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Women everywhere know Lloyd Dobbler. Women love LLoyd Dobbler.
Ten years ago when I first met Mr. Kiwi, he was a Lloyd. When we broke up four days after Valentine’s Day (1998), guess who showed up in my driveway with a bouquet of cream roses (”I couldn’t remember if you loved white or yellow roses, so I got you cream”), and a penguin toy?
When I said, “What are you doing here?” He told me bluntly, “I love you, you can’t expect me to stop trying.” Well, after I fought it, he stopped trying. Cut to ten years later, I finally wisened up and got him back. That’s the good news. The bad news? My personal Lloyd Dobbler has been replaced by a less romantic Mr. Kiwi.
I want my Lloyd back!!
Now, I would never give up my Kiwi man, but… every now and then I wish he’d be as romantic as he was when we first dated a decade ago. Granted we are adults now, and I know what we have now is greater than the young love back then - but I miss the Mr. Kiwi Say Anything days. He’s still sweet, but now it’s like a deeper love that is felt more than shown. We no longer question the love, so it isn’t demonstrated as much as it was at the start. I wonder ways to get him to romance me up a bit.
How about you guys? Has your romance changed styles? How do you “keep the love alive?”
p.s. I just want to make sure everyone knows I love Mr. Kiwi more than anything, and it’s not my love or his that I’m disgruntled about! 
I totally sympathize! And I will appreciate any comments, because whenever I tell him he could afford to be a little more romantic, it just makes him feel like he’s a total screw up and he stops trying altogether. How to encourage without condemning??
positive reinforcement, k. that’s important. For instance, if he does something super sweet, thank him, complement him, remind him and everyone around you of it for days. he’ll pick up the signal.
Encouragement in the form of “why don’t you do that?” “how come we never…so and so anymore?” or, the worst ever, “her fiance always does that…” is never good. Think positive, and remind him of things that he has done that were very sweet and romantic! and it also doesn’t hurt to kick up the notch yourself!~
ditto to what nancy said~ 
i hear you miss kiwi. i’m sure alot of girls feel you on this one! i always complain to my bf that he’s not very romantic and instead of paying more attention to it, he gets more discouraged and annoyed. *sigh* i think nancy has a very good point here. positive reinforcement sounds like a great idea. men love it when they do things that make us happy. it makes them feel appreciated and well, i guess more of a man. i think complaining to them discourages them even more. maybe instead of complaining to them about what they’re NOT doing, we should compliment them and thank them more. if that doesn’t work, damn, i don’t know what will!
momma kim used to tell the ladies…
“if you treat him like a king, he’ll treat you like his queen”
My fiance has never been the romantic type from day one and neither have I. I guess I will never expect it because that’s just not how he is built. I don’t mind really, I guess the sexiest part of a man is his humor. We’re always laughing at each other, even though we’re so used to each other after almost 4 years.
I think the most important part of having a healthy and happy relationship is to take it for what it is and appreciate the qualities that you do like in him and vise versa.
This would be my 2nd time replying….Since I sauntered to this site.
To answer the question, we, ladies, are sometimes a hopeless romantic as my FI called me. Their attitude change when we fight or argue. Why, I don’t know?
I’ve asked my FI about, he simply said he does not need to work to hard anymore because he got me.
From our last fight we almost broke up. Because he love me so much, he said to me that “you’re my better half. Do you think I’m that stupid to let you get away” He was almost crying and rage over losing his cool. I’ve never seen him so vulnerable.
I was in shock then we kiss and now I am engage.
Don’t force, order them to be more romantic. They love to see you smile, if he did not see you smile you’ll be surprise…..
I have that poster. And I love Lloyd Dobbler. The boombox scene is to die for. That being said… I agree with Nancy!
i’ll be so sad when my bf stops being so romantic! but i’m really romantic to him too 
Awww, I love Lloyd!!!! And yeah, to echo what Nancy & Mama Kim said - I try to surprise him with random small things to get the idea in his head, and then when he does do something romantic, just talk about it A LOT for weeks and weeks afterwards. It’s all about training. Hehe.
an ex-bf gave me the line multiple times that he wasn’t very romantic because if he only did it a few times it would be more meaningful. the truth was he was a lazy person. ladies, a your guy doesn’t have to be romantic all the time, but i have to believe that one should never stop trying!
We have date nights to keep the fire alive. Yes, it does dwindle but that’s what happens - life. Try and make a point to schedule romance, it really works for us!
we do little things for each other all the time. i know that i gush over everything he does for weeks on end. and then i’ll bring it back up months after, not so much because it’ll reinforce that behavior [haha, i sound so clinical!] but because the thought makes me smile and it really meant a lot to me. he’s more nonchalant about it but i know it touches his heart. he’s a big softy.
i love john cusack and i’m ashamed to say… i have never watched say anything.
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA Engagement Date: March 31, 2006 Wedding Date: November 3, 2007 Venue: Radisson Hotel About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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