it b/c I was a flower girl for my cousin’s mom and my parents wanted me to return the favor. Of course, I caved.
I choose my 3 best friends from home and 3 of my friends from college Because Im the first to be married among all my college friends it was a big deal and in the end I couldnt imagine it any other way
without a doubt, i knew my maid of honor was going to be my best friend. after some consideration, i decided to ask my closest cousin will be my matron of honor and one of my closest friends to be my bridesmaid. with 9 months and counting to my big day, my friend backed out on me b/c she got engaged and was worried she would be too overwhelmed. now i’m at my 3 month mark & i have yet to find a replacement!! it’s too late to ask a friend b/c they KNOW that they are back-ups. and i’m not too confident about asking another cousin. the worst part is that i have until next week to decide b/c that’s the deadline for ordering my bm dresses!! i know i don’t have to find a replacement and can have a uneven bridal party, but my FI would really like for to have an even party. i’m not upset with my friend at all, but she really screwed me over!
I’m facing a tough situation….if I make one future sis-in-law a bridesmaid, would it be a very stupid move if I don’t make the other future sis-in-law a bridesmaid too? I’m close to one, but not the other. And I only want to make the people I’m close to part of my bridal party. That’s so important to me. (My two best friends will be my CO-Maids of Honor). But I feel it would start the official “In Law” relationship on a bad note if I leave the other sis out. What to do? Please help!
J, I would say, if you have room in your bridal party to go ahead and ask the other future sis-in-law. Asking her may not be your ideal, but not asking her may cause more problems than you’d like.
i was pretty easy for both my hubby & i 
i see others & i get a headache for them…
my hubby’s friend is have 3 bestmen… i say… do whatever you want… it’s your day… the next question that always comes with that is… “who’s standing next to you ” hubby’s friends is doing a good thing… one person stands next to him, one plans the bachelor’s party, one plans the engagement party… and everyone’s happy
My 2 younger sisters are my MOH and 3 friends from college are my BMs.
My sisters are a bit too young to help out with any planning (still in their teens), but I don’t care whether or not they can fulfill the so-called MOH role or responsibilities. I love them and they mean the world to me!
On the other hand, 2 of my BMs in NYC have helped with most of the planning, dress shopping, and DIY projects. They’re the best! =o)
THanks for your suggestion M!
J, if I were in your situation, I would definitely ask the other sister-in-law to be in my wedding party. Your other sil would probably be hurt (at least a little) if you didn’t ask her. it’ll also be a great opportunity for you to get closer to your other sil. =)
Very true… Mrs. Bee! Thx!
Mine was difficult. I chose my best friend as MOH (easy!), my SIL (courtesy), but I couldn’t decide on the last one. I waited until 3 months before I asked! I had many friends, but I wanted to keep my bridal party small.
In retrospect, I regret choosing my SIL as a BMs. She didn’t really know what are the responsibilities of a BMs and didn’t care to learn. That meant my other 2 BMs had to split the responsiblities between 2 instead of 3! (I love them!!!) To top it all off, my SIL got completely wasted at my wedding and threw a huge drunken fit. Now everyone thinks she’s CRAZY!
My fiance wants me to have his sister and sister-in-law as my bridesmaids. I’ll have his sister as my matron of honor, but I don’t really know his SIL that well plus I’d be leaving out a cousin or good friend of mine in order to have his SIL. Is that terrible to not invite her to be a bridesmaid? Should I just bite the bullet and ask her so that we don’t start off on bad terms?
I chose my sister and my best friends from different periods of my life: high school, college, grad school, for my bridesmaids.
Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
mine was pretty easy. i chose my 3 best friends!