My Week in Review
August 18th, 2006 @ 5:37 pm by Mrs. Grasshopper
Instead of doing seven posts about the various things that have occurred this week in the wedding world for me, I figured I would give you a quick run down of how each day has gone in one post.
Last Friday Afternoon:
After my second dress fitting on Wednesday, I was still very unpleased with the outcome of my dress. This was not a “I have not seen my dress in 8 months” unpleased, but more like a “I look WAY TOO FRUMPY” in this dress unpleased. I bugged out at work and bought this dress from Nordstrom by Nicole Miller online (which actually has a very decent bridal section on their site) in the middle of trying to meet a deadline at work.
During this time, I also discovered a Jenny Lee dress on sale on ebay. OMG! I loved liked this dress when I tried it on at Mark Ingram’s, but kept searching because…I don’t know, I just thought I should.
Last Friday Night:
I get home and bug out on Mr. Grasshopper about this Jenny Lee ebay dress. I talk all night about the dress. Should I buy it? What should I do? I feel like I am cheating on my dress by considering another dress. I worked so hard to find my dress and now I am just going to flat leave it for another pre-worn dress?! Mr. Grasshopper brings me a big glass of wine and I decide against bidding on the dress.
12:20 a.m. on Saturday
Mr. Grasshopper has gone to bed and I make a frantic bid on ebay for the dress. Who cares that this mermaid shaped dress was custom made to fit a girl who is 20 pounds heavier and 4 inches taller? It will be fine! So I (and the wine) make a maximum bid and get immediately outbid even with my maximum amount. I guess some bride wants it more than me. I concluded this is a sign and go to bed.
7:00 a.m. on Saturday
I wake up and immediately check ebay, to see what the dress sold for. A mere $100 more than what I had bid! Sigh.
Saturday Afternoon
I move on with my day and have a super day of banging out wedding tasks all over the place. Mr. Grasshopper and I nearly finish working on our ceremony, when I open my email to search for something and find an email from ebay telling me I have a second chance offer for THE dress because the winner passed on it. OMG! OMG! OMG! What do I do?! Am I cheating on my dress? Mr. Grasshopper brings me more wine. He’s so great.
Saturday Evening
I finally decide it is time to call my Mom and ask her advice since she went to see every dress with me when I was shopping. She thinks I am nuts and cannot understand why I would switch dresses now, but tells me I should do what makes me happy, but first she recommends that I call a dress shop to ask about the measurements, and to also call my dress shop and tell them why I am unhappy about my dress-maybe they can do something she insists.
To me that step seems too practical so I call Mr. Grasshopper’s Mom. She tells me to get the dress on ebay if that makes me happy. With their approving advice, I scurry back to my computer to tell the seller I am in! As I reread the message, I take note that the message says I should contact the seller and not ebay about this transaction. WTF!? I have been scammed! I spent a good three hours deciding if I should get this dress all at the hands of an ebay scam?! Just to confirm, I email the seller through the ebay mail and she tells me that yes, I have indeed been scammed. I am usually so good about detecting scam messages-this dress is making me soft!
Sunday
I report the scam to my Mom, Mr. Grasshopper’s Mom and ebay. Mr. Grasshopper’s Mom does all sorts of dress research for me and finds the Bridal Garden. I check it out online and it looks a bit outdated, but let’s just see in person.
Monday
I make an appointment at the Bridal Garden. Am I cheating on my dress? Why won’t anyone tell me if this means I am cheating on my dress?
Tuesday
I keep staring at pictures of me in my dress. Maybe it’s not so bad after all I start to think…
Wednesday
I visit the Bridal Garden and sheepishly explain to the sales lady why I am searching for a new dress three weeks before my wedding. I almost thought she was going to kick me out when she asked “What happened to your dress?” I walk around and while I think they have some nice options there, I remember why I picked out my dress in the first place.
Then our vendor calls and offers us this bigger tent, opening up so many more possibilities (and tasks).
Thursday
The dress from Nordstrom arrives and it looks… really good :), but now I have stared at my dress pictures for so long I think am pretty happy with my first dress. How did that happen?
Friday
I decide I am holding onto the Nicole Miller dress, just in case… and now I still need to decide about the tent. Doesn’t everyone know all these options are making me neurotic?
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8 Responses to “My Week in Review”
Miss Grasshopper…. breathe! This will all work out, I promise.
First, I am glad that you have a great backup option (the Nicole Miller dress). Remember that.
Secondly, I am certain that you don’t look frumpy in your original dress! But since you’re having serious doubts, why don’t you try to alter the dress to make it more of what you want? You can try something simple, like changing the neckline (sweetheart, strapless), adding a ribbon or sash (under the bust to make it empire, or around the waist), or anything else you can think of!
Third, you have a great guy and you’ve obviously been very lucky in love. Even if you don’t have “the dress” for your wedding, you definitely have found “the one” and true love! So be happy! =o) (And I’m sure you look beautiful in the original dress, really)
wow, you’ve been really busy. i like that nicole miller dress [you can always change into it during the reception if you like] and with all that’s been lumped on your plate, it’s probably a good thing the ebay dress didn’t work out. the last thing you need is another choice. as i like to say, if i have to debate, then i wasn’t meant to buy it.
it’s nice that you have a great support system with the fi and both mothers. just focus on one task at a time. good luck!
Thanks, Ladies! I am glad that the ebay dress didn’t work out. I can’t imagine running around now to try to make this dress fit my frame and I think I really am happy about the original dress now-even if I am holding onto the back up! 
you poor thing. just reading over that makes my head spin. glad you came about on your original dress. i hope it brings you the happiest wedding day ever.
i think if you really can’t decide just wear both! thats what i would do, besides i’m sure you look smashing in your original dress.
on a side note. i too love that jenny lee dress. i never got to try it on but i have no regrets.
and i agree with some of the other people - you could always wear both! heh.
maybe try both on after a hair/make-up trial complete with veil? Maybe it’ll hit you and you’ll know that it’s the one.
Mrs. Grasshopper, New York
Age and Occupation in 06: 28, Interactive Communications
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Product Manager
Engagement Date: October 8, 2005
Wedding Date: September, 2006
Venue: The Foundry
About Me: I like puppies, technology, baked goods and naps. Our engagement went down in Paris on the Alexander III bridge where my fiance nearly dropped the ring into the Seine.
you’re going to end up with like 10 dresses
i’m SURE it’ll all work out in the end…