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I am now a bridezilla — where’s my damn crown?
Today I had my first total meltdown where I was all snarly, then cried. Mr. Caterpillar took the brunt of this, and to his credit, he was magnificient.
Why so crazy, Miss Caterpillar?, you ask.
Invitations. That’s what.
As every good little weddingbee knows, invitations have about a thousand moving parts. They force you to put down, in permanent form, the structure of your wedding. Timing, locations, ancillary events get set in stone — or rather the modern day equivalent which is the non-refundable $4,600 you just gave that letterpress printer. Then you need to plot out about a thousand maps, and strategically create a response card that will actually GET YOU A RESPONSE. And don’t forget, it has to be pretty.
Our invitations need to be out in early July. And so far? We’re still hashing out the ceremony time. Everyone wants something different. “It will be too hot, Miss Caterpillar!” “It’ll be too cold, Miss Caterpillar” “I think the whole thing should be over in 4 hours, Miss Caterpillar.”
Oh, and I called my venue last week to ask when I could hold the rehearsal — we need a time for the rehearsal dinner after all. THE LINE WAS DISCONNECTED. I call back about 10 times, just in case I misdialed the first 9. No. Nothing. Still disconnected. Somehow, I find the home phone number of the woman who runs the venue. I leave a message. She calls back three days later — THE VENUE IS CLOSED. THEY CAN NO LONGER HOLD WEDDINGS. But, they’re making an exception for mine since it’s in September.
Did you hear that sound? No? It’s because there is no sound when YOUR HEART STOPS. Also, the NY Bar is in a month, and I’m still working on memorizing the degrees of conspiracy or whatever.
So, today I had a big ol’ freakout and started to cry, and Mr. Caterpillar stepped up and said he would take care of the invitations. He’s now busy reading through a Martha Stewart Weddings for ideas on wording. And the sweetest thing? He actually made a little list of things he had to do, and said, “This is hard! Thanks for planning everything else.”
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Hang in there! Sounds like you’re not being a bridezilla, you’re just being human.
Oh my gosh! I don’t think anyone can blame you for having a meltdown over that. And what a fantastic fiance Mr. Caterpillar is! Glad you haven’t lost your site, at least. 
keep your chin up! your wonderful other half is stepping up to help now. it sounds like no matter how stressful life (or wedding planning) gets, he will be there to make everything a little easier for you. =o)
and i can’t believe that they discontinued their number without contacting you first about what was going on!!! i would have just about died… aaahhh
It sounds to me like you are doing great, as is your fiance! I am so impressed you are planning a wedding during the summer of the bar. Now, get back to studying!
Oooh 
I completely feel your pain! And I’m so glad for you that your fiance (as mine was, too) is so fabulous and supportive and patient during the trying times!! He’ll make a great husband! Hang in there - it will be MORE than worth it in the end!!
So you’re on a tight deadline with the invites and everyone is still arguing about what time to hold the ceremony, your wedding venue CLOSED DOWN without calling you or letting you know you were the exception, and on top of all that you’re getting ready to take the Bar?
Honey, most of us would have broken a couple crises back.
Bridezilla isn’t the woman who has an emotional reaction to too many things going too wrong at once; she’s a manipulative control freak who can’t allow anyone else to have an opinion and assumes the rules don’t apply to her. Bridezilla you ain’t.
Kudos to Mr. Caterpillar for stepping in and letting you know he appreciates all the other hard work you’ve done. Sounds like you’ve got yourself a hell of a guy, there!
Now relax for a little while, breathe, and come out prepared to deal with the insanity and joy of planning your wedding. You’re going to be just fine.
Best of luck with the Bar!
OMG - my heart DID stop when you wrote that. eesh!!!! i would totally freak out. you are not a bridezilla - just human.
anyway, isnt it wonderful that he finally realized how hard it is to plan a wedding? i’ve asked my fiance to do the maps and the hotel reservations for the OOT guests, and he’s still taking his sweet time. i think i will send him this post - just so he appreciate how hard it really is.
my heart stopped for you when I read that!!! oh my, not a ounce of bridezilla there.
i’m glad your fiance jumped right in to alleviate the pressure, it must be so cute that he’s flipping through the wedding magazines… imagine he’s doing that on the train!
OMG, my heart did stop beating when I read that the venue is closed. Is that the venue for your wedding or just the rehersal dinner? Well, hang in there, you’re not being a bridezilla, these types of things would get to anyone.
a) you are so not a bridezilla; b) your fiance sounds wonderful!; and c) there is no bride in the world who could reactly calmly to news that her venue had closed. especially after days of not knowing what was going on.
i am so glad to hear they are still honoring your wedding date.
Don’t worry, I know how you feel. But for someone who took the California Bar last summer. Once mid-July hits, you need to stop most of the wedding planning and focus on the Bar =) Good luck
You are so lucky Mr. Caterpillar is so helpful! My caterer cancelled on me yesterday morning, and I have barely 3 months till the wedding. Luckily my Matron of Honor earned her title by calling a new company and helping me get the ball rolling, since I couldn’t seem to talk about it without crying. Last night the best my fiance had to offer was a glazed look of disappointment when I informed him how much this change might affect our very tight budget. Well, technically the best he had to offer was a good back rub, but a little assistance would be good too.
oh mi god!
I did feel my heart stop. I am so sorry!!
wow i cannot BELIEVE that about your venue. but if they’re still operating, why is their number disconnected???
You’re not being a bridezilla! I would freak out too!
As a law student myself I cannot imagine how you are juggling planning a wedding and preparing for the bar. You are a trooper!! If you can successfully handle these two major life events going on at the same time (and it sounds like you are doing a beautiful job), there is no end to what you can accomplish in life. You are hearby granted as many emotional breakdowns as you need. Keep truckin’ honey!
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Mrs. Caterpillar, New York/CA
Age and Occupation in 06: 28, Corporate Attorney to be
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Musician
Engagement Date: March 9, 2006
Wedding Date: September, 2006
Venue: Rooster Point
About Me: I don't like Jeff Koons, mushy corn, or the unnecessary diacritical marks the New Yorker adds to words like cooperative. Also, I'm an obsessive compulsive when it comes to crafts. And not just the ordinary kind of obsessive compulsive who needs to have everything even and aligned. No. I've gilded the heads of pins to make sure they looked properly antique. Gilded them. Then coated them in german glass glitter. I am that crazy.
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