Weddingbee Blog

I feel like in some cases (family, very close friends) it might be nicer to hand deliver, but for me, the only wedding invite I was hand delivered felt a bit weird. It was a not super close friend who I didn’t know if I would be invited or not and at a party we were both at, she suddenly went oh! I have an invitation for you! and pulled one out of her bag. So even if she had been planning on inviting me for months, the act of the delivery made me feel like a complete afterthought. So in general, I would go with mailing, I think, other than for those people who you have already discussed the wedding with in great detail - because for THEM I think it would be so much fun to have that moment together in person!

I think mailing is better–a guest might be more inclined to misplace a hand-delivered invitation, just because it didn’t arrive w/ the rest of their mail. Plus, it makes me think of My Super Sweet 16. So unless you plan on going around in a limo w/ a french maid to do the deliveries, maybe mailing would work out better hehe

Sabina–I’m worried about Mrs. Rose too! She’s been in my thoughts; I miss her posts.

For some, we hand delivered and they forgot to send in rsvps (see miss blueberry’s 1st sentence) but we knew they were in to be there for sure. But the others we did mail out. So it’s entirely up to you. Hand delivering sparks questions and you can only answer “How are the wedding plans coming along?” so many times before you go crazy!

I’ve gotten a few invitations hand-delivered and to prevent the “afterthought” feeling, I’d recommend still addressing them as if you were mailing them. Also, include postage on the RSVP just as you would if you mailed them. I almost forgot to RSVP to one hand-delivered just because it feels less formal to be handed something… I don’t know.

I’d mail them.

I still have yet to receive a wedding invite (sadness) but I never thought it would be that big a deal if you hand delivered them. I’m not sure if this is the case with other Asian cultures, but I think in Chinese culture, it is customary to hand deliver wedding invites. If you aren’t going out of your way to hand deliver, I think you might as well give it to your friends when you see them. =) Good luck!

i love recieving mail, so i’d go with just sticking a stamp on them and sending them off. but if you see alot of the people you are inviting regularly, why not save a couple dollars and hand deliver them.