Reader Buzz: Dying
October 18th, 2006 @ 2:29 pm by Reader Buzz
Mrs. Bee here.
When Mr. Bee and I first joined Netflix, the first movie in our queue was The Notebook. Mr. Bee watched it reluctantly but afterwards he confessed that he liked the movie. 
Although we had had the conversation before, after the movie we got to talking about which one of us we would want to die first. Sure it’d be great to die together, but that only happens in the movies. 
I’ve always thought I would die first but that’s because I’m a crazy hypochondriac. But I also think it would be harder on me if Mr. Bee died first than vice versa.
It’s a little morbid, but you must have thought about it - who would you want to die first?
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23 Responses to “Reader Buzz: Dying”
I meant, easier than HE would.
I love the notebook!!! That movie just gets to me every time.
I haven’t really thought about this question. Since it’s something out of my control, I prefer to keep it that day.
day = way
Haha I just love that you post morbid things like this here. 
We have talked about it but it basically is like one of us asking the other question and then me saying “nooo, you can’t die ever, promise me you won’t ever die!!!!” and him saying “ummm, okay?” so we don’t ever really answer the question. I think I’d probably want to die first though…but then I feel guilty for saying that!!
Mrs Bee, can we come back and haunt, in this “fictional” future? Cause I’d totally do that. Die first and then haunt him- go to the movies with him, make him some ecoplasm soup. I like that idea better. Best of both worlds, I think.
One of my best friends who I teach with and I have decided we want to boys to die first and we’ll move back to our little old college town and putter around with a collection of cats. :O) She is engaged right now as well, the guys are friends, and we’ll both have our weddings next summer.
I just don’t want to be alone, so as long as I outlast some of my friends and family, I think I’d be okay.
we actually talk about this and have said that neither of us want to be left alone without the other…
I want to die first, just because I have no idea how I could keep on living if he wasn’t there. But I guess that is selfish.
Depends on how our children are, if they’re good kids, then i’d feel better about going first. If we’ve raised some horrible ingrates that won’t take care of us then I’d want to take care of him until the end. But he is several years older than me so let’s hope we do a good parenting job.
I’ve had a premonition and I am pretty sure he goes first. Neither one of us is happy about it, but what can you do?
honestly? we’ve never talked about it! i dunno really. he always says he’s going to go first. and now i’m wondering if it’s because he would rather be the one to go first because he did once tell me he wouldn’t know what to do without me. but. i think he’s a strong guy. he’d find a way. me. i would be devastated. who would handle it better? honestly i don’t think either of us would handle it any better than the other.
Funnily enough, we have talked about that too. It always seems to end in us both saying jokingly that we’ll just die together. In a more serious conversation I had with Mr. Plumeria’s mom, though, she said she thought women could handle the pain of their spouse passing on than men. Don’t know if that would apply to us or not… I think I’d be pretty devastated.
Mrs bee that is the best movie ever! My hubby also didnt want to see it but loved it afterwards as well. Let me tell you though the book is 100 times better!!! Its the most beautiful book ever and I cried like I never cried before. I recomend it to anyone Read the book its the sweetest love story ever!
And I would want myself to die first as it would be hard for me without Paul in my life
DH told me that he would want me to die first b/c I can’t live w/o him. bwahahaha.
He’s right. I can’t do anything w/o him and vice versa.
i’ve watched the Notebook and I’ve read the book and it was so freakin sad… and made me think of the same things you did. Mr. Violet and I have already talked about it and I said I’d rather die first, because it would be too painful for me.. and plus, he takes care of a lot of things for us (bills, fixing things, etc..) i’d be totally lost without him. It sounds selfish but I’d rather go first.
I would want to die first…I know it’s sounds stupid but I would definitely not know what do if something happend to my FH…
i made my husband promise that we’d die together, holding hands, just like that old couple in Titanic…
what can i say, i’m an idealist!
in all honesty i’d rather have him die first.. i am better at dealing with issues so i’d feel better knowing that i could take care of all his stuff. i would hate to die first and have him left with grief AND having to take care of all this stuff he has no idea about.
Maybe I’m a horrible person, but these responses made me laugh (some of them, of course). Like Amber’s 3rd one.
I have such a love/hate relationship w/ The Notebook. But when we watched it for the first time and it got to the part where he fixed up the house for her, Mr. Blueberry turned to me and said, “I’d make you a house, but it would be a shitty house.” he’s so cute!
Personally, I hope I’d die first because I couldn’t imagine life w/o him, but on the other hand I hope he’d die first because I wouldn’t want him to feel the pain of living without me…it all comes down to selfishness v selflessness.
Though our common consensus is we’ll die while “Pulling a Notebook”–i.e. in bed, together, holding each other, when we’re both really old.
Me me me! I couldn’t bear for him to die first. I’m horrible when it comes to death. I’m still messed up from my dear little dog dying 2 weeks ago. I can’t imagine how I’d be if he were to go first.
If he has a long drive somewhere and doesn’t “check in” I start to get worried that he’s lying in a ditch somewhere. I’m a worrier, I learned it from watching my mom.
I think he would handle it much better than me.
Was it just me, or in the book, did it seem like in the end, they ended up having ummm….sex? I think so! But I loved the movie, but the book is SO much better. Both make me cry, and Andrew even admitted that The Notebook is one of his favorite movies!
As for the question….I want to die first. I would just be lost without him, for real. He’s so level-headed, and I’m highly incapable!
Hm. I think I would want to die first. I would hate to be without him, it would be so sad! 
I cry everytime I think about this…we have decided that we are not going to discuss this anymore and when the time comes, it comes…we are just going to enjoy ourselves as if we aren’t going to see each other tomorrow…
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I want him to die first, because we both know he couldn’t do life without me. He told me so.
And he wouldn’t remarry. I think that I’d be stronger, not that I wouldn’t miss him every second of every day, but I’d do it easier than we would.