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- glass wants to know where to purchase the “eat, drink, and be married” coasters.
- April is looking for ideas/pictures for rectangular tables.
- Go Amie and her bf are considering getting engaged, and fight every 1-2 months for 2-3 days at a time. She wants to know if that’s “normal” and if their “expectations are in line with reality.”
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http://www.foryourparty.com has these coasters.
Pictures of decorations on long rectangular tables
http://www.ebride.tv/showthread.php?t=1347
I’ve seen the coasters at Kate’s Paperie
I was wondering about fights in relationships. My boyfriend and I are considering getting engaged soon, but we are a little bit concerned. Normally we have a fight every 4-6 weeks, and generally there will be some fighting or stress for 2-3 days (i.e. the argument lasts a few days). Is this normal? I know that whatever we are comfortable with is okay, and it doesn’t matter if it is normal, but we want to make sure our expectations are in line with reality. Thanks everyone!
Go Amie,
I’m not really sure what is normal. My fiance and I have never really gotten into a major fight, But I also know a recently-married couple that fight a lot, but seem to be doing really well.
I was reading somehwere that how much you fight (and what you fight about) isn’t as important as you how you fight( I think someone said that was the biggest indicator of if a relationship is going to last).
We went through pre-marital counseling, and I know some people who even did pre-engagement counseling, and I think either one of those would help you work through it to see if it’s something to be concerned about. Hope that helps.
go amie: i think it’s not about how frequently you fight, but about HOW you fight and WHAT you fight about.
i would be concerned if you never resolve the fights, as in issues continue to resurface even after “all is forgiven”, or if there are cheap shots and intentionally, deeply personal and hurtful things said that are irrelevent to the fight.
amie - I totally agree with the other girls that the important thing is how you fight and how you feel after the fight is resolved. DH and I don’t fight much at all, and we haven’t always agreed in our fighting styles, his family tends to call each other names and say mean things when fighting which was something I was raised to NEVER do. I found that when we did fight that upset me more than how the fight actually turned out. Thankfully he has been very receptive to my comments about how much fighting like that hurts my feelings and tries to be much more careful to not resort to that type of behavior. Good luck!
fighting is perfectly healthy for a normal relationship but like MicheleLouise commented, there’s definitely a limit of what not to do. for me it’s no cursing, no breaking ups, no throwing things, no saying hurtful things like “i hate you” etc… and as long as you both respect each other, then i think it’s perfectly normal =)
amie, here’s a previous post we did on fighting that might help - http://www.weddingbee.com/2006/06/30/how-often-do-you-fight/.
Has anyone heard anything about the wedding dress tailoring at Saks Fifth Avenue? I know Kleinfelds is supposed to be the best in NY, but I can’t resist the 10% off offer at Saks for opening a credit card. Should I be nervous to get my dress tailored there, when they are not a bridal salon?
Hi Jess,
Saks does have a bridal salon. I don’t know about their tailoring services firsthand, but when I went to try on dresses there, I did get impeccable service!
Thank you everybody; my guy and I have lots to talk about, but this has been very helpful!
Jess, hope this isn’t too late - I am getting my dress at Saks. The day I got it, there happened to be a trunk show of the designer who made my dress. I asked the rep if I should get it from Saks or from thier salon, and she said Saks - for the service and the tailoring. Hope that helps!
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http://www.foryourparty.com has the personalized coasters that are so cute.
What I did, being allergic to the idea of spending lots on something that goes into the trash after 10 minutes, is buy personalized napkins from walmart.com.