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The bouquet toss can be fun, but some of my girlfriends have told me they’re not that crazy about being singled out and asked to fight over the bouquet, so I don’t want to make them do something they wouldn’t enjoy.

Bouquet toss- No. Based on the dynamics of my guest list, most female guests are married. I don’t want to put my handful (around 4) of single girlfriends on the spot by having having everyone else watch them fight for a bouquet. Knowing them I think they would feel awkward about the whole thing!

Garter toss- No. I think it’s silly and the photos I’ve seen of groom taking off his bride’s garter are truly unflattering!

And I swear I’m not a prude or as boring as I sound!=P

I’m doing the bouqet toss, but I’m inviting all the female guests to participate because the ‘winner’ will get a goody bag, not a garter slid up their leg. We’re not doing the garter toss. It’s just too embarassing to imagine my parents watching my then-husband fumbling under my dress.

We are doing both. Instead of just a normal bouquet toss, however, I am going to use a break away bouquet, which will split into 3 or 4 separate bouquets. I will be having a bunch of single girls there, and my fi has some goofy groomsmen, and they’re excited about who will get the garter! I think it will make some fun pictures!

bouquet toss? No. no. no. no. I call it the ritual humiliation of the single women. I guess it all depends on your friends, but in the weddings I’ve gone to, no matter how single or coupled the guests–no one enjoyed the bouquet toss on the receiving end.

I have been called up by name to “catch” the bouquet as I was trying to object concientiously and not participate (Joy? Joy? Get out here). My other friend still thinks that I “fought” for her bouquet–it fell on the floor the first time she threw it and I (and another friend) felt bad for her.

Re: the garter toss? I can’t imagine doing this.

Not doing either. Most importantly, we’re trying to plan our wedding as a party and not as a traditional wedding (we’re not having a cake, we’re not having assigned seating, and speech making will be kept to a minimum). Instead we are planning a fabulous party where we get married. We decided early on that we did not have to follow any “rules” or “traditions” as we planned our day. Secondly, I’ll be 35 when we get married and I’ve been to a ton of weddings as a single gal and never, ever enjoyed being mocked because of my unmarried status.

I don’t think the bouquet toss is humilating! What’s wrong with being single??? We’re going to do both. At a friend’s wedding a month before our engagement (before I even knew he was thinking about it), I caught the bouquet and my fiance caught the garter. There were no fights among the girls, but there is a great picture of my fiance DIVING for the garter. Turns out he had been planning on proposing for months and felt like he had to get the garter or else. So cute.

We did both. I had my bouquet split into 4 parts (3 to toss and one to give to my mom to put on my dad’s grave). I had also emailed all my single gal friends ahead of time, encouraging them to take part in the tradition. (I hate when the single gals have to be dragged onto the dance floor for the toss.) They happily obliged.

The couples at our church have added a wallet toss (for the men) in substitution of the garter toss. We’ve also started a tradition of slipping a benjamin in the bouquet and the wallet. This gets all the people out on the floor.

Probably neither (haven’t talked to the fiance about the garter).

I agree that the bouquet toss makes everyone involved generally uncomfortable. I thought of reconstituting it as a “get lucky” bouquet, just to make it silly and something we’d all want to get our hands on. I’m sure it would be awkward to have a bridesmaid fighting an old aunt over who’s gonna get some later that night…