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My jaw is going to DROP if anyone is actually having sex more than once a day.

i’m with miss ant. how do you find the time to have sex more than once a day, or even once a day? i’m so freaking busy, i barely have time to sleep! i guess i gotta start “scheduling” sex….=)

another topic might be, how has sex changed after the proposal.

mrs bee - oops, i guess i missed that one.. nevermind.

A friend of ours (who is very happily married) once told my FH that the secret to his happy marriage is that he and his wife have sex everyday. He said sometime it even seems like a chore, but they do it faithfully. My FH and I tried it, but it didn’t last past three days. I don’t know how they do it (or did it, since they just had a baby and I can only assume they’ve fallen off the train a bit). But they are still happy.

I think an interesting question for reader buzz is “how many couples are getting joint bank accounts, have them already, or plan to get them but also keep seperate accounts?”

Beta,

Didn’t they discuss that topic recently? Or maybe that was on the knot. I’m getting my boards confused.

Bloodhound Gang song, “Do it like they do on the Discovery channel.”

I understand Kate’s concerns. But the poll was fun, if only because many of us have looked at our sex decline over the years and feel slightly insecure. To quote a cheesey movie,

“When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is! “

I thought I’d pop back with a bit of clarification. I certainly agree that sexuality is important, and remembering to meet your own needs. What put up a red flag for me is that I’ve seen on so many sites women extremely concerned that they’re not having enough sex, or not meeting their partners needs. Often times people want some standard, or to know what’s “normal.” In my opinion, that needs to be worked out within your relationship. One couple could have sex every day and that’s great, while another is extremely content with once a month or less. I would hate for anyone to feel insecure about their relationship because of some blog posts.

As Jesse mentioned, maybe being younger has something to do with it. We’re both in our early twenties, and we only get to see each other three days of the week, but we average two or three times a day when we do see each other. I suspect that will change when we move in together!