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I would have to agree with you on that one, I need a hard working man in my life, the sex is secondary for me.

affectionate responseible hubby with no sex would get my vote. sex is nice but it’s not the foundation of a solid relationship

responsible husband

I would definitely prefer a responsible husband, and I know my husband feels the same about me because we’ve talked about it. Having a wife that is motivated and confident in her career and interests is #1 for him.

I think it’s really dangerous to say something like men cheat because their wives aren’t sexual enough. This turns the blame onto women, that if they had done something differently their husband wouldn’t have cheated. There is no excuse for cheating and the cheating behavior is 100% under the husband’s control. No wife should be blamed because her husband made a stupid decision.

I hate questions like these. There’s too much pressure on women these days. Not only am I expected to bring home a paycheck and keep the house in decent shape, but I’m supposed to be a sex kitten, too? Cut me a break here. Not to mention, women married to workaholic men probably don’t go to bed at the same time as their significant other - are they just supposed to stay up all night ready-to-go?

I’d take the responsible husband over that other option any day. Do men ever consider what comes of that other behavior — you know, children - a family?! It seems to me a couple with a one track mind isn’t going to handle those new responsibilities especially well.

“Is that why husbands cheat? Because they’re not getting enough sexual attention at home?”

I find that line incredibly offensive. It implies that it’s the woman’s fault if her husband cheats and that the husband had a right to commit adultery if he’s not getting “enough” at home. ugh.

Its funny but in my house the roles are reversed. Im the horny housewife (albeit not literally) but my hubby does all the cooking and he cleans up and really pulls a lot of the weight in my house. Its for a couple of reasons this happens. One my hubby is a teacher and thus gets home earlier then I do (on days when I have school I dont make it through the door until close to 9:30) so he has time to prepare the food and clean up for almost 3 hours before I get home. Secondly in the classic sibling roles my hubby is an oldest child who is use to having more responsibility and taking care of things while Im the carefree youngest/only child who is in some ways been pampered and taken care of. I def do try to help out my hubby when I can and on the weekends but a lot of it is second nature for him and he just does it automatically. I know how lucky I am to have someone who does all this without complaint and loves me enough to have food ready for me when I come home after a long day but the grass is always greener on the other side right (at least sometimes) I hear what all of you girls are saying when you say you are tired and unmotivated to want to do anything after a long day and I think thats how my hubby feels too and I def try to be understanding but its not always easy. On the flip side though I think my hubby would be one who would want the domestic wife more then the horny housewife he has. The grass is always greener on the other side. The best would be a perfect blend of the two but life circumstances doesnt always allow for it. Luckily for me teachers have a thing called summer break that allows me to get the best of both worlds…albeit only for 3 months still better then nothing =)

There definitely needs to be a balance. The same thing is true once you have kids - sure their needs come first, but the couple’s needs cannot be totally ignored.

It’s just offensive to think that either sex is expected to be all things all the time. That’s not reality - that’s not possible. There are going to be days when you’re more interested in one thing than the other. That’s life, that’s reality. It’s all about striking a balance and compromising with each other.

checked in w/ boy. first he said he hates the question, bc of course everyone wants a balance. but i pushed. and he picked responsible wife. =] his words “marriage is about much more than sex. sex is great, but sex alone wont make a marriage work.”

My fiance finds it extremely sexy when i’m washing dishes or cooking up a storm. Call me old-fashioned, but I love being the caring responsible soon-to-wife. He is also very responsible and helps with all the housework, and he’s an awesome cook. I find that so sexy.