Weddingbee Blog

I received the following in some silly wedding spam newsletter I somehow got signed up for:

As the Bride, it is your duty to choose what the men in your wedding will wear. Most people choose tuxedoes or dark suits, but there are a variety of options for men today. It is common to match the color of the cummerbund and bow tie to the color of your bridesmaid’s dresses. Or you might opt for white dinner jackets for a fifties’ flair. Use your imagination but remember many men feel uncomfortable dressed up so simpler is usually better.

If you want a different look for your fiance and his attendants (and they’re willing to go for it), try something other than a regular tuxedo. For instance, if he is Scottish, the men may wear kilts, or if you love country, they can wear “Texas Tux” or cowboy boots and hats with their tuxedo. Talk it over with your fiance before you make a final decision.

Um, Mr. Lime is a grown man and perfectly capable of dressing himself. Yes, I have a vision of the overall look and a preference for what the guys will wear, but I want him to have some say in it, too. I’m not sure it’s my “duty” either, thankyouverymuch. As long as it fits within the overall level of formality for our wedding (still TBD), I’ll be fine with whatever the guys pick. If they want my help, I’ll be happy to give it, but I’m not going to force something on them. I’m going to be Mr. Lime’s wife, not his mother telling him and his friends what to wear.

Also, a tux doesn’t have to mean “cummerbund and bow tie.” Even if that’s what my guys opt to wear, I do not necessarily want them to match the bridesmaids’ dresses. It’s kind of 80’s, early 90’s. The suggestions for a “different look” don’t quite apply, either.

How much say did you have in selecting the menswear for your wedding?