Male Bridesmaid

I cannot remember for the life of me, if I’ve already mentioned this before.

My wedding party consists of 1 Best Man, 2 Groomsmen, 2 Ushers, 1 Matron of Honor, 1 Bridesmaid, 1 Jr. Bridesmaid, 1 Ring Bearer, and 1 Male Bridesmaid. Yes, a male bridesmaid.

J and I have been friends since our freshman year of college. We were both in Chem 1 at NYU, and we took the same lab. We didn’t really talk to each other much during the first few years. Then we both became officers in the Korean Student Association where we bonded, then became good friends. Our friendship really got solid and strong after we graduated college because both of us were living in NJ, and we both work in the health care field. Even though I don’t see him very often, I still consider him one of my best friends.

So, it made sense for him to be a part of my wedding, standing on my side.

But what do I call him? I can’t call him a “Male Bridesmaid” on my program, and he’s not a groomsman, so what do I do? I’ve been researching this, and apparently there is an etiquette for this type of situation! (Thank goodness for the Internet!)

On this website, the proper way to address a male bridesmaid is to call him a “bride’s attendant.” However, the proper way to address a male MOH is to call him a “bride’s honor attendant.” I know he’s not my MOH, but I really like the sound of “honor attendant” better than “bride’s attendant.”

What do you think?


Mrs. Butterfly

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Wedding Date:
November 2006
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    Calvin, Guest @ 4:24 pm

    I’m in the same situation as J, and my official title for the program is “Bridal Attendant.” What are you doing in terms of dress for that day? we’re trying to come up with some ideas.

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    Jean, Guest @ 9:58 am

    I don’t know why people are still answering on this topic, as the question was in 2006 and may be they are already divorced !
    I am a man but if any close (girl) friend asks me to be her bridesman or bridesmaid I will be very honoured and will accept it from the heart.
    And I will be named how she wants it and will be dressed how she wants it. If she wants me to be her bridesman in a tuxedo or in a t-shirt, I will do. And if she wants me to be her bridesmaid in a simple skirt or wearing the same bridesmaid or evening dress as the other bridesmaids, I surely also will do.

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    Lindse, Guest @ 1:11 pm

    We are in the planning stages, and I will be having a man stand by my side. Haven’t totally decided yet what we’ll be calling the position. I’ve come up with a few ideas, but I will also be asking him what he prefers. As for dress attire. He’ll be wearing a tux with a vest that matches the girls’ dresses. We are also just going to have two of the guys walk down the isle together. They’ll just walk together with their hands clasped in front of them.

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    Clint, Guest @ 10:23 pm

    It maters not to me what the title is called. Brides attendant is good,Bridal Attendant is good. I wish that some lady would ask me to be in that place of honor and yes I would gladly wear what the rest of the maids were wearing, what ever style of dress there were wearing. I would have no problem with that. Just my two cents worth.

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    diana, Guest @ 8:12 am

    love it! thumps up to you XD

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    julie, Guest @ 8:16 pm

    I appreciate that people are still answering this question. It’s 2012 now, and this is now a situation I find myself in. I’m 46, getting remarried, and I want my only son-age19- to stand up next to me. He’s getting some negative comments from his friends. I just want to get it right, for both of us.

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    Charlie, Guest @ 10:14 am

    I was in my best girlfriends wedding. We had been friends sense we were little kids hell we even made out one summer in highschool a few times lol. but When she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids and then said if I felt uncomfortable I could stand on the other side as a groomsman I refused and said I WOULD love to be one of her bridesmaids. I went to all the bridal parties and did everything with the other bridesmaids and the bride. I was listed in the program as a bridesmaid and wore a suit that matched the girl even carried flowers. I did not feel demasculated in anyway. In fact i loved being there to support my friend in anyway I could because thats what friends are for. Also girls are alot of fun to be around during all this stuff such wonderful energy. thats all I have to say. I did it and I would do it again.

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    Sunflower Bride, Guest @ 10:41 am

    My brother is standing on my side during our wedding. Yes, my brother could easily stand on my FI’s side, but he isn’t as close to my FI as he is to me. I want him on my side to support me. At first he was a little uncomfortable about the idea and said he didn’t care whether he was in the wedding or not. Now, he feels like I asked him because he is important to me and is honored that I think so highly of him to have him stand on my side during one of the most important moments of my life. My sister with be my MOH, I’m having one bridesmaid, and then my brother. My brother will walk out with the rest of the guys and slide over to my side as the ladies walk up to the front of the church. I haven’t decided if I want to call him a bridesman or “the brother of the bride”.

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    Cristina, Guest @ 8:01 pm

    One of my close friends is a guy and he’s going to be on my side. Think I’m going with bridesman. He’s going to wear the same tuxedo as the groomsmen but with a different colored vest and slightly different tie. Also the groomsmen are wearing cowboy boots but he’ll be in shoes.

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    Anna, Guest @ 7:58 pm

    My brother wants to be called ‘the dude’ :)

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