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Mrs. Bee here.
Mr. Bee’s parents are in town (staying with BIL Bee). They’re coming over to our apartment tonight for the first time since we moved here, so Mr. Bee and I have been in a bit of a cleaning frenzy. This got me thinking about how we divide chores/household responsibilities with our significant others.
Generally I do the cooking and laundry, and Mr. Bee throws out the trash and cleans Smokey the Cat’s litter robot (if you have a cat, this is absolutely awesome). I do most of the miscellaneous household things, and we both do the dishes. But lately we’re both so busy, we really don’t do that much housework at all.
How do you divide the chores up with your significant other? Do either of you wish the other helped out more? And if you don’t live together now, do you anticipate the division of housework to be a problem once you do move in together?
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he does everything. dishes, cleaning, etc. we send out our laundry. i cook once in awhile. i’m a lazy wife…..hahhah. once we move into our new apartment and once the wedding is over, then i will definitely chip in more!
Our dishwasher is broken. 
So now I am the dishwasher. Which is normally okay, but I HATE IT. So he said he’d do it. He didn’t. Mr. Kiwi’s jobs are: taking out the trash, laundry (I sort and fold), and take the dog out every morning. I cook, wash dishes and make the bed. We both clean together. It gets done faster that way. I WISH he’d wash dishes!
Okay, now I want a litter robot. That looks so much cooler than the littermaid! I might have to talk to FH about that being part of our after-wedding spending.
We pretty much split things according to when they need to be done. Our non-mutual off days are Tues (him) and Sat (me), so on those days we take care of whatever needs to be done at that time. I probably cook more often, cause I like to, but then he’ll do dishes. He cleans up a lot and washes most of the clothes. As it stands now we both walk the dogs, but he takes care of their grooming and I take care of the cat’s stuff.
Laundry- Me
Cooking- Me
Vacuum/dust/windows- Us
Dishes- Him
Toilets- Him
Deep cleaning when fam is staying- ME! He’s not allowed to touch the cleaning supplies. Water spots man, water spots.
Oh yeah, he also gets doggy duty!
i do the cooking. he does the dishes. we have two maids come every month to do the grunt work. i sort our clothes. he does the wash and we both fold. he takes out the trash and washes our cars. i clean out the fridge. we both go to the market together. i organize.
I’m a neat freak, so I keep the house tidy and clean and take care of the laundry, but lately I’ve also been doing the cooking (because I’ve felt inspired and my fiance was studying for a professional exam). Usually, he does the cooking (my meals are a little fancier than his) and takes care of the trash.
Still, by and large he’s helpful when I ask him for assistance and usually puts dishes away without any prompting. It’s pretty nice, actually.
FI does the dishes and takes out the trash, I do laundry and we cook together. I take care of kitty litter, when I remember! I think it’s a good system, although if anyone is doing more work, it’s very probably FI. He gets inspired to vacuum and clean periodically and I rarely do!
Hubs does the trash (the thing I hate the most), bathroom, kitty litter and vacuum. I generally dust and laundry. We have a rule that whoever comes home first starts dinner, and whoever cooks doesn’t have to wash dishes.
This is the first piece of advice I give my friends who are moving in with their SO’s: Discuss and divide the household chores!
I feel like it’s such a little thing that can really cause huge problems in a relationship, because one person inevitably feels taken for granted, one person’s clean standards are always higher, etc. As silly as a “chore chart” sounds, it sure beats a couple who bicker over household responsibilities.
That said, when my bf and I moved in together, we decided to divide the chores by “room”. He likes cooking more than I do, so he is responsible for the kitchen, and all kitchen related cleaning (taking out trash from kitchen, dishes, etc). Our apt is pretty small, so I take care of everything else, which really only includes the bathroom, living room, and bedroom.
It’s worked like a charm for over 2 years!
I do the laundry and load and unload the dishwasher. Hubby does the trash, cooking, litter box. We split the vacuuming and picking things up.
Mr. Blueberry does the trash and dishes (though he’s sort of a slacker about those, at times), and I make the bed, do the laundry, all cooking, general housekeeping, etc. We trade off on the cat box every day. I do more than half the chores just because my standards are a bit higher than his (hehe), but it’s really sweet when he tries 
I know if he were on his own the sink would be a mess, the bed would never be made, and he’d be eating ravioli every day 
Me:
-dusting
-vacuuming
-washing floors
-do the beds
-do laundry (wash, dry and fold)
-ironing
-washing dishes (No dishwasher for me :((
- toilet
-organize
-pay the bills
DH:
-cooks (sometimes but I hate cooking and he is better than me)
-takeout trash on week-day (no weekends)
-windows
I think I need to discuss with DH
we don’t live together yet, but have talked about the chores. we both like to keep things clean, him because he likes it, me because i hate to clean. i know we’ll both split the chores evenly. he’s already planned on having saturday mornings set aside to straighten up/clean! i’m just glad i won’t have to clean up after him. i HATE cleaning up after people.
I think my answer is pretty much the opposite of everyone else’s; my boyfriend is so diligent that he makes me look bad!
I usually have a lot more coursework (we’re both still working on our undergrad degrees), so he pretty much always starts making dinner while I study. And he sweeps, mops, de-ices our freezer (aka craptastic icebox), takes out the garbage, makes the bed, folds my laundry, carries the grocery bags. I usually try to claim the dishes for myself to avoid dying from guilt, but I know that if I were to ask it of him, he would do absolutely anything and everything chore-related!
my buddy is very helpful with everything..but i actually enjoy doing the dishes..we usually fight to do chores…(still engaged) maybe things will change once we’re married? hahaha who knows..
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