If you missed my previous post about my awful dilemma of what to call my in-laws, I’ll sum it up for you. Well… I didn’t know what to call my in-laws (hahaha). I would just avoid saying their names and look them in the eye when talking to them. I let this go on for almost six years! I felt weird calling them Mom and Dad, calling them by their first names made me uncomfortable and calling them Mr. and Mrs Hibiscus made them uncomfortable. It was quite an uncomfortable situation for everyone.
I couldn’t believe the number of responses I got to my dilemma. I didn’t know so many people were going through the same exact situation. I guess I just assumed I was the only one. They should really have a universal name for “in-laws.” Future Sis-in-law and I were going to come up with something and put a patent on it.
I don’t have a solution for everyone but I can say if you’re comfortable enough you should talk to your ILs about it. Bringing it up with my future MIL helped me a lot. We sat there together and tried to figure out something we were both comfortable with. It was funny and some good bonding time.
For this post’s sake let’s say my FMIL’s name is Lori and my FFIL’s name is Matt. (Although, he said I can call him whatever I felt comfortable with so he wasn’t really part of the discussion.)
Names that were scratched off the list: Queen Mother (NOT my idea), Matka (Mother in Polish), Mamacita, Momsies, Mother Lori, Mama Lori, Big Mama (hahahaha - NOT her idea)
After a weekend of joking about the names and testing them out we came up with MaLori. It’s said like the Middle Ages term “Milady” so it sounds cute. It still has her name in it so she’ll respond, but I am guilt free because I have the “Ma” in there. She was happy with it and I was happy I could finally call her something. I seriously addressed her A TON that weekend. I never realized how much I left unsaid because I wanted to avoid calling her anything. It was seriously liberating. As for FFIL, I now call him Papa Matt. He likes it and I’m happy. I would like to thank everyone for all your support. For those of you who are still stuck, seriously talk to in-laws. It feels so darn good now that I have names for them!
On to my questions. If you didn’t answer before, what do you call your in-laws? And just for fun, do you have any ideas for universal names everyone can call their in-laws?
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