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Tick*tick*tick. What’s that sound keeping me up at night? My biological clock. It’s ticking so hard I can barely focus on wedding planning! When I was dating Mr. Kiwi, my obsession was rings and engagements. After we were engaged, I spent the first few months booking things and picking out colors until my eyes crossed. Now with less than a year to the wedding, I don’t want a wedding so much anymore but a baby!
Don’t be alarmed - I go through these baby phases all the time, especially when I go into Baby Gap or Gymboree. Since I’ve been counting down the months to the wedding, I can also count down the months until we can start trying for babies! So… according to the plan Mr. Kiwi and I have agreed to (loosely), we can start trying November of ‘08.
The plan goes like this: We get married in November of 2007, just days before I turn 28 and 3 months before Mr. Kiwi turns 29. From day one, I’ve been very explicit in that I want a baby before I turn 30. So, we enjoy one full year of wedded bliss (no more and no less), and then get to it. That leaves us a full year of me being 29 to have a baby or get preggers.
I know it sounds very methodical and robotic this way, and believe me, I’m not usually a planner. I like to have life plans though, and knowing that we will be able to start trying for a family before our parents get too old and their future cousins aren’t in a completely different generation makes me feel good.
Mr. Kiwi has agreed to this plan on a few conditions: 1) We find a bigger place, 2) I learn to drive and get a license, and 3) We get a new car. I know we’ll be ready then, especially since Mr. Kiwi just got promoted and is very excited about being able to provide insurance for the future baby (even though I can, too). The funny thing is, up to the engagement all we heard was, “When are you finally getting married?” Now the ring is on my finger, the question du jour is, “When are you having babies? You know how they say to wait until the right time? Well, it’s never the right time, do it now!”
Do you guys have a plan for children? Did you and hubby/hubby to be/bf always agree on this “child plan?”
p.s. While I know this plan seems very anal, I am aware that makin’ babies doesn’t always go as planned. We are prepared to work with it should it take longer, or not take as long. 
We just want babies, and having a loose outline for our future is a great way to help us plan the rest of our lives.
We have a fairly similar plan to yours, ie “first baby before 30.” But there are disagreements on if it’s get PREGNANT or actually give BIRTH before 30, and he’s a year older than me, so there’s the issue of whose “thirty” we’re counting from. 
But basically, the plan is to be married ~ 2 or 3 years then start trying!
We want to be younger parents–30 at our first child would probably be our upper limit. I’m 21 and Mr. Blueberry is 23, so we have considerably more time to be thinking about it But we’re thinking we’ll start after he’s done with law school and is (somewhat) settled in his career–prob. when he’s 28 or so, and I’m 26.
Miss Kiwi! I’m right there with you. Pre-engagement, all I can think about was wedding planning and rings and flowers …. now that I’m engaged, all I want to do is look at baby clothes and baby toys and baby this or that. Strange, huh?
I am just amazed that you’re in Los Angeles, and you don’t know how to drive. That’s freakier than your future baby schedule. 
next years babies 2007 in chinese/korean astrological terms is considered lucky because it is the year of the “golden pig” which only happens every sixty years.
If your asking why this is what i’ve come up with each of the 12 zodiacs come with one of the 5 elements however next years element is gold which only happens every sixty years - the pig is considered a lucky animal too …
would you consider getting pregnant before your wedding to have a baby in that zodiac year?
I’m 30 now, and am *very* aware that we need to get going if we’re going to have any kids. But we are planning (and actively working towards) getting a house first, not to mention just having some time to be married for a while. But we have solid plans for a house for early ‘08, and kids shortly thereafter. But after that, we disagree. We found out during pre-marital counseling that I had planned to stay home to raise the kids, as I was raised by a SAHM. He expected me to work, as his mom had done while parenting four (wild!) boys. And we’re still working that out!
Just a shout-out to my fellow brides-to-be who are past 30 and have tossed out all their old deadlines! I think it’s great that you all have plans, but don’t let your plans get in the way of your life, either. What if you enjoy wedded bliss and want to spend a while longer with each other, just each other? Or if you need more time to adjust to being married?
I know that I sound preachy (hey, I’m over 30!) but you’ll never get that time back together when it’s only you two. The only reason I wish I had gotten married younger is so that I didn’t have to think about biological clocks! Even so, we’re probably going to wait a while so that we can enjoy each other and married life before kids.
