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ha ha, good question! i can relate. one of my vendors keeps saying, “well, I have 20 years of experience doing weddings” and i’m like - yes but you have ZERO experience with MY wedding and that’s the issue here!

i’d change vendors.

if you really love their work, i’d try to talk to them. listen to them and say you know, i love your ideas but i like it this way, ive been dreaming about it this way for my wedding for a long time. thanks for your suggestion.

still doesnt work. drop em!

MILKA!! That’s it exactly!!

We went with a vendor that is a package deal for everythin except flowers. They were disagreeing with me on colors. Which linens would look better. What song I should walk down the isle to. That we shouldn’t see each other before the wedding(For pictures). I asked for a discount in the long run. Here in Vegas every venue fills up about a year early, so I can’t really switch vendors.

Boo. I’m sorry Tristan! Aren’t you getting married in 10 days or sometime very soon? If it is that soon and too late to change (or threaten to change), my best advice would be let it roll off your back. As impossible as I know this will be, state your prefereces firmly, calmly, and often, and try not to let it get to you. Tell as many people who CARE that it’s YOUR wedding (such as FI, mom, BM, etc) what your plans are, so they can back you up with last minute “fixes” if this vendor ultimately ignores your preferences.

Boo for people who don’t do the job they’re paid to do. And good luck!

I’d lay down the law. “Well, if you can’t fulfill my requests, I will have to look elsewhere.” I know that finding another vendor may not be possible, but I would still threaten. Another tactic might be to say ‘Well, if you can’t provide me with the service I request, I won’t be able to pay full price.” Make sure everything goes into a written contract, and that payment is contingent upon specific requests being honored. Them not being able to get the particular color of ecru table linens is one thing, them refusing to do so, and instead providing blue ones because *they* think it looks better is another entirely.

Have your wedding coordinator deal with them. I love my venue but the event coordinator at my wedding/reception venue is very traditional and has very firm ideas about how a wedding goes and our wedding is non-traditional and more of a party so we have butt heads over the course of the wedding planning process. I let my coordiantor deal with her 90% of the time and the few times I have had to deal with her suggestions, I have said “thanks so much for your guidance I really appreciate it, we’ve decided to do X”.