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I think a LOT of women feel like this. I love my wedding dress. But when I try it on I often start thinking “man, I need to get to the gym asap!” or maybe I should have gone with the more modest dress I first thought I wanted. But in the end I know my fiance is going to see his beautiful wife to be as I walk down the aisle not the extra inch (or three) and I am SURE that is all Mr. Apple is going to see.

All you have to do is KNOW you are beautiful and you will be on your wedding day.

(But I totally agree, who decided white was a wedding dress color?)

Dear Miss Apple,

Yes, please don’t fret. I don’t think it’s uncommon for a bride to have overly critical thoughts about how she looks in her wedding dress, especially at a first fitting. Remember you have waited months for it to arrive and the memory of it and the image of how you should look in the appropriate size can grow out of porportion. I recall having to squash a little bit of doubt about my actual choice of dress. Maybe I should have looked around some more…I was wrong.

Remember, it still needs to be altered. The lighting there is probably not the best. You don’t have your hair done or the appropriate make-up on, etc. You’re making a judgement call on just part of the whole package.

Have patience and hang in there. Did you try it on alone? If so, next time bring along a friend whose fashion taste you trust for a more objective opinion.

As I’m munching on my peanut m&ms, I can totally relate.

I wish I could I give you a big hug right now — I know exactly how you feel! I still get apprehensive going to see my dress, now in alterations, because my first couple of fittings made me feel so bad compared to when I first found and ordered the dress. I’m crossing my fingers on a perfect fit making me feel better, but in my heart I’m so tempted to keep searching, and sometimes scare myself into thinking I made up my mind too hastily. Just give it some time… I’m sure it’ll all work out!

i think it’s kinda like looking at yourself too close in a mirror. the longer you stare at your face in the mirror, the more flaws you’ll see. since i was a kid, i absolutely refused to look in the mirror for longer than a minute (unless i’m focusing on doing something to my face). i think my self esteem has gotten much healthier since because we are often the harshest critics of ourselves.

no one will be staring at you intently and your dress. they’ll glance at you and see the whole picture. bottom line is, people attend a wedding and the only thing they’ll remember is if the bride and groom is happy! they won’t be checking out every single detail of your dress.

this is not to say i think i look gorgeous in my dress. the third time i tried my dress on, i thought my tummy’s showing even though i’m not that chubby.

but you know, you already have your dress - let your tailor do the work, and then you just have to close your eyes , and have fun with the rest of the wedding process!!

thanks everyone for your encouragement, I think i’m just having one of those bad days…but you all have been giving excellent feedback and I do appreciate them all! -)

Thanks my weddingbee friends! -)

All brides are beautiful - even non-fashion model types. On the day of the wedding, you will be glowing and overflowing with joy and that is what people will see! No one else is doing comparisons.

Be a friend to yourself, don’t put yourself down.

I ABSOLUTELY know how you feel. I bought my dress off eBay from an overseas vendor. It was a few sizes too big, because at the time I was dealing with thyroid problems and I didn’t know what size I’d be! It turned out that I was 50 pounds heavier on our wedding day than when I first met DH. Ouch!!!

I waited as long as I could before getting my alterations done, and on the first visit, when the guy was pinning and tucking I wasn’t too worried about my dress or how i looked in it because I knew it was still a work in progress.

But at the final fitting, I don’t know…I guess i expected the alterations to make all the difference in the world - as if I’d suddenly fit into a size 7 or something. But they didn’t! I was still fat, I felt like a big white tank and I hated my dress. I told my MOH that I felt like it was basically just a white prom dress, and why should I even bother with it? I could have just picked out a white skirt and blouse at Lane Bryant! Plus, the guy didn’t fix the sleeves the way I had asked him, and my dress made me all itchy and I was so upset I had splotches all over my chest. I cried all the way home.

The good news here is that on the day of the wedding - after my manicure was finished, my “hair did”, the make up all applied, wearing my cool shoes and my vintage jewelry and with that buzzing cloud of excitement all around me - honey, I felt (and looked!) like a million bucks. Yeah, maybe a size 18/20, but it’s not like I had my size printed all over my dress. I, just like everybody else on their wedding day, had been transformed into a beautiful bride. And it will happen for you, too!

thanks for sharing this one. i really enjoy reading it. all the best of luck to you my dear.