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You don’t “need” to bring a gift anywhere. If you feel moved to bring a gift, it should reflect your relationship with and feelings for the intended recipient.
i think you should bring an engagement gift… sometimes people get small things on the registry, or if you don’t feel VERY comfortable, bring a bottle of wine… that should do it…
i had a wedding of 150 guest… i feel that it was pretty intimate… it’s all about inviting the most important people in your life…
it’s a nice gesture but it’s definitely not required. afterall, there’s still a wedding - but if you want to, you can get a gift. and if you do give a gift, don’t be alarmed if the couple don’t open it right away. they may not want to make other people feel bad for not bringing a gift. and it also depends on where the engagement party will be, if it’s at someone’s home - i think it’s nice to bring a hostess gift.. a bottle of wine, or a plant..
chrissie–how about a destination wedding? we’re having ours in vegas and i would say that at the very most, 50 will be attending. also, consider smaller venues such as bed and breakfasts, maybe a brunch reception or perhaps a backyard wedding. but in terms of trimming down the guest list substantially without too much drama, i think it doesnt get any better than a destination wedding.
Chrissie, you should be straightforward with your family about wanting to have a small wedding. It might also be a good idea to offer some good reasons so they understand.
Also, if you book a small venue that has a limited capacity (say 80 max), then it basically draws the line. Or, as Jenn mentioned, a destination wedding! I’m having mine in Jamaica and we’re expecting 50ish guests.
Good luck!
Chrissie, I’m having a small wedding too (around 50 peeps). My mom initially sounded like she was going to invite her entire church, so I quickly was straight with her about my feeling … that I’ve ALWAYS dreamed of a small wedding growing up, and I don’t see the point or the meaning of having people I’ve never even met in my life to be invited to my wedding… that I want to be comfortable being myself at my own wedding, rather than having to put on the “I’m meeting you for the 1st time and I have to act super proper” kind of thingy. I also told her I DO want the few friends of hers who watched me grow up to be there for my big day. So here is the number of spaces allotted to her side ….
I also reminded her of the few other important factors to keep in mind…First, BUDGET (”Mom, each person will cost $xxx much and that’s a lot of money added up to have your entire church there!”), and second, SPACE. I’m picking my venue based on the 50 people + dance floor + a lounge space capacity. So mom, the venue will not allow 50 more people squeezed in there etc etc. My brother who recently got married used this exact reasoning with my mom too and yes it worked. Thank god my mom is respecting my wish and now I get to have the wedding size of my dream. Good luck with your situation Chrissie!
Well, I know I won’t be expecting things for my engagement party. I’m just going to invite the most important people (the prospective bridal party), and our closest family to the dinner, and I’d rather, if they choose to get us a gift, to wait until the wedding, or the bridal shower. That’s just me.
Although, like it’s been said before, it’s not REQUIRED to bring a gift anytime. Your presence is good enough! 
(I’m not very materialistic in the least…heh).
As for an intimate wedding….I’ll be having one. I only plan on inviting about 70-80 people. Only my closest family and friends. I really don’t want strangers there, and I want to be able to spend equal time with ALL my guests, which I don’t think you can really DO with 300 people or something. I don’t know how I’m going to pull it off as of yet, as I haven’t even really begun the actual planning process. 
At my engagement party, we didn’t expect any gifts… as the engagement party itself was a ‘gift’ hosted by my fiance’s fabulous cousin.
But one couple did buy us an ice cream maker with cute ceramic ice cream cone shaped bowls… and an ice cream recipe book! It was such a cute thing….. and my fiance and I definitely enjoyed it…(mango sorbet…)
What are the common “pre wedding jitters?”
I’ve been pretty crazy lately… and everyone says that they’re the jitters…. So, I was just wondering… what is normal?
Open/Beehive Question:
It appears the in-thang is letterpress invitations (which I adore!). What’s the general price difference between letterpress, thermography, and engraved invitations? What do you ladies prefer?
Also, is it more economical to have the envelopes printed (letterpress or otherwise) compared to having them addressed by a calligrapher?
So many choices!
Do you know where I can find instructions on how to add crystals onto flip flops?
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Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
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