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I’ve raved about Lotus Bridal before, but tonight the only thing stopping me from hugging the shit out of owners Wendy and Katie was the fact that I was kinda sweaty from all the excitement.
First of all, my dress …*sigh*… is soooo beautiful. When I put it on, I actually felt really calm, like all was finally right and everything is meant to be the way it is. I truly had a zen moment. I was calm as hindu cows.
I can’t post pictures. I’m so sorry. Mr. Spider is my biggest blog fan so I just can’t risk him getting a sneak peak of me in my dress.
BUT… I will show you pictures of the SECOND gown I bought tonight for my engagement photos. I told Wendy about my dilemma and told her that I wanted something totally different from my wedding gown, something tight and sexy, perhaps a mermaid style. Oh my angel Wendy disappeared into a back room and came out holding two white mermaid gowns, IN MY SIZE. She said because of their size, a lot of their customers pass it over so they have been keeping them in their back room for a future sample sale. I liked the first one I tried but I wanted to scream out loud when I put the second one on. The best part? Wendy sold it to me for sample sale price. That’s when I got all sweaty and wanted to hug her. She looked a little scared so I didn’t do it haha.
It needs to be hemmed a little but fits fine otherwise. Now, are you ready for the price tag?
$175
Yeah baby, I know you wanna run to Lotus Bridal right this second and hug Wendy for me right? Haha, well if you do, tell her Sandy sent you~!!
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Mr. Spider just got home and looked at the pictures. He made a nasty face and then said “what is that neck thing? how are you going to wear this outdoors?” Now, that’s what you call an effing KILL JOY. I just went from extreme high to extreme LOW. I said “you don’t like it?” and he didn’t reply. I said “this is exactly the dress I imagined myself wearing while walking down the cobblestone streets at the South Street Seaport and through the grass at Central Park.” He rolled his eyes. Why don’t grooms understand how much their opinions damage brides? It’s one thing not to be involved but it’s quite another to be malicious. I’m holding back tears so badly right now I just want to go back down my well.
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You already know how fabulous I think you look in that dress! But I’m almost certain that your fiance will love the dress when he sees you in it in person. He’s probably having a hard time appreciating it because the photos are small and you can’t really get a sense of the details or the material or the way it moves.
I actually took Mr Ant dress shopping with me, and he was surprised by how different his opinions were after he saw them on me in person!
Awww Miss Spider I’m so sorry! 
It’s possible it wasn’t the particular dress Mr. Spider saw you in, but just his shock at seeing you in a wedding gown at all–a lot of emotions could’ve been going through his head at the time: surprise at seeing actually seeing you in a dress, the feeling that hey–this is real!, and for all you know he was already in a bad mood or something. I’m sure he’ll come around once he has time to adjust–guys are strange creatures like that sometimes.
Please don’t crawl back into your well! But if you insist, can I lower down anything for you? I just had a lovely glass of Arbor Mist sangria–want some? ::hugs::
No offense to the wonderful FIs out there, including mine. But, they sometimes don’t appreciate the little things that makes a bride jump for joy. In your case, this beautiful gown. He doesn’t know that it takes a person with a great figure to pull off a mermaid dress. My sis made me put mine back on the rack since my Mom called me a fish. Then, I opted for a Grecian/Celtic looking dress (LOVE Lord of the Rings), but FI scrounged his nose and that was the end of that dress (not like I was going to choose that dress anyway). I already have my dress picked out and my wedding is not for another 20 months!
I just showed your post to Jeff (my fiance), and he says Mr. Spider needs to learn tact, and be aware of how important these things are to us girls. He also says Mr. Spider came across like a bit of an asshole… ::rolls eyes:: aaah, guys. 
awww… you look amazing! don’t worry about what mr spider said. a lot of the time, guys don’t know any better :P. he probably said that because it’s not a very common neckline for a wedding gown. i mean in every wedding mags out there, i see strapless ones.
miss spider, you look fantastic and super sexy! he’ll get used to it and plus you feel confident in it, that’s all you need hang in there girl!
the girls have spoken! i agree with ms. ant. the guys need to see you in the gown in person, then they’ll see the difference, as compare to just holding up a dress (worse, pictures!) and ask him what he thinks.
my fiance made sure he tagged along during my search for gowns, and he admitted that without seeing me wearing the gowns, he didnt know the gowns are actually beautiful.
but in any case, most gowns look the same to him, so… men! you should know them better: funny creatures with no aesthetic sense whatsoever. nuff said. :p
but hey, its the whole package, once u wear the gown, complete with makeup and hairdo, i’m sure u’ll look divine. trust me 
I know he’s your fiance, but screw what he thinks right now, because I think you look FABULOUS in that dress! It fits you so well, it’s just so beautiful.
what a cute dress. i love it and for the price. dang! too bad its in ny. you look good.
don’t worry once he sees you wearing it, he wouldn’t know what to say. haha. speechless I tell you. lol.
Sandy! You’re fabulous! Hold those tears back, girl!!
