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Lately I’ve been stressing out about a few things: the dress, invites, flowers and MUSIC. Why is it so hard for me to choose our first dance, father/daughter, ceremony music?

I think it’s partially due to the fact that we’re such music people. I played the violin and Mr. Kiwi loves to play the guitar. So I know that whenever I hear the song I choose, I’ll think of our wedding. The songs have to be a perfect mixture of emotions we’re trying to convey. Man, that is a lot to ask for in a song, right?

Regarding the first dance: This is a very special dance for me because it will be not only our first dance as husband and wife, but also our first dance of any kind ever. We’ve never so much as swayed together. Being 5 feet tall, and Mr. Kiwi a whopping 14 inches taller at 6′2″, it’ll be awkward at worst, entertaining at best.

As you all know, I had my Death Cab for Cutie phase because it was a beautiful (if melancholy) tribute to how deep love can take you. Our first song choice before we even got engaged was Love Song by 311 (originally done by The Cure), because it was always playing when we first started dating and it was on the soundtrack of a movie we loved. Then the next choice was Now That I Found You by Allison Krauss, because that’s how it was when we got back together - now that I finally found him. But, that song is about someone leaving. So… no thanks. The next song was When You Say Nothing At All by Allison Krauss because it was sweet, although nothing specially moving or meaningful. So, we have no song. Nothing. Can’t think of anything that means something to us and isn’t about death or broken hearts.

Regarding the Father/daughter dance: For so long I wanted to choose Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle, but just reading the lyrics made my dad tear up and as many readers noted, Dad shouldn’t be a weeping mess on the dance floor. Then I thought maybe a catchier song would be good like Thriller by Michael Jackson - that’d be something he would enjoy. When he heard You and Me by Lifehouse, he remarked about how lovely that song is so that’s the one! But wait… he tears up a little at that. I’m cursed with a sentimental father, ladies. Okay, not cursed, I love him, but it’s making choosing a song difficult. There are a few things I’m looking for: Not overly used as a F/D song, not too outdated, a little modern, but not too modern. I definitely don’t want it too long either. Gaaaah. See my problem??

A few songs I was considering for the song as we walked down the aisle: All You Need is Love by the Beatles (yes, I am a fan of Love Actually, why do you ask?), God Only Knows by The Beach Boys (must have this somewhere in the wedding- ceremony or reception), and Everlong by Foo Fighters (the acoustic version- in fact, Mr. Kiwi wants to play that himself). I’d like to have I Will Follow you Into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie, but as many asked, does it have a place amongst new beginnings?

So as you can see, I’m a mess. We’re not classical people, so those Canon in D minor songs don’t fit us. We’re not trendy, either. We’re one large oxymoron. I want so many things, but the ones I really want don’t fit. Even if I were to choose one I do want, how do I choose just one?