In Your Eyes

In Your Eyes

November 17th, 2006 @ 11:57 am by Mrs. Lemon
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I’m not exactly a morning person, but one thing seems to make me wake-up for the day: Peter Gabriel’s “In Your Eyes.” It’s Mr. Lemon’s ringtone and almost every morning I get to chat with him for 10-30 minutes (silly LA traffic) as he makes his way to work. Our chats aren’t special in topic, but they’re incredibly crucial to our relationship. We get to make each other laugh, talk in silly voices about silly things and bring up any planned events or fears about the day with each other. It’s also helped us dissipate possible fights, as we honestly talk out what’s bugging us or what we may have misinterpreted in each other’s actions.

We don’t email or chat during the workday, but like clockwork I hear that song sometime after 6:30 for our evening chat. It doesn’t matter if we’ve seen each other minutes before the call in the morning, or if we’re about to see each other minutes after we hang up at night. If I miss the chat, I feel anxious to share out to him, and it’s then that I realize how wonderful it is to have a set amount of time each day to do that as does he.

I often wonder about what will happen when our lives and routines change in a few months, but I know that I want to hold onto some sort of similar pattern of communication since it has been such an important part of our relationship.

How do you set aside time to openly talk with your significant other?

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5 Responses to “In Your Eyes”

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Adrienne

Every night as we’re sitting at our computers before we go to bed.

11/17/06 @ 12:13 pm (reply)

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Jenny

We talk during the day but the best talks are when my FI “tucks me in”. It’s a good wind down routine for me because I am high anxiety.

11/17/06 @ 12:18 pm (reply)

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Tea

we try to talk every night before going to bed. it’s our way of tucking each other in. earlier in our relationship, i’d always call him around midnight his time [9 my time] and it got to the point that he’d get annoyed if his phone would ring and it was one of his friends instead of me. that and whenenver his phone rung around that time, his friends knew it was me.

but that’s our main way of communicating [for our ldr]. we take that very seriously since it’s easy to misinterpret what the other is saying, especially over the phone. my night isn’t the same if i haven’t talked to him. and i do start to get real antsy when we go a stretch of days without talking…usually after the second day. i’m a wreck on those rare occasions that we go a week between calls. we’re both busy with work [me] and school [him] that sometimes we miss calling each other. those days suck.

11/17/06 @ 12:41 pm (reply)

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felicity

Excellent choice for a ringtone, that’s one of my favorite songs! FI and I will occasionally chat via email during the workday but we have plenty of time in the evening to chat - we always talk about our day when get home, during dinner, and when we go to bed.

11/17/06 @ 12:45 pm (reply)

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turtle

We live together, but we always stay in contact via email during the workday. Sometimes it’ll just be little “I love yous” or other times, we “talk” out a discussion or argument we’re having at the time. We also us emails to plan the rest of the day/ week together. Just today, he asked me where I wanted to have dinner for our weekly “date night,” and he took care of all the reservations.

I think it’s important to allot out times during the day to focus on your significant other, no matter how often or not as often you see him/her.

11/17/06 @ 1:42 pm (reply)