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Hi,

Recently my BM asked me to compose a list of who to invite for my potential shower. But aside from my friends, who should I invite? My fiance is pretty close with some of his cousins — should I invite them? And I can’t just include some of his cousins, I’d have to invite all of them, right? I’m just concerned about making them feel obligated to attend and/or getting me a gift.

Thanks,
rm

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Hey Rm,

This one is pretty easy, though it does require a bit of thought and planning. You should invite your fiance’s cousins to your shower if they are also invited to the wedding. All of the women who are invited to the wedding should all, technically, be invited to the shower (so you’ll need to think about who makes the list and who doesn’t). The exception would be those who live a long distance away and won’t be able to attend, however, depending on your relationship, you may want to invite some of them out of courtesy anyway.

Without knowing the dynamic of your family, it’s a bit harder to answer this question, but I would probably say that yes — if you invite one cousin you should probably invite them all. If they cannot attend, then at least they know they were included and that you wanted them to be there. I’ve usually found that in situations like this when I did not want to “burden” others with obligations or gift giving responsibilities, they were usually more hurt by not being included.

Of course, nothing is written in stone and different situations may require different responses, but this is just my point of view (which I should remind you is NOT at all based on anything but my opinion and my own self-annointed wedding junkie status).

shower the people you love with love,

Erica
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