Wedding Blog

I knew when we started planning our wedding that there were bound to be ups and downs. Down, down, down, I stumble.

Here is the truncated version of this little hiccup in my wedding experience thus far. When we first started talking to our ceremony/reception venue, their events coordinator spontaneously quit. This dragged out our negotiations as she had made several errors (such as giving us menus with outdated pricing) and it took them a while to hire a new, permanent coordinator. When they did hire someone, I adored her and did flips with glee. I had met her elsewhere and was so happy to have her on board.

Negotiating our contract still took a long time for various reasons. At first it came back to me with a lump sum for how much the wedding would cost, but I was adamant that I wanted the whole thing itemized so there would be no confusion later. We finally signed a week or so ago.

A few days ago I found out that the coordinator I loved so much quit out of the blue. I can’t begrudge her quitting because she obviously had to do what’s right for her, but man does this have me concerned. We will now be working with our FOURTH coordinator at this venue in just a few short months.

All I can hear in my poor little head is, “RED FLAG, RED FLAG!”

Well that and, “Thank god you are so neurotic you had all the pieces itemized in the contract.”

There are little details that the coordinator who just quit was still helping us try to resolve and I am hoping, hoping, hoping that the new woman (who I will meet next week) will be just as wonderful in helping us with all of this. I’m really not much of an optimist normally (that’s my fiance’s job), but what choice do I have? I’m trying to get that pesky RED FLAG voice to shut up and trust that it will all turn out OK. The contract is signed, I can’t really run for the hills, and I’m not really into having an Elvis wedding in Vegas (although I would love to go to one of those!).

I think the moral here is sometimes wedding planning has tulle-filled highs and quitting coordinator lows, but sometimes we just have to let go and trust that it will turn out OK (this is what I keep telling myself, anyway!). Oh, and get it all in writing so you have something to fall back on when your trust only goes so far.