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Let’s play a little game . . .
One of these things is not like the others,
One of these things just doesn’t belong,
Can you guess which thing is not like the other
By the time I finish my song?
Could you find the one that isn’t like the others?
Easy, right? Yeah, because one of them sticks out like a sore thumb. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the way it was planned to be. All 5 dresses are supposed to be the same shade- all were ordered in “celestial blue.” Buuutt, 4 of the dresses are nu-georgette (over lining) while 1 of the dresses is chiffon (over satin).
I had enough sense to avoid mixing shiny satins with sheer chiffons. But I never imagined that the “celestial blue” chiffon dress would look so different from “celestial blue” nu-georgette dresses.
My (Lousy) Excuses for Messing Up:
1. After Six and Dessy did not provide any celestial blue sample dresses to the stores
2. I refused to pay $45 + shipping for fabric swatches
3. Both chiffon and nu-georgette are sheer and flowy- I assumed that they would look similar in celestial blue
4. The chiffon and nu-georgette are actually pretty similar in color. It’s the combination of the different sheer overlays and the different materials underneath that make the shades look noticeably different
So… what do I do now?
A. Keep it the way it is- The shade difference is only slightly noticeable. Plus, the chiffon dress belongs to your sister, one of two MOHs, so it’s okay if she stands out. It’s not worth all the trouble to change things last minute.
B. Rush order a new dress that matches- It’s worth the extra effort and money to get the details right. It’d be strange to have just one MOH stand out, especially when you have two MOHs who are equally special.
*sigh* How do I always manage to turn the simplest details into such complicated concerns? 
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My other sister and co-MOH (the nu-georgette one) just emailed me after reading my email and seeing my post. This is what she has to say…
“HAHA you suck”
The little booger! 
Maybe she deserves to demoted to bridesmaid. (just kidding!) Or at the very least given a proper noogie. 
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I’m sorry Miss Ant. it’s no fun to be surprised like that. It looks like one of your dresses has the same trim as the chiffon dress, which helps, but I can understand if that’s no consolation for you. Do whatever in your heart feels right. If you think it will always bother you that the dress is different, get a new one… weddings are expensive so if you can afford to spend the extra cash to not stress about it, do it. But know that if you don’t do it, it really took me a second to see that the dress was what stuck out in the pic!
I voted to switch it out–even though it’s extra pain, money, and hassle, at least when it’s all over you’ll have five identical dresses. I wonder, though, if the difference would really show up in the professional pics? If anyone–even you–will notice, then I think that makes it worthwhile to get the matching one. good luck!
if that one dress fits the MOH, your problem is solved. it would be okay for her to stand out from the BMs.
I voted for you to switch them out. If you had just one MOH, I would say don’t stress, but you don’t want one to feel less special just cause she isn’t blood.
Edits for clarification:
- Each dress is a different style.
- The different chiffon dress belongs to one of my sisters, who is a co-MOH
- I have two sisters, both are co-MOHs
have you discussed this with your sisters? if they feel that it makes one of them “more” MOH, you might want to switch it out.
I would say that if each dress is a different style, no one is going to notice! If it will bother you on the day-of or looking back at the pictures, switch it out. However, if you can overlook what no one else will notice, leave it alone and focus on other things. Either way, it will be beautiful!
I agree with nhung.
Edits for clarification:
- Each dress is a different style.
- The different chiffon dress belongs to one of my sisters, who is a co-MOH
- I have two sisters, both are co-MOHs
Looks like the 2nd dress from the left has a trim made of the same satin/color as the nu-georgette one. Could you put your two MOH’s in those two dresses?
I voted for keep it as is, but I too hesitated before my decision. In the end, I thought about what a wedding really is about.. and it’s a union between two people who loves each other! Simple as that! In the end, people will be talking about the FUN and LOVE they witness at the wedding and not the one dress that sticks out. Plus, if each dress has a different style anyways, the different color is a different style as well.
However, my hesitation came from how your other MOHs may feel. If they have NO problem with one sticking out and making the others feel less “special” then go for it.
In the end, just go with your heart like Miss Lily says and I definitely agree with Jennifer!
A, that’s a good idea. But, unfortunately, that plan doesn’t work because of size differences. The dress with the trim is a size 8 and is for one of my bridesmaids. All the other dresses are sizes 0 and 2, so there’s no way my curvy bridesmaid could switch!
aww 
Could you…get a sash of the same satin and replace the chiffon sash of the dress in the middle, and have your MOH’s wear the completely chiffon dresses on the outer sides?
Whatever you decide to do, it’ll be fine 
Maybe once the dresses are on, the colors will look more similar.
I am wondering if the difference will be as noticeable once they are on the ladies and such. I mean how often are the girls going to be right on top of each other as the dresses are laid out on your bed? Plus I don’t know if your girls have similar skin tones but that could make the dresses look slightly different too.
I think you should just ask the two MOHs how they feel and if they are cool with the differnce don’t sweat it. People aren’t going to be focusing on such a minor difference, they are going to be looking at you more then anything.
All eyes are going to be on you, Missy! If it really bothers you, switch it out. But, your the one everyone will be looking at. And rightly so
I actually worked in the “returns/problems” dept at a well known bridesmaid company in college. Be warned! Chiffons and other sheer fabrics are funny. Even if you decide to exchange the 5th dress, you may end up with a chiffon dress of the exact styling as any of the others, but because you ordered it at a different time, it may still be a slightly different color than the other 4 dresses… dye lot variations, factory variations and just the nature of the fabric means that there are more factors at work here. When I ran into this problem at my job, we would have the customer send back the wrong dress WITH one of the correct dresses so we could guarentee the closest match- which was still not always 100%.
Just something to think about. I’d hold the dress I have and let it be. (we also had a number of brides who were “lucky” that the “off” dress was often the MOH)
Well with all of us voting and still being 50-50 it’s whatever your lil heart desires!
No one will care, even if they do notice — especially since they’re different styles anyway. I say don’t spend any extra time worrying or extra money on it!
Stick with it as is. Especially since the dresses are different styles anyway. I’ve never been a fan of matchy-match bm dresses…it rubs me the wrong way.
Stick with it, add an extra colorful sash, ribbon or something else to make both MOH’s stand out from the bridesmaids as MOH’s
I just made the same mistake and ordered bridesmaid dresses with different fabrics (all from Dessy too). The satin and nu-georgette dresses matched really well, but the one chiffon dress sticks out like a sore thumb. Just today, I laid out all the dresses on my bed to stare at them. That’s when deja vu hit, and I remembered this post. DOH! What’s sad is that I actually made the orders AFTER reading this. How did yours turn out? I know your next post says you kept the dress, but after looking at the wedding pictures you posted, I honestly can’t see any color difference. =)
Im so glad I found this post. I was about to order from dessy too.
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Mrs. Ant, New York/Jamaica
Age and Occupation: 25, PhD Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Finance
Engagement Date: July 26, 2005
Wedding Date: November 18, 2006
Blogging Since: February 15, 2006
Venue: Rockhouse Hotel
About Me: I live in New York but I'm planning a destination wedding in Negril, Jamaica. My fiance and I are high school sweethearts!
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