Time to Unsubscribe
October 20th, 2006 @ 3:55 pm by Mrs. Lime
I received the following in some silly wedding spam newsletter I somehow got signed up for:
As the Bride, it is your duty to choose what the men in your wedding will wear. Most people choose tuxedoes or dark suits, but there are a variety of options for men today. It is common to match the color of the cummerbund and bow tie to the color of your bridesmaid’s dresses. Or you might opt for white dinner jackets for a fifties’ flair. Use your imagination but remember many men feel uncomfortable dressed up so simpler is usually better.
If you want a different look for your fiance and his attendants (and they’re willing to go for it), try something other than a regular tuxedo. For instance, if he is Scottish, the men may wear kilts, or if you love country, they can wear “Texas Tux” or cowboy boots and hats with their tuxedo. Talk it over with your fiance before you make a final decision.
Um, Mr. Lime is a grown man and perfectly capable of dressing himself. Yes, I have a vision of the overall look and a preference for what the guys will wear, but I want him to have some say in it, too. I’m not sure it’s my “duty” either, thankyouverymuch. As long as it fits within the overall level of formality for our wedding (still TBD), I’ll be fine with whatever the guys pick. If they want my help, I’ll be happy to give it, but I’m not going to force something on them. I’m going to be Mr. Lime’s wife, not his mother telling him and his friends what to wear.
Also, a tux doesn’t have to mean “cummerbund and bow tie.” Even if that’s what my guys opt to wear, I do not necessarily want them to match the bridesmaids’ dresses. It’s kind of 80’s, early 90’s. The suggestions for a “different look” don’t quite apply, either.
How much say did you have in selecting the menswear for your wedding?
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4 Responses to “Time to Unsubscribe”
I had a general ide athat I shared with my FI and he agreed that he liked it as well. Then he and I went to the rental place with the Best Man in two as a spokesperson for the groomsmen.
This is one of many things (like music and picking the church) that my fiance wants to do. I leave it to him but hope that he cares enough to ask my opinion before committing to anything - just as I have with him before selecting things.
I am such an easy goign bride. It just so happened that when we were picking out the tuxes, one of the bestmen were with is so my fiance and the bestman chose what they were going to wear. I didn’t have any say. It looked good so no need to say anything at all. The only thing I did was choose the vest color for them since I was the only one who had seen the color of the dresses
Mrs. Lime, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 25, Design
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, IT
Engagement Date: July 7, 2006
Wedding Date: August 5, 2007
Venue: An historic estate
About Me: Between work and wedding planning, I try to squeeze in napping, drawing, random spurts of craftiness, tennis, and eating lots of Sprinkles cupcakes, dark chocolate, and noodles of all kinds. Mr. Lime and I have spent our adult lives growing up together, and we're very excited to finally be getting married!
My FI told me a while ago, when I was so excited about finding the “it” dress, that he didn’t want to see my dress. He wants it to be a suprise. As much as I’ve been dying to show him it, I respect his restraint. When we were talking about his attire, he said he wanted to “suprise me.” My initial reaction was a little fearful. I love my FI dearly, but he does play a banjo, own a pair of overalls, and loves his sports jerseys more than any other peice of clothing. But, I have taken his brother and his Best Man aside and shown them the dress. Actually, I’m kinda excited about what my FI will come up with. Even if it is insane, I know it will be all him–just like the dress is all me. And if it’s hideous, I’ll have the next fifty years to tease him about it.