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I hate it when random people ask me how my wedding planning is going. Ok - I know they are trying to be polite and interested, but sometimes I wish they didn’t care. I’m not talking about family members or friends. I am talking about random coworkers; the ones you are not very close with.
It’s like asking “how are you?” - unless it’s someone close to me, my answer is always going to be “fine.” My answer is the same when someone asks me about the wedding planning - it’s fine, thank you, stop asking me that every time you see me!!!
Plus, I don’t like talking about my wedding at work because I am not inviting anyone from work - except for 2 ex-coworkers. What would happen if I constantly talked about the wedding, only to give people the impression that they are invited? Ok, maybe that’s just my paranoia.
But seriously, does anyone else get bothered by this? Is it just me?
I can’t stand it. Its constant, never ending.
Let me breath people! I get it at least 3x a day.
I know how you feel, I’m not inviting one of my coworkers and she use to ask me every other day how the planning was. She was clearly trying to get all the info so she can crash my wedding! arg..luckily for me, I chose not to work this summer so i don’t have to see her..but when i visited my coworkers the other day, she asked me again!!!!! we don’t even socialize at work…
Well, it’s 16 months until our wedding day, and although we’ve been engaged for almost 4 months, we just started doing things now. You wouldn’t know that from the way people have been questioning me. ME, not him! I mean, I know he’s the MAN, and usually men aren’t as invoived in the planning, but come on, man. Sometimes I want to be like, I’ll get back to you when I have something planned, okay? I’m losin’ it. Really.
There is one girl who I see maybe once a month socially. I have known her less than a year. And for whatever reason she thinks she is invited to the wedding. And when ever I see her she mentions it right away, and how exciting it all is. I have stopped talking about it around her because I don’t want her to bring it up anymore. I hardly think that her happening to meet me the year I’m getting married garners her an invitation. Grrr.
It’s pretty common to have that question come up when you’re engaged. But don’t get annoyed or suspicious. I’m pretty sure that your co-workers are just trying to be friendly and make small-talk… not trying to get on your nerves or get invited to the wedding.
Some of my coworkers were genuinely interested. So I would answer truthfully, and we’d end up talking for a bit and getting to know each other better.
If some people obviously don’t care and are just going through the motions, then just say “Fine” and change the subject. Easy. Don’t let it get to you or anything.
Hmmm.. after reading the above comments, maybe it’s not so unreasonable afterall to be suspicious of people trying to crash? I guess my case is different because I’m having a destination wedding, so people are okay with not being invited and want to find out how planning is going anyway.
do they know that they’re not invited? maybe they keep asking so that they can figure out if they will be getting an invite or not… hmmm…
oh, believe me you’re not the only one. i can tell that ppl ask just to be polite. but i don’t need them to be polite! quite annoying!
i think for the most part “THEY” want to be invited… and they feel that if they ask enough they’ll get the invite… and then like miss ant said… they are genuine…
it’s like being asked… “how’s married life?” now that i’m married, “when are you going to have kids?”
so how’s wedding planning? 
I have one co-worker who repeatedly asks if I have set a date yet, even though I always answer the same date every time.
They’re probably just trying to be friendly and make conversation and they know that’s a big part of your life right now so they assume it’s an easy thing for you to talk about. Don’t be so hard on them.
Oh, just wait! After the wedding it’ll be “How’s married life?” followed by “When are you having kids?” followed by “When are you having your next kid?”
i Hate that question! i hate it even more when uninvited coworkers start babbling about their own wedding experiences…in india…with 4500 guests… um.. i just don’t care!!
i have a co-worker who has asked me every question about the wedding, while invading my personal space (seriously, two inches from my face) and says, “show me, now, online!” i don’t know how to politely tell her, “i don’t want to show you.” she’s very pushy and loud, and she knows i’m having a very small wedding, that only immediate family and close friends are invited to, but still presses for all the details, adding “let me know if you need help. seriously, i know i’m not invited, but no ulterior motives. really.” it just creeps me out.
in addition to my comment above, miss ant, i’m also having a destination wedding, and i wish my co-workers were as understanding as yours. the girls at work seem to take it personally that i’m not inviting them to a wedding that some of my own relatives aren’t invited to, just because i see them everyday…besides, i’ve only been working here for 2 years, so i don’t know any of them all that well…at least not enough to include on my small guest list.
Oooh my goodness…I totally know what you mean. I’ve had one random person who saw my engagement ring, proceeded to ask when the wedding was, AND even asked me “can I come to your wedding?”. OMG..I didn’t even know her!
People are so funny..but I guess when it’s talk about wedding…people who don’t even know you are giddy for you.
I guess…from now on..you’ve got to just smile, say thank you…and hope that they don’t keep asking you questions.
The golden rule (that i picked up early) is: don’t talk about details of your wedding to ANYONE who is NOT invited.
I also have a dilemna because there are some girls I know from the past (who i don’t keep in contact with and don’t even consider them acquaintances anymore) and automatically assume the role of an old friend.
hmmm….what is the best way to give the HINT that “umm..yeah you’re not invited”
Man. i wonder if own men deal with this kind of stuff.???
sometimes people just know that its an easy conversation starter. they want to talk about something they know is important to you. don’t hold it against them.
They just have nothing else to say…. And that’s all they know about you… because people freakin talk. Ugh….
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