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There shouldn’t really be a “rule” on how much you should be involved. My fiance claimed that he wouldn’t be very involved, but he likes to be able to put in his input for every big decision we make. Sometimes, we even ask our parents for their opinions as well. So far, he’s been very supportive and we’ve had some tiff about seating arrangements, but we’ve compromised on some things and I think they’ve turned out better than before! If you want to be involved and your fiancee values your opinion, go for it. talk to your lady.

You should ask your wife to be this question. Seriously, I am not trying to sound mean. But it really depends on the woman.

Some women want to do everything and they just want their fiance to be there to be supportive and loving during the process and just handle the traditional things the groom does like the honeymoon.

Other women (like me) are not as into the wedding planning and need their fiances to be more involved or else the wedding will end up being at a Vegas chapel because they can’t deal with all the planning themselves.

And I am sure there are all kinds of levels in between.

My fiance and I made up a calendar of things that needed dealt with and some were assigned to one of us and others were more generally put out there for both of us to work on. So far it has been helpful because at the beginning of the week we look and start working on various things we need to get done.

Just talk to your fiancee and find out her expectations and remember its your wedding too, so if there is something really important to you like the DJ or the food, as your fiancee if you can handle that task or at least be involved with it. I know a lot of people say its all about the bride, but it should be about both you and your love together.

I hope that helps.

As much as your fiancee wants you to be. My fiance is ‘really’ only involved in stuff that ‘really’ matter to him - Honeymoon, guinness at the reception & appliances for the kitchen - (also flatware - weird I know)…other then that he trusts me & knows that every little detail is SOOOO important to me so he is completely fine (and I think relieved) he doesn’t have to get soo involved..

my fiance is involved in that he is the one that keeps his eyes on the budget we’ve set. i also run it by him in terms of anything we buy for the wedding. i think he’s also going to be the one in charge of planning entertainment for hte reception

Definitely ask your fiancee. My FI helps out with the major decisions (except my dress and the flowers) and I can’t imagine doing this whole thing w/o his input.

It’s BOTH of you that are getting married. If you’re excited, let your FI know so she can tell you where you can help her out. You are definitely sweet for wanting to help =)

My fiance is planning the wedding …. i’m just going to show up. I actually have to ask him what he wants me to do

If you’re up for anything, tell your fiancee so. She’d likely want the help, and if she doesn’t want you ‘interfering’ then she’ll probably just give you something more minor. Whatever you do, be willing, and let her know you’re available. Planning a wedding together could really make the wedding about you as a couple, and less about a girly-girls dreams, so really, it depends on who you and your bride are.