My BIL sent me a link to an interesting article in the New York Times today, about the lengths women go to snoop on their significant others - peeking at emails, following their SO’s, even recording phone conversations.
I used to have a coworker who saw her boyfriend enter his voicemail password one day. She proceeded to listen to his messages daily and tell me about her findings. I told her if she looked for trouble hard enough, she’d eventually find it. Of course one day she came across a suspicious message and confronted her boyfriend. It turned out to be nothing, but her unfounded suspicions really put the trust in the relationship on the line.
I have many similar stories about friends reading their significant other’s emails, mail, voicemails… and honestly nothing good has ever come from it.
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I think if it is ok to snoop if there is nothing to hide.
Not my fiance, but my last boyfriend (who also happened to be my first). I visited him at College when I sensed we were having some problems - he said I was being ridiculous. Then, as I checked my email on his computer (with his permission), a girl sent him an IM that read “Oh, D is visiting huh? I guess there will be no snuggling with Dave tonight. That’s ok, I’ll survive!” - at which point I told her Dave was in class and it was D on the computer. It was so bizarre. After that, I read the rest of their conversation, since it was now on the screen, and broke up with my boyfriend of five years when he returned from class. That was bad.
I trust my fiance implicitly, so I’m happy to say nothing like that has happened between us and we’re on our fifth year together.
D - how awful! That can’t have been easy. My last boyfriend also cheated on me, and it was devastating to find out.
I have no reason to. A & I share everything, and we have nothing to hide.
it’s been my experience that snoopers (men & women) do it not b/c they feel their partners are up to something, but because of insecurity within themselves. i think there are such things as healthy secrets.
i snooped needless to say we are no longer together. i’m nosy by nature so with my current fiance i have put complete trust in him. i figure this what happens in the dark always comes to the light
my bf is very upfront with me. he takes it upon himself to let me know what’s going on and that everything is on the up and up. i’ve never asked him to do that but he says he just wants to make sure that i don’t have anything to worry about.
I would never snoop — if I don’t have 100% trust in him, then why bother marrying him?
He holds all the receipts so when I pull them out to balance the checkbook it makes me feel guilty like I am snooping.
nothing to snoop about… when his ex-gf contacted him, he let me know right away.
Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
I have… but only in the smallest ways! Like glancing at his inbox screen when he’s checking his email… It’s silly, because I really don’t think I’ll see anything! I trust him so much. I know how deeply he respects my privacy, so I try really hard to respect his in the same way.