Splitting 50/50
October 19th, 2006 @ 1:49 pm by Mrs. Lemon
Mr. Lemon is a brave and adventurous soul. While I’m enjoying a mother/daughter pilgrimage to the holyland of college football (Notre Dame), he’ll be on his own mission. By his own suggestion, he is driving up to Monterey this weekend to visit with florists, DJs and priests (oh my!) all by his lonesome self.
You see, Mr. Lemon is very excited about getting married, and he’s really into planning a wonderful event. While certain elements don’t excite him much, he’s very determined to contribute all that he can. I wholeheartedly trust his judgement in aesthetically pleasing florists - essentially he’s just scouting and getting some basic pricing for me to be able to narrow down the list of candidates.
As for DJs, well, he’s been working on our reception playlist for months and knows exactly what he wants in our master of ceremonies. And last but not least, he’s the Catholic one, so it’s only appropriate that he meets with the priest and the deacon to introduce himself to the church.
All of these wedding tasks are enough for him to take on in a weekend, but he’s signed himself up for one final encompassing challenge: my dad. That’s right, he volunteered to do some future father-in-law bonding all on his own! What a guy!
Has your fiance taken an active role in planning your wedding?
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17 Responses to “Splitting 50/50”
my bf and i aren’t engaged yet but have talked about our wedding. we’re planning on having two: a civil ceremony on a beach for just the two of us [his dream wedding] and then the big to-do with family and friends [which most likely will be my dream wedding].
while telling him the progress of my best friend’s wedding planning, he said that we’d just pick a date and get married without much planning. after learning that he meant the second one [the family one], he realized that wouldn’t work, with rentals and stuff, and i told him he could plan our first ceremony, which he’s very pleased about.
silly boy.
My DF sadly isn’t interested in w. planning at all. So far he’s contributed to the menu at the reception and will help with the IPOD playlist.
We are actually in really good shape with the planning, all because of FH! I tend to be indecisive plus I want to please everyone all the time, while he can be really decisive and is great at simplifying things. If it were up to me alone, we’d still be setting the date!!
he only helps when i designate specific tasks, with deadlines. but he does put in all his effort into those few tasks that i do give him.
Katy - you guessed right! 
I’m a Bruin (and diehard fan) and heading to ND for the game! I’m super excited for the game and fly out tonight!
My husband wasnt too interested in the vendor aspect but he was great with helping with the DIYs. Since he is a teacher and had the summer off before our wedding he basically took over finishing our favors, doing our placecards, and making our menus and he took great pride in all of that and I was happy he helped out!
Mr. Orange says “Yes Dear.” 
He also was instrumental in pushing me into making decisions regarding florist and limo company and the STD cards since I was so indecisive.
I have something in common with Mr. Lemon - that is, we’re both marrying diehard Bruins and will be doing wedding stuff this weekend. HAHAH!!! Have fun this weekend!
We’re 50/50 (at least averaged out over time). Early on he tried to talk about how the wedding was all the woman’s day anyway, and we had a serious talk about that then and there. There’s a lot of work involved in putting together a wedding on a small budget, and it was going to be something that both of us would enjoy. If that was the case, then we both had to put that time in.
wwww. what a guy!
Hi Miss Lemon,
You mentioned that you fiance was Catholic and would be the one meeting the priest. You may already know this (in which I’m sorry for being redundant), but just wanted to say that you both may be required to meet with the priest before the ceremony, and may even need to attend a pre-marital retreat or counseling before a church ceremony.
My fi is totally into a big wedding, but as long as he doesn’t have to plan it. He’s got a huge family, so he’s gonna get put to work, whether or not hre realizes it yet…
That’s awesome that your guy is doing so much on his own! You’ll have to share some secrets for how you got him to do it
That’s great! You have a terrific fiance. Mine is pretty active. He’s enjoying reading Engaged Groom and puts in a lot of input on some ideas I come up with. He’s adamant about going with me down to OBX to meet all our vendors. He doesn’t care about what kind of flowers I get, but does want to see the contracts and make sure no one is taking advantage of me and our wedding. He’s also really active with anything music related. Lastly, since he’s the Catholic one, he took care of all the precana stuff (check too) and making sure his Catholic priest can marry us when we return.
Miss Lemon,
My fiance is a graduate student at ND, and I’ll be at the game this weekend as well.
In and around his studying and research, he gives quite a bit of input into our wedding plans. Most of the time he keeps such odd hours that I do most of the contacting of vendors though.
Enjoy the game and have a great time!
Not really. I guess I’m kinda ok with it since my fiance has pretty outrageous taste (except with me) with things, he likes Euro and over the top, while I was classy, elegant things. But I wish he can be a bit more euthiastic instead of the “tell me when and where” attitude, where hurt my feelings at times. I’ve delegated things that I don’t have a strong opinion for to him, such as DJ and dance lessons. So he can do his part and make the wedding personal to him.
Miss L- That’s so great of your fiance to take on all those things on his own! And have fun this weekend!! My fiance and I are big Bruin fans! Thanks for representing in ND.
My fiance has been great during the planning process, I am lucky. We’ll have been engaged almost one year this month, and not only has he been supportive during my few meltdowns, but he’s also taken an active role in giving input, contacting and accompanying me to meet with vendors, etc. I also appreciate that he keeps me on track budget-wise… “Even though all those ‘little things’ seem small now, they will add up”… my voice of reason!
Mrs. Lemon, Los Angeles/Monterey
Age and Occupation in 06: 26, Graduate Student (Public Policy)
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Environmental Consultant
Engagement Date: April 7, 2006
Wedding Date: July 7, 2007
Venue: Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA
About Me: My FI and I met online, but we like to tell people that we met at a "cookie shop" which is the technical location of our first encounter. He proposed exactly 1 year, 1 month and 6 days after our first date (it's the only part of his proposal speech that I remember), and we're planning long-distance from Los Angeles for a July wedding in my hometown of Monterey, CA. I have a passion for all things "cool, cute and quirky" and I enjoy video games, reading blogs (WeddingBee, trashy celeb, consumer & political) and crafting in my spare time, if I have any!
Hey Miss Lemon,
Are you a Bruin? Just wondering because I took my FI to LAX this morning, where he’ll be flying into Chicago, from there he’s going to the UCLA/Notre Dame game this weekend, along with 20 college buddies from UCLA. I figured since you are going to the ND game too, that maybe you’re a Bruin. Needless to say, I’ll be the one doing wedding planning this weekend. His role has been semi-active so far. Which is fine with me actually. Have fun at the game!