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I was one of the lucky few that found my dress at first try. Now comes the much more difficult part - a veil or no veil. A veil with a tiara. Or tiara only? I originally planned on wearing a tiara only and briefly mentioned it to Mr. Violet. He adamantly objected! He was quite disturbed that I was not going to wear a veil. I was a bit taken back. Mr. Violet said that he always pictured lifting my veil over my head and then kissing me. Very sweet huh? I thought so too.
So, I did a bit of research on veils and am a bit puzzled. It seems that although Mr. Violet wants to lift my veil, I’ve heard from others that it’s the father who lifts the veil, not the groom. So, ladies - what’s the real answer? Is it the father or the groom? Can it be either?
My second veil related question is - since my wedding gown is Champagne, should my veil be champagne colored as well? Would white or ivory look odd?
I have seen it done both ways! I’ve seen the father lift it as he is giving her away, but I’ve also seen the groom lift it before the kiss. You should do it how you guys want to.. I don’t think there is a right or wrong.
The father can lift to give a kiss, but then put it back down. I’ve seen that. Then groom lifts it again for the first married kiss.
well…the veil is a symbol that before the wedding day, the bride and groom didn’t really “know” eachother in the deepest sense because it is only through marriage that that level of intimacy should be consumated. so the veil represents something between the man and woman…until it is lifted to signify that there’s nothing between them anymore…
so with that…i’m definitely going to have a veil…. 
but the color of the veil can be really off so you definitely have to lay it next to the dress to be sure.
I say, do whichever you want! If your guy wants to lift the veil, then I say go for it! I don’t plan on having a veil that covers my face, so I’m not going to have to worry about that one…heh.
My FI told me the same thing when I asked him what he preferred! He was really attached to the veil. Very cute. But yeah, I’ve seen it both ways as well. Because he wants so badly to lift the veil to kiss me, I’m not gonna fight him on that one.
You can do it any way you choose. As for color, my dress was champagne as well and I had an ivory veil and it worked great. No issue with matching.
I wanted Paul to do it but the priest originally said for my dad to do it but I told him I wanted Paul to so he said whatever I wanted
You can definately do it either way. I think it just comes down to whether or not you want to wear the blusher for the entire ceremony.
I would just take your dress in and try on some different shades. Or, you could always try http://www.trupinkdesigns.com (I got my veil from them and it was a HUGE rave) and see if they can get you something to match. Good luck!!
I think it can be done either way.
like the ladies have stated..i think its up to you
i think its really cute that your FI is all about lifting your veil~
I asked my now-husband which he preferred (dad lifts or he lifts) and he said he didn’t want to look at me thru the veil through the whole ceremony. So my dad lifted it before he gave me away…
I, too have seen it done both ways, but since your Fiance wants to do it, I would think that he should lift the veil. Of course, you can always talk to your dad too and see if he wants to lift it up— that way you know if he needs to lift it up to kiss you, then lay it back down so your husband can lift it for your first kiss~!~
I think the father lifts temporarily to say buh-bye (in a non-permanent way!) and FI lifts it permanently. Make sure you train him on how to strainten it after your kiss. This is what I would do if I was wearing a veil/
I am going without a veil and am probably going to wear a flower…I don’t want to invest in something I’ll wear for a half an hour. I know Jillaly wore her through her reception and held it nicely over her arm. Just another option!
It’s safe to say that you can go either way, but do check and see what your dad thinks, too. My stoic, taciturn father was suprisingly opinionated on my wedding day, which was both sweet and frustrating.
My wedding gown (my grandmother’s!) had an ornate lace neckline, and I didn’t want anything to compete with that. So I wore just a gardenia in my hair, and it was a lot of fun. If my fiance had insisted on a veil I would have have caved, though. It was his Special Day, after all.
either definately! have your father put it back in place before your vows, and your hubby lift it for his first kiss!
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Mrs. Violet, New York Age and Occupation: 27, Executive Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Computer Engineer Engagement Date: May 13, 2006 Wedding Date: September 2007 Venue: Westbury Manor About Me: We've been dating since college. In our spare time we enjoy the city life, playing with our dog "Sam", eating our hearts out, and traveling. I also love to DIY. Check out my crafty creations at http://www.waisze.etsy.com.
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