Weddingbee

Honestly, it sounds like a “please give me a gift but don’t come to my party” thing. But maybe I’m just cynical. I wouldn’t go, though. If you feel obligated to acknowledge it, send her a nice card.

Who invites someone to the ceremony but not the celebration?!? Maybe if they were getting married in one part of the country and having a reception somewhere else later, but if you’re special enough to be at the ceremony it seems like they’d want to party with you after. Bad taste, and I wouldn’t go since you aren’t that close. They probably expected you wouldn’t go, and should have sent you an announcement afterwards instead if they wanted to let you know they’d gotten married w/o inviting you.

I know a lot of people attend the wedding reception and not the ceremony if they’re not close friends, not vice versa. Even if they have it at different countries, it would still be proper to be invited to both or none. I wouldn’t take it as her being rude but I just learned that some people don’t have common sense. If it was me and she’s just an acquaintance then I wouldn’t waste my time but I would send her a card thanking her for the invitation and wishing her the very best.

I wanted to know if you girls liked

pink vests and ties

or
black vest pink ties

black vest, pink ties.

I wouldn’t go, not because you weren’t invited to the reception, but you don’t talk to her.

Definitely black vest and pink ties–but I think it’s more about what your groom’s comfortable in. If he’s not a pink person, then I wouldn’t subject him to too much. But if he wears a lot of pink, then go for it!

I agree w/ everyone else about not attending–she’s obviously just looking for gifts. If you’re feeling especially generous you could send along a small gift card to one of the places they’re registered at, but that’s definitley not necessary!

Aim, since I don’t know your friend, I would not go so far as to say she is just looking for gifts. It is a little strange that she would invite you even though you don’t keep in contact at all. As for only inviting guests to the ceremony but not the reception, this has happened quite a few times within my social circle. I am not offended by it at all b/c often the bride & groom are pressured to have a very large ceremony (inviting all the parents’ friends), and compromise by having a smaller reception. I know this how my wedding will have to be (parents will not budge! this is as much a celebration for them as for us). I would rather share the more intimate reception time with a smaller group of close friends. And let’s face it, receptions are very expensive. Also, I don’t think you are ever obligated to bring a gift. It’s good manners, but not an obligation.

Since you are not that close, I would decline and send a nice card.

Sorry so long, but I just felt that maybe some of the previous comments were unduly harsh and wanted to offer a different opinion.

Thanks everyone for the feedback! I really appreciate it. There wasn’t an rsvp to send back in the invitation, so maybe I’ll just send a card to be nice.

Thank you all and have a great weekend!

Here’s a question for you–is it appropriate to buy HIM a ring? My HTB gave me my engagement ring last Christmas–I want to give him one–something equally as beautiful and understated, but obviously more masculine–this Christmas. What do you think?

I need help! We’re getting married in NYC but many of our guests are from the midwest where it is common to bring presents and cards to the wedding. Therefore, we need some sort of card box for the gift table. Everytime I Google for ideas I come up with these birdcages covered in tulle or boxes that cost $100 or more! Our colors are all fall colors - eggplant, chocolate brown, burgundy, etc. with antique gold accents so I would love to get something simple, sophisticated, and that fits in. Any ideas? I’m willing to do some DIY but we’re getting crafted out so we would be happy to find something pre-made.