Weddingbee Blog

Miss Plum, funny you should say that. I’ve been “friends” with Miss Bluebell online for a while, we met on another website and then spent a lot of our time chatting about wedding planning, work, our real friends and things like that- she’s also helped me a lot with some logistics of our wedding. Miss Bluebell is actually one of my closest friends, which is odd because I’ve never met her in person, only seen pictures. Still, she is invited to our wedding. (although, with a year to go, she won’t be getting that invite for a LOOONG time). She’s a sounding board for me, which is why Mr. Kiwi is all for it, he loves how supportive she is for me, even if we’re not “real” friends. So who knows, the first time I meet her and Mr. Bluebell may be at our wedding! I say if you’re close, who cares HOW you met?

Sorry, Miss Plum, I forgot to add that for some people, I wouldn’t go. But for others, I would, if I were in that position. I think it depends on how close you get. Sometimes logistics make it hard to meet in person first, ya know?

i have to say i agree w/ hm. if i received an invite i would find it very awkward and would definitely not go - IF we had never met in person, regardless of how long we’ve talked via internet or how much.

along the same lines, i would not invite someone ive never met from the internet. i wouldnt want them to feel awkward or obligated to come celebrate the wedding of someone they have never met either…

i am in the same position. my friend that i meet about 4 years ago online is getting engage. i was actually suppose to go to her engagement ceremony (dam hoi) but because of scheduling conflicts i wont be going. but she will not be getting married for another 2 years which is pretty long for a vietnamese engagement. we already have plans to meet up before her actual wedding. but since we been friends online for so long, i will definetely find a way to go to her wedding 2 years from now. that is if she will still invite me.

I want to pipe in too! For anyone else I’ve ever met on the internet other than Miss Kiwi, I would be SUPER freaked out if they invited me to their wedding, and would think it was really creepy and bizarre. There are other people I’m friendly with and have exchanged emails with, but I don’t consider them friends and would find the assumption of that level of closeness really weird.

However, Miss Kiwi and I live on opposite sides of the country (or else we would have met already) and talk on IM pretty much every work day since we both have very boring jobs. It started as just an occasional chat, but now I really do consider her one of my closest friends, even though I do get a wee bit embarrassed telling my “real” friends about my “internet friend.” Yes, it’s a weird concept, but whatever, over a year of IMing, we know each other really well, so I wouldn’t have the feeling of “meeting” her for the first time. I think about it like long distance match.com daters - they talk for a long time and get to know each other, then one person has to fly far away to actually make that leap in the relationship. If you live nearby, it would be weird not to meet in person sooner, but if it’s a long way, you just wait until you’re more sure or it’s more convenient. But since it’s even weirder to fly across the country for a platonic friendship, we just haven’t had a chance to meet yet, even though we have talked about how if one of us were in the other’s vicinity we would definitely arrange it.

That said, I am planning to go to her wedding and super excited about it!!! As an aside, I really want to invite her to my wedding too, and am hoping we’ll be able to, but since we have already invited too many people, she’s not offended to not be invited (I hope! ) because we are relatively new friends who haven’t technically “met.”

Basically, I think it is entirely dependent on your closeness with your internet friends. I never thought I would form an actual friendship over the internet, but if long distance relationships can work, why can’t long distance friends?? So just try to think of them the same way you do less close real life friends - is this really someone you care about having there, or more of a “oh that might be fun” vague thought, for someone you might never talk to when you’re both done with your wedding planning.

i think internet friends are the same thing as “real” friends. i would not find that weird at all. an invitation is not an obligation. it is a gesture of friendship and meaning in someones life and internet relationships/friendships can be just as meaningful as “real life” friendships… if not, sometimes even more!

i wouldn’t find it creepy at all and i wouldn’t feel more obligated to go than any other “real life” friend either. i think its a sweet gesture from you!

btw, i love your invites! gorgeous!

I’ve met quite a few of my friends online, so I really don’t think it’s that weird…although having it be the first time you’re meeting them might be a bit awkward.

I met one of my best friends online, and we’ve hung out a lot over the past 3 years, and I know she’ll be invited to my wedding. Another friend, I met via another internet friend, and actually traveled to Wisconsin to meet him! He’s a lot of fun, and he’ll definately be invited to my wedding!

there was a situation on my local knot board a while back where a girl who no one had met (she was living OOT but getting married in new orleans) invited a bunch of us to her wedding. they’d already paid for the minimum, but not that many people were going to go, so we all went. it was actually very fun. we all met the bride for the first time at her wedding, and she was so happy that we were able to go.

i invited several of my knot friends to my wedding, but i had met them all before then.

It depends on the person. But I guess the same would go for my pen pals. I’ve never met any of them but there are a few that I want there.
Like I said, it would depend on the person, for both, would I go and would I invite.