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Invitation Wording

June 23rd, 2006 @ 1:03 pm by Mrs. Butterfly

I haven’t been able to figure out how to word my invitations. I know that whoever technically pays for the wedding gets to “host” the wedding on the invites - but I want my invitations to be a little more casual. So here are some options that I researched. Tell me which one you like best.

Option 1

The pleasure of your company
is requested at the marriage of
Ms. A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
on Saturday, the date of November
two thousand and six
at half past hour in the afternoon
Twenty Four Fifth
New York City

Option 2

Miss A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding (or marriage)
at half past hour o’clock
on Saturday, date of November
two thousand and six
at Twenty Four Fifth
New York City

Option 3

Ms. A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
invite you to share in the joy
as they celebrate their wedding/marriage
at half past hour o’clock
on Saturday, date of November
two thousand and six
at Twenty Four Fifth
New York City

What do you guys think? I know none of the parents’ names are on there. My parents are helping me pay for the wedding - but it’s not hosted by them either. And I really don’t like the traditional wording that goes - “Mr. and Mrs. Daddy Butterfly cordially invite you to the marriage of their daughter, Miss butterfly to Mr. butterfly…etc.” It’s way too formal for my taste!

If anyone else has any other suggestions, please let me know!

Which wording do you like best?

  • Option 3 (51%)
    Option 3 -> 51% (94 Votes)
  • Option 1 (29%)
    Option 1 -> 29% (53 Votes)
  • Option 2 (21%)
    Option 2 -> 21% (38 Votes)

Total Votes: 185

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12 Responses to “Invitation Wording”

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Mrs. Bee

We worded ours: “Together with their families, Miss and Mr. Bee…” because we wanted to acknowledge our parents/families but not have a super formal sounding invitation.

 
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MB

All sound good, but I think there may be a typo in the last one…

invite you to share in the joy

Should it be “share in their joy”?

 
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Josephine

I like the word marriage better than wedding. Wedding sounds more like the event you go to (i.e. “I’m going to a wedding.”). Marriage is the bond/committment that is being celebrated (i.e. “I’m getting married.”) Just a thought.

 
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Monica

If you want to include the parents somehow, you could use the wording “together with our/their parents/families”… just a thought!

 
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Andi

i thought about adding “together with their families,” but if anyone’s parents get acknowledged, it should be mine, since they are paying for half of the wedding. right?

 
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Ariel

I like option one because it looks better if your names are closer to the middle of the invite. (because usually the names are a bigger and/or different font)
Adding ‘together with their families’ is a good idea too…

 
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Nhi

Miss Butterfly: Here is a link to many other variations. Hope it helps!

http://www.verseit.com/VerseIt_Verses.cfm?SR=1

 
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kamilotte

How about Mr. & Ms. Butterfly, and their parents, invite you to share in the union… etc.?

 
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Aliya

I highly suggest using wedding rather than marriage (unless you say marriage ceremony). Because you aren’t inviting everyone to be at your MARRIAGE for the rest of your lives…just an event (wedding) that will take place at that time.

Even though my Fiance’s parents are paying for the wedding I included both our parents names. I also wanted to include the name of my Deceased father. So I said “[my name] daugher of [my dad and my mom] and [fiance's name] son of [his dad and mom] request the honor of your presence at….”

 
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shelley

some more suggestions -
http://swoozies.com/tabid/552/Default.aspx
http://www.invitationconsultants.com/sww-bride-and-groom.asp

If you want something more casual (but not cheesy or cutesy), what about -

We invite you to be with us
as we celebrate our new
life together
Ms. A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
Please join our family and friends for our wedding on Saturday…

Please celebrate with us
Ms. A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
as we begin our life together
on Saturday…

With joyful hearts
we request your presence
at the ceremony uniting
Ms. A. Butterfly
and
Mr. J. Butterfly
on Saturday…

 
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joy

We are all sharing the “burden” of our wedding and we wanted our parents’ names mentioned so we went with the following–even though it doesn’t say specifically who is hosting.

Joy
daughter of X and Y lastname

and Fiance
son of X and Y lastname

invite you…blah blah blah

We went fairly casual, we didn’t write out the numbers and I didn’t say Mr. and Mrs lastname because I wanted my mother’s name and my FMIL’s name on the invite as well. Tradition schmadition!

 
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total nerd

option one is passive voice “your presence is requested…” grammatically makes some people cringe.

 


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