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wow. I didn’t read those comments, but they sound pretty bad.. I just wanted to say that i never thought you sounded “tacky” or whatnot.. I just thought you found a way that worked for you. Don’t worry bout them. do your thang.

Wow… people are really mean.. you can probably bet that they are the ones that are “bridezillas.”

So, I read weddingbee allllll the time, but I don’t really comment. In fact, I don’t think I ever have before. I really enjoy all of the posts, including the ones about money as well as all the others.

There are always some people who feel the need to express their judgemental attitudes to people who are just trying to be open about their lives. By writing a blog, yup, you’re opening yourself up to critiques from the assholes, but you’re also opening your heart and mind to the rest of us, those of us who really appreciate getting another perspective, or having our own perspective validated.

If it was up to me, I’d take cash from almost all of my wedding attendees because there’s not that much STUFF I need right now, but I’d love to be able to get my landscaping professionally done or start my second bathroom fund (though I do want really nice wine glasses). So it’s nice for me to hear that I’m not the only one who thinks that way.

So thank you for your honesty - I hope you keep sharing, despite a couple of jerks.

Why do people who have a problem with what you posted about not wanting to register for some fancy stuff you don’t need, but don’t take issue with the whole practice of registering in general? YOU didn’t think up the weird custom of telling your guests what to buy you. If there is anything which says “I expect a gift” it’s registering. Furthermore it seemed to me that you were thinking mostly of your guests when considering whether or not you should. So screw all the nasties. They are probably the one’s with filthy rich spinster aunties picking up the tab, but for the rest of us, it’s hard not to consider the reality that by having a big wedding we are probably putting off a lot of other things - buying a house or living without soul crushing debt.

I didn’t get to see the comments or the post. but as bloggers, we all know there will always be positive and negative feedback. as fellow brides-to-be i find each and every entry helpful and inspiring. we are writing out opinions and thoughts of our most important day to help organize our minds and feel a bit of relief from the overwhelming stress. don’t let what anyone says get in the way of expressing yourself.

I’m so sorry you had that experience wit b*tchy comments—It really is amazing how smarmy some of our fellow brides-to-be can be–takes the fun out of it for all of us and gives us nice gals a bad name! Don’t let it get to you, though–I don’t disagree with anything you said in that other post. Brides should register for things they’ll need and appreciate, and sometimes those things can’t be found on a traditional gift registry. Personally, I think that by not registering for much, you can rather politely convey that you’re looking for off-registry gifts of some sort (be they dance lessons, cash, or a meal out at a nice restaurant).

Again, I’m really really sorry that those other girls got you down, but don’t take it personally–most of them wouldn’t dream of saying such mean things in real life, I”m sure!

I’m sorry you received such hateful and rude replies.

I too quickly learned my lesson on theknot about posting anything about money.

Miss Spider: Your post about the registry put in words what crosses the mind of most couples out there planning their day. I appreciated your honesty and your funny twist on the matter.

Don’t let the haters get you down.

you can’t win. we haven’t set up a registry yet because our apartment is way too small to pile more stuff into. it’s our intention to set up a honeymoon registry when we decide where we’re going but at this point - when the wedding is OVER A YEAR AWAY - i’ve already encountered grief from people who were all up in arms that we haven’t registered for anything at all!

as for the poopy pants posters - aren’t luxury non-necessity items great gifts? i agree with joy - the haters have better luck posting at the knot. wedding bee is all about the luv.

Oh Sandi I didnt get to see the post or the comments but that was so unnecessary It is your wedding (yours and Stinkys) and you can do anything you want so dont let negative people get you down Youre going to have a fabulous wedding and be a beautiful bride =)