Will you be my groomsman?

I love how Miss Violet asked her friends to be her bridesmaids.

Her bridesmaids were just as surprised as my groomsmen! But I didn’t have a clever plan to ask them… I just sorta mentioned it casually and treated it like no big deal. I just assumed that they would know! I mean, I only have a few close friends… if not them, then who???

But when I asked my two groomsmen, they were both genuinely surprised and excited! I was really touched, and in retrospect – I really regret not making more of a big deal out of asking them to be in my wedding party.

So for any grooms out there reading this: this is the #1 thing that I wish I had done. Forget the groomsmen gifts after the wedding (I mean, groomsmen gifts are definitely something that a girl invented). Definitely make a big deal out of asking your boys to be in your wedding.

If I could do it again, I would buy a cigar or a bottle of port and hand it to my friend over dinner… and say, I hope we can smoke/drink this at my wedding – and I’d be honored if you would be there as my groomsmen. Then after he accepted, we would stand up and give each other the traditional guy hug (a one second hug comprised of a right-handed handshake followed by some left-handed slaps on the back) – then there’d be an awkward pause, and we’d sit back down.

Then we wouldn’t talk about it again, until it was time for the tuxedo fitting. Damn, I definitely dropped the ball on this one…


Mr. Bee

New York City, New York
Wedding Date:
March 2005
Ciao For Now~
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  1. Guest Icon Guest
    elizabeth, Guest @ 7:34 am

    I like it! We did this:

  2. Guest Icon Guest
    Mandy, Guest @ 5:35 pm

    I love it how she told them that they were her bridesmaid though I wasn’t able to experience it on my wedding because I choose not to have bridesmaid.

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