Reader Buzz: Religious Backgrounds

Reader Buzz: Religious Backgrounds

October 27th, 2006 @ 4:00 pm by Reader Buzz
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Mrs. Bee here.

In yesterday’s reader buzz we talked about interracial marriages, and several of you mentioned that religion was actually a bigger issue or challenge than race. Neither Mr. Bee nor I are religious, so we had a completely nondenominational ceremony. But I’ve had friends that have faced major issues with their in laws regarding converting to a specific religion, or holding two maybe even three separate wedding ceremonies.

Are you and your significant other from different religious backgrounds? Has it presented any challenges in your relationship, your relationship with your in-laws, or with the wedding planning process?

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15 Responses to “Reader Buzz: Religious Backgrounds”

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Miss Blueberry

This is probably something I shouldn’t get too far into but suffice to say…YES. Not any discord between Mr. Blueberry and me, but him and his parents, me and my gandparents, me and his parents…etc. Not fun stuff, and one of the few obstacles in our relationship

10/27/06 @ 4:02 pm (reply)

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Miss Bird of Paradise

yes, but it hasn’t been a problem. i think we’ve both enjoyed learning about each other’s religious traditions.

10/27/06 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

Guest

yes, with regards to wedding planning.
because our family church is really traditional, we didn’t want to make waves by being the first interfaith wedding held there.
fi also wants to make sure that the ceremony really is interfaith; he fears that a traditional christian ceremony might alienate his family (not offend, just make them feel weird).

10/27/06 @ 4:42 pm (reply)

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Chrissie

Neither of us are very religious… I guess we fall into that more spiritual than religious category.

My family is pretty conservative, so it was a big to do when we moved in together last fall. We weren’t engaged at the time, and we got a TON of nasty comments about living in sin, getting the milk for free, etc. It makes me mad that these people get invited to our wedding now as if they were always supportive.

10/27/06 @ 4:42 pm (reply)

Guest

It’s something I’m dealing with. I am supportive of FI and go to most church functions with him, but I don’t know if I can ever convert. It’s harder on me than it is on FI-I don’t think he even realizes how much it bothers me. I want to make him happy, and to make my FIL’s happy–but gosh dang it, at what expense to me?

10/27/06 @ 4:50 pm (reply)

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Jenn

the SO and I aren’t religious and neither are our families, so there hasn’t been any hurdles in this regard.

10/27/06 @ 5:26 pm (reply)

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sarah5981

Unfortunately religion has caused major problems in the wedding planning process. I’m Lutheran, fiance was raised Catholic but is non-practicing. He decided that he wanted to convert to Lutheranism (his choice!!) and it caused major problems with his family. His brother will not even be in the wedding because he does not “condone” it. I could go on and on, because it is a very sore subject. Luckily his parents are being very supportive. Fortunately it is not a problem between fiance and me!

10/27/06 @ 5:31 pm (reply)

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kanipark

we are both christians… i was teaching sunday/h.s. church when we first met… the hubbs started going to church with me… (he stopped going for a long time)…

10/27/06 @ 5:55 pm (reply)

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glass

It’s comforting in a way to know that there are other couples like us that are going through this “religious difference ordeal”! It was never a problem up until we started the wedding planning. It’s such a big headache. We have pretty much all the big things done and set except for the officiant. Our religious differences is having a big toll on our wedding. =(

10/27/06 @ 7:11 pm (reply)

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mary

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now, and we’re fine with each other since we’re both not really that religious. His parents are Catholic though, and really do not like me because I am not Catholic (and also because I am Chinese). I can see where they are coming from when they list the things or potential issues we might have in the future when we decide to get marry or have kids…but I can’t see why they would keep introducing or setting him up with Catholic girls knowing we are together. :oP I chalk it up to weird parental behavior though.

10/27/06 @ 11:30 pm (reply)

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Adrienne

Our religious differences weren’t a problem until planning the wedding. I was looking for a Methodist preacher to marry us somewhere other than a church to avoid problems with religion. He wanted to get married in a Catholic ceremony. So we’re getting married in his church and we will not be having mass, which was something we fought with his mother about. I think things will go back to not being a problem in 1 month, 2 weeks and 4 days.

10/28/06 @ 12:53 pm (reply)

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Ophelia

I’m actually pretty lucky in that aspect. I met my bf at church. He was my ride to church! We pretty much share the same religious beliefs. Both of our parents aren’t Christians, so we also share similar obstacles in that area.

10/29/06 @ 3:21 pm (reply)

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Miss Peach

I also met Mr. Peach at Church! ^_^ His parents are also Christian and so is my mother, but my dad isn’t. That hasn’t affected any wedding planning, but it does sometime affect our conversations with my dad when talking about the future in general and life values.

10/29/06 @ 10:08 pm (reply)

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Andrew & I aren’t religious at all…we’ll be having a totally non-denominational ceremony when the time comes.

My Mom’s not religious, and neither is his mom (both of our dads are out of the picture). Both of our Grandmas go to church, but there’s not going to be any issues about us not getting married in a church.

10/30/06 @ 4:04 am (reply)

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TheBrideToBe

This is one of the major hurdles my FI and I are going through. My family members are strong Christians and my FI’s family members are devout Catholic. FI and I attend the same Christian church. To appease both of our parents, we were thinking of having both a Christian and Catholic ceremony but my mother refuses to set foot in a Catholic church for her daughter’s wedding. If anyone has any suggestions, please help!

10/30/06 @ 11:10 pm (reply)