Beehive
Feature Launched: Aug 31, 2006
About: A forum for readers to post questions and get feedback from the hive, aka the weddingbee community.
In today’s beehive:
- g doesn’t know what to do with her sash after she puts up her half-moon bustle on this dress. She doesn’t want a big bow on her butt. Should she tuck the sash so it’s a part of the bustle or buy a shorter sash for the reception. Any other ideas or pictures?
- to tell or not to tell? is wondering whether or not she should tell her boyfriend that she knows he’s shopping for an engagement ring after her mother let her in on the surprise. If she does tell - when should she?
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for the dress, i think it would be cool if there were a way to bustle the sash with the dress, it’d have that streak of color going through.
to tell: i’d keep quiet. he’s trying hard to make this a surprise so why not let him continue. just make sure your mom doesn’t tell him you know.
please keep quiet! let him surprise you! personally, i would have been a bit upset had one of my friends told before the big surprise. luckily, my friends were SO good about the whole thing that i had NO idea it was coming!
Don’t tell him you know! 
My bf and I do everything backwards (ie, planning for the wedding before we’re officially engaged) and we lost the entire excitement part of him surprising me with a proposal. He’s already hurt and bothered that it turned out this way (it was our choice due to our location and time of our wedding), and sometimes I wish I could rewind and let him have his surprise.
You still will have that day of when he actually does it- which will be wonderful already on its own. Mini-congrats!
nooooooo!!!!!!! don’t tell him…. and if you absolutely must, wait for a while after the proposal. if you tell him before, it may well take the air out of his metaphorical tires, and it won’t be as exciting for him to plan this surprise for you. =D let him have his dream proposal (where you’re in the dark) and it may well be yours as well…
fi and i got engaged after dating for seven years, and he said that up until the second he was on his knee, he STILL wasn’t sure i would say “yes.”
that is how much this means to a guy — please think about that, and don’t let him know you know.
Turtle.. my bf and I are doing the same thing. We do everything backwards as well! We’ve already started planning the wedding and the ring isn’t even completed yet. (we’re having it custom made!)
So funny!
I know he still has some secrest up his sleeve though of the how and when he’ll make it official on bended knee.
But yes, I know it’s coming so the out-of-the-blue surprise factor is long gone.
But that’s ok I don’t mind. We’ve been talking about getting married from the beginning. He told his best friend the night we met that he had “just met his future wife!”
I wonder how many other brides-to-be end up with this happening… planning the wedding before being officially engaged?
for the dress, you could shorten the sash a bit and hang it in the front, a bit to the side. Kinda a la Mrs. Firefly dress.
As for the ring surprise, I personally would tell. I don’t like surprises and love to foil them(!!) and my husband attempts surprises to spite me. It’s all fun. He’d form dummy email accounts to book anything and mislead me. And if I sense foul air and expose it, I’ll add an In-Your Face-Sucka! It’s all dependent of the dynamics of your relationship.
I can see other benefits in telling… it would alleviate some of the pressure on him in finding the perfect ring blind if you actually pick it out with him.
My brother’s fiancee has a similar dress, and her sash has a bustle. Would that work?
Definitely do not tell him — my boyfriend is notoriously nosy, and found out my plan for giving him an engraved pocketwatch when he gives me the ring, and even though he thought it was incredibly sweet and begged forgiveness, it still hurts to know that surprise is gone.
My fiance and i have inherited an heirloom diamond ring. We are planning on taking the diamond out of the setting and getting it reset in a more updated setting. Can anybody please recommend a reputable place in nyc that will do a fantastic job on this?? Thanks!
and, btw, my fiance and i absolutely started planning our wedding before we got engaged!!! and like you, it was b/c of the timing and location of our wedding :):)
A & I aren’t even technically ENGAGED yet. I have a promise ring, and we already know we’re getting married, and looking at dates…not until 2009 or 2010, mind you. I like to start early! 
But anyhow, our anniversary is on Christmas Eve, and I LOVE our anniversary, but I think it wouldn’t be a good idea to have a Christmas Eve wedding…or do you think that would be alright? I’m so confused about all of it, and indecisive. We are going to be having a smallish wedding…between 50-75 guests…we also thought about combining our birthdays…I was born June 2nd, and he was born October 24th (and I like that, because it’s the 24th, just like our anniversary)…now, we were thinking June 24th. That would combine it, and be unique, you know? But the problem IS that June 24th doesn’t fall on a Saturday until waaaaaaaaay in 2017!!! :(:(:( But it’s on a Wednesday in 2009, and Thursday in 2010. Do you think our wedding would be attended if it was during the week? October 2nd 2009 is a Friday, and October 2nd 2010 is on a Saturday, but I really would like to have it on the 24th day of the month…So that’s pretty much my dilemma. Any advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated, ladies….
Love your site- and have been searching a bit for pics of bridesmaids carrying not flowers, but lanterns. We are having an evening wedding and I think this could look very pretty, but potentially awkward. i love and have chosen some flowers but would love to do something different and also save some money…do you have any examples of this? We don’t want too nautical or asian a feel, since neither fit the feel of the wedding overall.
thanks!!!
Dear Mrs. Bee,
I am a huge fan of your site. I’m writing to Beehive because I need help with my wedding dress decision.
During my first outing to try on wedding gowns, I feel in love with a Le Spose di Gio stapless gown at Mark Ingram which cost about $4,000 without alterations. *sigh* Although this is my dream dress, I cannot justify spending that much money on a dress that I will wear for a max of 6 hours and have no place to store in my apartment afterwards. My fiance and I would rather use that money for purchasing our first apartment.
As a result, I’m thinking about a Watters bridal gown which is a little similar to the Le Spose di gown. However, the Watters bridal gown I like is also available as a bridemaids gown in white duchess satin. I am wondering if any bride out there knows if there is a difference in quality, fabric between the Watters bridal gowns and Watters bridemaids gowns.
Thanks!
BkB
Craft question - what glue/adhesive works the best for binding glass on glass? We’re making centerpieces and orginally thought hot glue would work, but that clearly didn’t work. Any solutions out there?
There are a list of products that will adhere glass to glass found on this website: http://www.thistothat.com
I watched a hot to diy mosaic vase on TV where they used super glue to glue glass beads to the glass vase. I did it (using super glue as well) and it worked great.
I would def. recommend super glue for glass on glass.
dont’ say anything…
hello-
I just wanted to withdraw my post- a friend photoshopped a picture of a lantern into a wedding party and it showed me why it’s not done!! thanks so much- BB2007