Miss Bluebell, our kids should totally hang. If you have them when HE’s 30!!
Miss Blueberry, lucky young dog (puppy?) I wish we had that much time, but noooo.. I had to find Mr. Kiwi all late.
Nhi: I have two onesies that I found. I bought them for a cousin because they were the cutest thing EVER (little yellow embroidered duckies on white with yellow rings around the arm and leg holes & one white with yellow ringers and a soft terry cloth duck on the chest!!) but Mr. Kiwi said I could keep them after I whined for weeks about possibly never finding them again. :)I want BABY!
lol. miss kiwi, you crack me up. me and my bf don’t have definite plans on the baby making but enjoy the practicing. my mom keeps telling me to enjoy being single and married before having kids because then my life is over [very uplifting huh? lol] but i know i want to wait at least 2 years before we start since i want to have him all to myself and even though i’m 25, i still don’t know how to share
the only thing we disagree on is the number. he wants 3 and i want 2 [mainly because i'm a middle child and don't want to have to deal with another one of me]…he’s gonna have to do some fast talking for that third if he wants one.
Man, I totally want a baby next year now. DANG. I could imagine explaining that to Mr. Kiwi,. Being mexican, “Honey, the Chinese/Korean astrological time says that 2007 is the PERFECT time for us.” I am soooo intrigued.
Weezer, I am a bus ridin’ looooser. To be honest, I had cataracts removed and my freak fake lenses make me see “halos” around all sources of light at night outside. So I get freaked out that I won’t see right and kill us.
wow. your organized.
Tea, I agree with the sharing thing. We still have small tiffs about who deserves more couch. I say that I deserve half, and he says he deserves 3/4 because he is a large man. He also says I need to be okay with not being #1 in the family. Even though he calls me #3, in rankings of who the boss in the house is: #1 Him, #2 Woofie the dog, and then me. 
The dog does boss me around a bit. For instance, if he is getting punished by “daddy” he comes over and beats on me. Woofie is MEAN. He’ll like, come over and give me a toothin’. Anyway, that has nothing to do with anything.
Lucy, this is the only place I’m organized. I swear. And my wedding stuff.
Somewhere along the line I hit ’snooze’ on my biological clock, or never had one, or something. FI and I want children, eventually (two, most likely), but really don’t have a desire for them right now. I’m almost 29, he’s almost 30, but I’m at a point in my career where the next few years are really a bad time to have a child. We’ve talked about 4-5 years from now. I also don’t really mind if I physically have children vs. adopting them, and he feels the same way, so if fertility becomes an issue then we’ll just adopt.
HAHAHAHA We are the SAME way. Babies before 30! But babies old enough so mommy can party with daddy on his 30! And we gave ourselves a year to be married too! We’re starting January of ‘08.
That’s hilarious that you have onesies already. I’ve contemplated doing similar things, but decided that I may scare the FI away before we are married!
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Unless I can hide them somewhere w/out him knowing….
DAMN clock is ticking so loud today!!
My original life plan was to have my first child before I was 30. But now that I am 27, and will be almost 28 when I get married, I realize just how soon that is and how nearly impossible it would be to have a child before 30. There are still things I want/need to do in terms of my career and I have plans to go back to school and don’t want to have a child until after I am done with the schooling…etc which means I realistically wouldn’t have my first child until I was 33 or 34. But that seems too old to have my first child so I’ve been re-thinking everything. If my FI can get a few more promotions, we’ll be financially set and I can just Quit my job altogether! haha 
We just got married a couple weeks ago and I have babies on the brain too.. although we want to wait a couple years so we can enjoy it being just the two of us.
We’ve also been talking about how many we want. I come from a family of 2 and he comes from a family of 8!!!!!!!!!!! We’ve decided on 4 or 5… its in the middle
wow! i didn’t realize you were a fellow LA blogger until this post, and i scrolled down. you’re lucky to have gotten this far in life without a license in this town! i’d like chauffeurs everywhere, please
my biological clock isn’t ticking yet. well, at least not audibly to me at least. we have had the talk about if/when/where/goals beforehand, though.
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA Engagement Date: March 31, 2006 Wedding Date: November 3, 2007 Venue: Radisson Hotel About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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