Mrs. Spider, New York
Age and Occupation: 27, Paralegal
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Advisor Research
Engagement Date: December 30, 2005
Wedding Date: October 2006
Venue: Jericho Terrace - Long Island, NY
About Me: My favorite parts of wedding planning are DIY projects and figuring out ways to incorporate old traditions into a modern affair.
Diamonds are a man’s best friend too?
August 31st, 2006 @ 3:01 pm by Mrs. Spider
Mr. Spider has long said that he wants diamonds on his wedding band. I thought he meant small dispersed diamonds in one of those uber modern bands like this:
Blue Nile: Platinum Burnished Diamond Band
Worried that he might be thinking more along the lines of a P. Diddy blinged out pinky ring, we went down to Chinatown this past weekend to cruise the jewelry shops for ideas. Turns out he was thinking more along the lines of a woman’s diamond band. I kid you not, he grew attached to one that looked very similar to this:
Blue Nile: Platinum Diamond Band (Men’s)
Mr. Spider has somewhat feminine fingers which was confirmed by one sales lady who exclaimed “omigod, he has lady fingers!” So you can imagine how much more feminine the above band looked on his hand. Babe, I told him gently, men with fingers like yours do not get diamond bands like that. Maybe you’re right, he agreed stretching his fingers out in front of him like he just got his nails done. Lord.
Thankfully, he quickly took interest in a few other styles sans diamonds. Who knew there are so many different styles to choose from? Mr. Spider had a grand time trying on different styles but narrowed it down to a few similar to these:
Blue Nile: Titanium Brushed Comfort Fit (only $125)
We won’t get titanium but Mr. Spider liked a few bands that had a grey tint and black outlines.
A. Jaffe: Platinum Comfort Fit
A. Jaffe: Platinum Comfort Fit
Mr. Spider really wants a platinum ring despite their tendency to scruff (my E-ring went from brand-spanking-new-shiny to what-the-hell-happened-to-your-ring in 2 months flat). Several sales people tried to convince us otherwise telling us platinum is too soft of a metal and is phenomenally more expensive than white gold but we are concerned with white gold eventually changing color.
What’s the final word, anyone know?
20 Responses to “Diamonds are a man’s best friend too?”
my fiance actually has something similar to that diamond ring. we got matching ones and his is really tasteful in my opinion. he has such small fingers that rings look better on him hehe 
i don’t think white gold changes colour but if you find out will you tell me?
I know people say that white gold may eventually change color because it’s supposed to be naturally yellow, but I’ve worn white gold jewelry forever, and it’s always stay beautiful, even if I don’t clean it for months! One of the saleswoman at a jewelry store said platinum eventually looks the same as white gold esp if you dont’ care for it well. I told my FI to save the money by buying white gold and using it towards a better quality diamond.
We plan on getting white gold wedding bands, but someone said titanium is awesome for men because it’s so light and you barely notice it’s on there. Is that true?
Have you considered Palladium? My siblings and I just purchased a diamond ring for our mother, and had it set in palladium. It’s a shiny white metal, scruffs less, shouldn’t change color, and is priced between 18k gold and platinum. Maybe this is something weddingbee could do a feature on?
Oh~ I can’t wait for someone to answer all these questions! I’ve always been curious! I think my Mr has mentioned on several occasions that he’d want diamonds on his (and THAT ladies, scared the bajeezus out of me!) “OMG, you want a bigger rock than MINE?” Anyhoo.. I think he was thinking more… along the lines of Miss Spider’s first picture up there (dispersed diamonds). My ering is going to be platinum because Mr. M is dead set on getting platinum (dang those sales ppl are GOOOOOD) and quite frankly, all my friends have white gold erings. I’ve heard the same - that white gold will eventually turn yellow-ish but I haven’t seen it happen yet. I was SUPER curious about the titanium ones though (for the Mr). I know platinum costs more than white gold, but what’s the dealio with titanium? I don’t know of anyone with a titanium band. Are they more expensive?
Oh yeah, I definitely know one thing… the platinum rings are noticeably heavier than the white gold ones that I’ve tried on.
My FI is set on titanium or tungsten. He is an engineer and wants to make sure whatever he gets will be able to hold up in the work world. Either should do the trick…although tungsten is the better of the two. Both are relatively cheap. We decided to buy some “test” rings. Went to bidz.com and got 2 titanium rings and a tungsten ring for $75 (including shipping and transaction fee). With this being a bidding website, we felt we did pretty good.
My FI chose a Trew Tungsten® wedding band. The major seller for this metal is that it doesn’t scratch. My FI also liked that it wasn’t as “flashy” as the white gold, and as soon as the jeweler pointed out it matched his watch, he was sold.
i have a white gold e-ring and it is yellowed underneath. and i’ve already had it dipped once. it really depends on the person’s body chemistry. i assume you can get that type of ring redipped as well, but i’m not sure, with the different finishes and colors and all, but you could ask…
I have a white gold engagement ring and I love it! Yellow is too harsh with my skin tone. Platinum is too expensive for us. White gold fit the bill perfectly.
I’ve had my ring for nearly a year and it has not discolored.
No problems with my white gold ring after a year of wearing it. My fi is getting titanium wedding ring. At first we looked at white gold so we’d match but it was too shiny and flashy for his tastes. His titanium band is very comfortable (super lightweight) and the darker color has a more masculine feel.
We have platinum wedding bands. My hubby is pretty rough on his band, but it is holding up because our bands have a matted finish to them. Nothing too shiny.
Oh yeah…now I remember what was so different about our bands. It is compressed platinum, so it is more durable. I wonder if that is one reason why my hubby’s band is still looking so nice?
U can bring any discolored white gold jewelry to a jeweler and they can make it shiny and new for around 20 bucks.
my husband also originally wanted lots of diamonds, until i started making fun of him. so he settled on a white gold band with three small diamonds on it…wish i had a picture.
my hubby is so happy he got white gold… i suggest platinum but you know boys & how rough they are… white gold can always be clean, shined, buffed back to WHITE gold…
and i got my hubbs a lil’ bling on this ring… i’ll have to post a picture soon… it’s simple & elegant (for a man that is)
I love the titanium rings. They look great and if they get too scuffed up, there not too expensive to replace.
i heard if you just clean your white gold every so often, it will still be as good as new.
i originally thought that platinum was the only way to go but when i tried on the white gold, i fell in love because it was exactly what i wanted — delicate!
platinum rings look too harsh for me.
Nobody has mentioned silver - is that taboo or something?
Titanium cannot be re-sized. So we’re not getting that in case he loses/gains weight.
My fiance knows A LOT about diamonds, platinum, white gold, etc etc. He did tons of research/learning while searching for the perfect e-ring for me :-). He said you guys should check out
EXTREMELY valuable resource…
my guy got the bling ring too. I agree monkee..I had to come to terms with the fact that his bling was as big as my bling…go fig. Anyway, a little bit of bling never hurts.
My FI is all excited about ring shopping, too…he likes to have nice things, too 