You know what! YOU LOOK FABBBULOUS~! So feminine, so sexy, and so classy! And you know, there are times that my fiance gives me an initial reaction of *frown*… “uh… no” when he sees me in something he’s not used to. Exactly, it’s because he’s *not yet* used to it. Sometimes men just don’t understand women’s fashion because there is a lot more variety and you have to admit it can overwhelm the male population because all they know is.. uh.. shirts and pants. But guess what, after I wear the item once or twice, my fiance’s mind starts to open up and his opinion is then changed to “oh.. actually that does look good on you!” So don’t be sad Ms. Oh So Fab Spider! Your e-pix will turn out so beautiful!
Hey Sandi I know I already posted in your blog but I wanted to reiterate what everyone else is saying as well You look beautiful BOys dont understand sometimes the impact their words have but I know that when your all dolled up for your epics and everything Stinky will sing another tune And remember you wear what you love and thats that I hope your feeling better *hugs*
I think you look gorgeous and so is that dress (and the price tag too, of course)!! Don’t let Mr. Spider get to you — he’s a guy!!! They have no tact and *cough* sometimes, no taste either. And you know us girls are nice but there’s always one who wouldn’t hesitate to tell you if something doesn’t look right on you…and no one here has said that about your dress, see?!! When you’re all dolled up with the hairstyle and everything, Mr. Spider will change his tune and you make him eat his words then. =) Hope you’re feeling better! *hugs*
You look so beautiful. The dress is amazing for a great price. I just dont understand where are u wearing this….to a rehearsal dinner. Isnt that a bit fancy? I wore a short cocktail dress to mine…you may feel a little overdone.
That dress is stunning! He’s out of his mind. If that’s the dress you pictured for your photos, then stick with it. After all, you have another dress for the big occasion.
All I have to say is that Miss Spider looks smokin’ in that dress. If that’s what you look like in your engagement pics dress I can only imagine who crazy beautiful you look in the real deal!
Ms.Spider- I’m not getting marry anytime soon but i absolutely LOVE reading this site and your journey planning this wedding. I don’t normally comment but after seeing you in that gorgeous dress i simply cannot resist! YOu look absolutely breathtaking(!!!) I know it would be wrong for me to say “forget what mr.spider thinks” but truth is we [as women] cares about what they think. Because in the end you really bought the dress just so you can see the spark in his eyes when you wear it. I truly hope that mr.spider will see what we, your readers, all see—a absolutely well figured woman in that amazing fitted mermaid dress :]
Miss Spider you look fabu in that dress. So sexy & elegant. Guys just don’t realize how hurtful things they say are sometimes (most of the times). Chin up girl, we all think we look gorgeus in that dress.
Miss Spider - just remember one thing. Men are dumb. Nuff said. Cheer up dear…..you look beautiful in that dress.
awwww…..miss spider…you look AMAZING in this dress! your engagement/studio photos will be absolutely beautiful! sniff…
i know stinky loves you to no end, and when he sees you in the dress in person, he will be blown away…
Sandy you look absolutely gorgeous in that dress. Don’t pay attention what Mr. Spider thinks, go with your own instincts.
May I ask why you are wearing a wedding dress for your engagement photos? I don’t understand…….
Lovin it. That is dress is hot!
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. I feel like I got a hug from every one of you. no words can describe what that means to me. Weddingbee readers, I heart you.
to clarify the need for a second gown: it is common for asian photography studios to include 20×30″ framed enlargements of pictures taken from the engagement/outdoor/studio session. these enlargements are usually placed at the greeting/ escort card table, cocktail room or at the entrance of the reception room. because of their size and quality, most asian couples opt to enlarge photos of themselves in wedding attire. the shoot will take all day so we will be changing outfits a few times so the pics will be a combination of formal and casual.
The dress is absolutely breathtaking! And for $175? I think it will look beautiful for your engagement pictures! Maybe Mr. Spider will come around and change his opinion of it? He probably just has to see you in it in person.
I think you look stunning. You have the perfect body type for that dress! I only wish I were so slim! And what a bargain!!!! just punch mr. spider in the nose to knock some sense into him. just kidding… a little. =)
Not only are you hilarious, you are gorgeous in that dress and I’m sure Mr. Spider will quickly change his tune when he sees how many heads are going to whip around and begin to be drenched in drool while you two walk around central park
very sexy!! i think that this dress will stand out nicely in your pictures and is a great contrast to whatever you have for your wedding day. happy picture taking!!
You look amazing!
You look beautiful and sexy! I love that dress on you! I even think it’s a great wedding dress.
It fits perfectly!
I also got my dress at Lotus Bridal. Wendy and Katie have been great to me and my bridal party as well..
I didn’t even know they had those dresses in stock, or else I’d have bought one as a reception dress…but you look great…
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Mrs. Spider, New York
Age and Occupation: 27, Paralegal
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Advisor Research
Engagement Date: December 30, 2005
Wedding Date: October 2006
Venue: Jericho Terrace - Long Island, NY
About Me: My favorite parts of wedding planning are DIY projects and figuring out ways to incorporate old traditions into a modern affair.
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