Weddingbee Blog

We might have a small table set up with a candle & note about ‘in memory of’. It’s kind of weird because 3 of my 4 grandparents passed away before I was even born, and FH doesn’t remember one set of his grandparents, so we can talk about something in their memory, but we don’t even have any memories of them.

The one grandparent who I do have memories of has had alzheimers for the past 8 or so years, to the point where she doesn’t know anyone, and so won’t be coming to the ceremony. I’m still putting her name in the program under ‘grandparents’, but most people will know why she isn’t there.

It’s always a bittersweet kind of moment to remember stuff like this.

We’re debating between having an empty chair with some flowers or a candle, or having a seperate candle lit on the alter. Either would be mentioned in our program. I’m trying to decide whether it would be too morbid/creepy to have the chair.

My fiance’s mother just passed away two months ago. We are having a candle on the stage in her memory that will be lit the entire time. There will also be mention of her in the program, and I will be incorporating her wedding rings into my bouqet as well.

I plan to take my fiance’s Dad’s cowboy hat and boots and place them on a chair in the front row. It’s really more for us than for anyone else, and I think its a great way to remember him without being morbid.

I placed a frog brooch in my bouquet in memory of my grandma; she loved frogs.

We also did a donation to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

My cousin had a note in the program that said in memory of and also they put flowers on the altar. His brother died in a car accident, so they put the necklace with his fingerprint in the bouquet in the front.

I will most likely put a note in the program for my grandfather and cousin.

My mom passed away two years ago, and I will be stopping by the cemetery between taking our formal photos (pre-ceremony) and the ceremony with my fiance and my sister (MOH). We’ll be taking our photographer with us, and I’ll be placing a small version of my bouquet on the headstone.

My husband’s 96-year-old grandmother passed away a few months before our wedding reception in St. Louis, which was purposely held there for the chance that she might make it (but we also had already decided we wanted it there because of family, even if she happened to pass on beforehand). In her honor there was a special table at the cocktail/dance area with a few photos of her and for dinner there was an empty seat at his parents’ table. Before dinner we paid homage to his grandmother and laid a small bouquet of white roses with a small white bird in flight at the empty table setting. The next day his parents took the bouquet to the cemetary and laid it at her gravesite.