Wedding Blog

Honestly, I would be disappointed with one of my siblings or family members didn’t come to my wedding but I’d try to be understanding about it. But I do think that family is one of the most important relationships you’re ever gonna have in life and so when a situation occurs ‘once in a life’, the extra mile should be taken. Cuz when you look back to those important moments, you’d want to be able to see that your whole family was there and vice versa.

My step brother and his wife aren’t coming to mine because of money issues (which is why I didn’t go to theirs when I was broke, in college and half the country away). My step-grandmother isn’t coming, but doesn’t have any money issues AFAIK, so I’m a bit miffed. Especially when we were trying to plan in a few things that were particular to my step-family’s heritage, it seems like a lot of effort to make nice on my part when they can’t be bothered to drive three hours and crash with family.

I was really sad that some of my close friends did not make it to my wedding. I can’t imagine how sad I would be if my own brother didn’t come! I’d like to think that I’d be understanding if he couldn’t come b/c of money issues (i.e., it would cost thousands of $$), but I think I would also have offered to pay for at least 1/2 of his trip. But, since this didn’t happen to me, I can’t fully understand or sympathize.

though i dont think i would ever show it, i would be very disappointed and deeply hurt if my brother or any other sibling did not come to my wedding. like beverly said, i think it is absolutely worth taking that extra mile–or two–to be there. familial relationships, particularly that of siblings, are among the very, very few “lifetime” relationships a person may have.

when my future brother in law got married, one of his sisters decided not to come at the last minute because her two year old daughter came down with an ear infection. it would not have been difficult to hire a babysitter and at least come to the twenty minute ceremony. while that reason seems a bit petty, there was no denying that future brother in law and his now wife were a bit irked and hurt.

if they couldnt afford it, i would send them a plane ticket and not let them refuse it. it is very, very important.

I have 4 brothers (NO SISTERS!), and each of them are included in the wedding. My youngest brother is 11, so we will be having him as a junior groomsman and the other three are all older (the next youngest is almost 21), so they will be ushers. My oldest brother is in the Army and has already served one year in Iraq. There has been definite talks of his group (the 101st Airborne out of Ft. Campbell, Kentucky) being redeployed to Afghanistan at some point next summer. So, there is a possibility that he will not be able to make it (he and his wife also have some money issues, but my parents are going to help them afford to be able to come back for my wedding, thank goodness). I think I would be upset if my brothers weren’t there for my wedding, but I would understand if there was a good reason for it, such as being deployed, not having enough money, etc. Luckily, my other three brothers are still in the same city where my wedding will be, so money will be an option.

My sister probably won’t be able to afford it when our wedding rolls around because she lives in Syracuse and the wedding is in Los Angeles. She also has a son and is due with her second son any day now. So basically, she’ll not be working for a while and extra money is at a premium.

Mr. Pearl and I already made the decision that we’d pay for her (my MOH) and my nephew(s) (the oldest of which is a RB) to come out here because they mean so much to us, we couldn’t possibly have a great time without them. And if we couldn’t pay for all of it, my parents would chip in. It’s that important to us.

one of my siblings is estranged from my parents, and i don’t know if they will reconcile before my wedding. i will be very sad if they don’t but i know that it is up to them to make amends.
i had *hoped* that my wedding would give them the opportunity and inclination to do so, but there is nothing i can do except support them both.