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i have yet to go to a joint bachelor/ette party… do it so i hear all about it

Ummm … parties people give FOR you, are kinda about what THOSE people want, not what YOU want. If HIS friends want to give him an “old fashioned bachelor party” — because that’s what THEY want to ATTEND and THROW … I’d advise you to quit your pouting & cajoling & concentrate on the WEDDING. That’s the part YOU have a say in. For the record though — I said etiquitte be damned — I’m throwing my own Bachelorette Party dinner the night before the wedding. Most of my friends & family are from OOT, I don’t have a MOH and I don’t wanna drag everyone to town TWICE. If you MUST HAVE a “Jack & Jill” party - throw it yourself!

i think that mr spider needs to be the one to tell his friends to back down, not you. you shouldn’t even have to hear any of their stupid crap! the bachelor/bachelorette party should, in my mind, is for YOU, not for the attendees. i wouldn’t want to attend a bachelorette party (or want to have a bachelorette party) where there were male strippers, only because that just doesn’t interest me. if you and your fiance don’t want to have that kind of party either, who the hell are his friends to tell you what you have to do? or to make stupid assumptions that you’re forcing him to have a combined event? don’t they know him well enough to know that he wouldn’t just be “yes dear”-ing you if he didn’t want that too? ugh i HATE assumptions!

Tell Mr. Spider to tell his buddies to BACK OFF! If both of you enjoy the idea of a joint bachelor party, then there’s no reason to change your plans. Those other silly boys are simply scared of “not being able to cut loose”. Which is still a sarcastic ‘puh-leaze’ in my book. It’s a celebration that is about you and Mr. Spider. How would you like to hear those boys tell you, “No, I’m sorry, even though I’m a guest at the wedding, your dress just doesn’t match my attire. You’re gonna have to change.” Yeah… that’s what I thought!

i am SO sick of boys saying that they must throw a “proper” bachelor party. and how its all about “saving face” in front of their friends.

also, even tho women think of bach. parties as parties thrown by others FOR us (therefore should respect OUR wishes), men think differently. this is a party in HONOR of the groom, but FOR the retarded boys who are using HIS wedding as an excuse for THIER debauchery.

ugh - tell mr. spider to tell them to back off. if not, he’s not being very supportive. this is something you both want, so tell the boys to shut up and suck it up like a man. they can have their retarded parties when they get married, and you wont say anything then. right? =)

Either way I am fine with the co-ed or segregated BPs, I just hate the obnoxious comments my fiance gets when he tells his boys that we are engaged and they say things like “on a leash eh?”, “fun times are over eh?”, etc. right in front of me…oh well, anyways, I hope things work out for you and Mr. Spider the way you BOTH want it, not what the boys want…

I didn’t buy my wedding dress! I rented out two absolutely gorgeous ones that I could have never afforded besides. And the best part was I could enjoy myself in them without worrying about getting them dirty. And afterwards, just shoved them in a bag and gave them back. Weird huh.

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