Wedding Blog

Good question! One of my BMs has been in many weddings and all I heard was her complaints about the brides. I’d hate to be the source of those complaints, especially coming from my friends. So, my BMs aren’t doing too much (logistically, they all live out of town and can’t do too much). They’ll have to try on their dresses and that’s about it.

i am an attendant and i’m the go-to wedding planner. lol. my best friend, her parents, and the fi all call me j.lo. i’ve been very involved from the get go and i love every moment of it. what helps is that i have more access to the computer for research purposes than she does since she teaches. all this researching has given me great practice for my own future wedding! she even calls me and asks for questions she should ask vendors when she interviews them. but i also know that my helping has helped her keep very calm and relaxed about the whole thing.

i was also the more involved of the bms in the last wedding i was in since i was the only one not working at the time and had plenty of opportunity to help keep the bride in line [she gets flustered and frustrated easily] and made sure she was on top of her planning.

heh.

my bm’s are useful for opinions. i like to get their thoughts on what is nice. but otherwise, the planning is all me and my mom so far.

the gm’s… they are only interested in planning one thing… my fiancee’s bachelor party. heh. no surprise there.

Our Best Man is FI’s brother, who has been told to just show up in a dark suit. My MOH is FI’s sister, who, so far has really had no input, just because I’m a crazed bride-to-be, and I’m afraid she’ll try to “sweetly” suggest things to us, I’ve already turned down her daughter as flower girl- three times, not because I don’t love her, but because we’re trying to make the wedding party even with both sides of our families. MOH got married 8 years ago, and thinks the knows what’s best. To be honest, I didn’t even want a MOH or BM, but FI had already asked his brother, so he wanted it even!

All of my girls are local with the exception of one. We’ve had two girl weekends where we’ve tried on dresses and that’s it! We have an active email circle, too, where I update them on what’s going on and what I’m picking out, etc.

I don’t think we’ll have any work parties or anything, but I haven’t approached the 200 pocketfold invites and fan programs, yet. ;O) The gatherings have been great for getting them all to know each other!

None of us are local to the location of the wedding, so in planning they’re more useful to bounce ideas off of, and my friends are fearless enough to tell me Exactly What They Think. For the days running up to the wedding, one of them is going to be staying with her mom (where we spent many hours as we were growing up) and wants to be roped into getting out of the house to do last minute projects. For the day of the wedding, I’ve asked each of them to help me with something that I know they do naturally, and would feel like they had to take over if it wasn’t being done right. The logistics specialist and organizer I’m asking to help me to not forget anything; the ringleader of parties I’m asking to make sure as many people as possible are involved in having fun at the reception; the coporate event coordinator will help me stay on schedule and make sure I get something to eat. The groomsmen get to help with transporting things and keeping the groom’s mother from trying to sabotage the wedding (I’m not just being paranoid — she’s thrown combination guilt-trip and mini pouting fits at two of her children’s weddings, one of which I was privilaged to see in person. I’m afraid I gave her the type of look typically reserved for children under the age of ten, so I just know I’m in for it now).

The GMs have done absolutely nothing, but I don’t mind. I think it’s the first time for most of them to even be in a bridal party, so I understand.

My BMs have so far been with me gown shopping and have helped pick out their own dress style. I’m planning on asking them if they want to come over to help with the STD assembly and the invite assembly when it comes time.

The planning and ideas and research were all mine and FH’s. I know our party has lives outside of our wedding, so I don’t want to ask them to go out of their way to help with something I am perfectly capable of doing on my own.