Open Question: Bachelorette Party Etiquette
August 10th, 2006 @ 11:20 am by Mrs. Bee
I’m having a low-key bachelorette party and I was wondering if it’s ok to invite a few friends who aren’t invited to the wedding. These are mainly people who I’m “new” friends with who wouldn’t expect a wedding invite, but whom I really like and would like to share in the girls’ night goodness. Any thoughts?
Amy
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11 Responses to “Open Question: Bachelorette Party Etiquette”
I’ve been invited to Bachelorette parties and not invited to the wedding. I wasnt offened, I may even do the same for mine.
You know your friendship dynamics better than we do. If you think they’ll enjoy celebrating with you, then go for it!
Just keep them in mind the night of, and steer the conversation away from the wedding if it makes them feel left out.
I personally wouldn’t… I find it to be bad ettiquite to invite anyone to anything if they’re not invited to the wedding. After all, if you want them included in the fun of your bachelorette party, you will probably only get closer as friends and you’ll look back and wish you had invited them to the wedding… that’s just my humble opinion.
I say it’s ok. I want to have a large engagement party bash and then a small intimate wedding so am fully intending to exclude a whole gamut of people from the ceremony itself. If the occassion is all about a celebration of your love for your partner, then why can’t you celebrate that with your friends in any way you choose?
i think like miss ant said it depends on your relationship with them.
i know that i am not going to invite people that aren’t invited to the wedding to that or the shower… only because i feel weird about it. i think i would also feel weird about it if i were invited to the shower/party but not the wedding…. but really whatever you do it perfectly ok 
after all, it’s your day!
I think as long as they aren’t offended that you aren’t inviting them to the wedding, then go ahead! The more the merrier, right?
Wow. I definitely wouldn’t appreciate it .
I would only invite girls who are invited to my wedding.
Wow - I think it’s terribly rude to invite someone to an event related to the wedding, but then not to the wedding itself. Just my opinion though!
I’ve been invited to an engagement party, and I’m sure I’ll be invited to the bridal shower and wedding ceremony as well.
Do I bring a gift to the engagement party? And if so, what would you suggest?
Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
Absoluetly! We’re doing the same since we over capasitated our venue. We told friends sorry on the wedding, but we’d like them to come to the bach parties to still be included. Everyone understands the costs included in a wedding nowadays.