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Here is a tricky etiquette problem. One of our groomsmen is now saying he might not be able to attend the wedding b/c of work. The wedding is in 12 days. He is doing what he can. He vows he will be there - hopefully.

I am not taking this too peacefully and want to barrage him and his wife with emails and phone calls demanding, IN OR OUT? If he can’t come, we obviously need someone else, need to coordinate a tux, need to get them to go to rehearsal, need to redo the programs, seating chart, etc. IN OR OUT?

Fi doesn’t want to be pushy. So currently we’re … just … waiting.

What to do?

yes - it is ok to have uneven attendants. but also, you might just talk to your fiance and make a joint executive decision to leave him out. he can still come as a guest, but tell him that although you value his friendship dearly, you really cannot base all of your plans on a “maybe.” if he really is a good friend, he will understand.

thanks for the helpful comments! I truly never thought about just having an uneven group. That might work best. Thanks again!

I’m looking for some advice on how to deal with parental pressures. My BF and I been dating for just under a year…it’s serious and we’re set on marrying each other most likely by 2008 but there are a bunch of issues that have come up. For one, he is in the process of buying a condo which will be our future home. We had originally wanted to buy a home after we were married but due to a great opportunity we couldnt pass it up. It will be ours but I would not start with payments until I move in (currently i’m renting). Also, both of our parents are traditional Koreans so I am not allowed to move in until we are married. So with this issue, the sooner we get married the better. On top of that, both of our parents wanted to meet and we all had dinner this past weekend. Among many things that were discussed it came to the conclusion that we should get married no later than Fall 2007 because we are both sure and in their minds, why waste time? UM?? Let’s rewind, I am not even engaged yet and now I have a deadline of when to get married. Also, Fall 2007 would be a compromise as Spring 2007 was actually mentioned! I’m starting to freak out and my parents are now calling me constantly about starting to plan and all I can tell them is that I am not planning until I get engaged and then we’ll talk. Any other suggestions on how to keep them at bay?

thanks for your advice LA!

I’m a 2 dress bride and i need to sell one of my dresses! Anyone know where i can sell it? I’m already thinking of ebay but any other good, effective(!) sites?

thanks for the suggestion mrs bee! i attempted to have the conversation about being engaged and moving in together but it didn’t go well at all…to the point where i won’t ever bring it up with my parents again! =T