Wedding Blog

Some of the big changes that come with getting married (or just getting serious enough with an SO to start heading down that road) are undeniably for the better, but a lot of people are worried about “giving up” those elements they loved about single life. Dating, first kisses, living on your own, “freedom”….

For me, none of those were issues at all, because even though I wasn’t despondent at being alone by any means, I still didn’t objectively care enough about any of that to the point that I missed it when I moved in with Mr. Bluebell. Some people just like the single life, and some people don’t…but that doesn’t appear to have much correlation with who gets married (or when.) I’m sort of tempted to say something cutesy about it depending on “when Cupid’s arrow hits you” but I’m going to try to refrain.

Of course, some people who reeeeally want to get married might let that desire blind them from the fact that their potential partner might not actually make the best spouse, and some people who looove being single might find it hard to make that committment in the end. But ultimately, I feel like your basic temperament doesn’t have too much bearing on whether or not you find a person worth settling down with.

Now, trying to be honest…which general type of person are you? Before you met your SO, did you imagine yourself getting married, or not? Do you think that “relationship people” generally end up with better relationships (because they try harder/want it more) or worse (because they settle for less)?

And, because I am hopelessly addicted to polls:

[For the purposes of the poll, let's think of long-term cohabitation as falling into the "marry" category, since I'm trying to get more at general relationship-temperament than into the politics of making it legal or not. If you are in fact a relationshippy person (or settling down for good with someone even though you're not), but don't believe in "marriage" - please comment why!]