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He opens a window and spits in your face.
Okay, that’s a little overly-dramatic, but sometimes it just seems as though when things go wrong, they go WRONG. Lately Mr. Kiwi and I have had a hard couple of days. Nothing too bad that we can’t overcome, but still.
Saturday night after the Lakers/Clippers game we went to, I took Woofie outside for his bedtime walk. On the way back into the house, he underestimated the curb and ran into it, knocking his little kneecap loose. He whimpered and started limping. The next morning, we took him to the vet who said he’ll have to have surgery. Apparently this is very common for little dogs. So we need to use some of the wedding fund (which is meager at best) to fix our little guy, since his well-being is more important than that one day.
The day we brought Woofie home from the vet, our toilet had broken. It still flushes, but takes literally hours to fix. Our house is a mess of Christmas decorations that still need to be put up and laundry that needs to be done. It is far from acceptable to have our landlord in to check it out, so before we get the toilet fixed, we must organize the house. Which brings me to why we haven’t done that…
Last Tuesday I wasn’t feeling well, so I decided to make an appointment with the doctor for my sore throat. The day of the appointment my throat was okay (isn’t that always the way?) but I did have some odd lump in my cheek. I have an infected gland which is why I’m majorly sick. I was given a week of antibiotics and a new inhaler - because I’m that cool.
Sadly, Mr. Kiwi and I had a meeting with a floral designer last night, but couldn’t make it. Mr. Kiwi has a car that has sucked for awhile, and it’s really on its last legs. I promised him we’d use whatever money we were gifted towards a new car after the wedding. It looks as though the car won’t wait until the wedding to die, so we may need to get a new (old) car. Which in essence, is our wedding budget. As I said before, some things are more important than a wedding.
For once, we’ve saved a lot (to us) of money. We’ve been so proud of ourselves, being all responsible and stuff. So right now I’m feeling a little down, like nothing can go right. I’m awfully tired of “dealing” with these little hang-ups. And yes, this is a bit of a self-thrown pity party, but it just feels like things are trying to make it as hard as possible for us not have a wedding we want. I hate being poor. 
How about you guys? Ever feel like life is just working against you? I hope I’m not the only one!
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Instead of feeling sorry, Miss Kiwi you should feel awesomely proud of yourself - that you guys had saved enough money to be able to take care of woofie when he needed to be taken care of and that you can purchase a replacement car when you need one!
I know it stinks that the money you saved for the wedding is now going in other directions, but wouldn’t it be worse if you hadn’t saved the money and 1) couldn’t have a wedding, 2) couldn’t help woofie, and 3) couldn’t afford to get a new car?
Things always work themselves out one way or another and I’m sure the money for the wedding will come from somewhere!
Thanks N, I’m feeling a little better! Things just looked so bleak this morning! I should have posted an aside: I’m not looking for pity, I swear!!!
Aww, ::hugs:: Don’t worry, I’m too busy pitying myself to pity you 
(j/k!)
We all have times like that, but hang tight–I’m sure you guys can work it out.
Just be glad that you have the money to take care of those necessary things, and that your little puppy will be OK
Oh, and I don’t know if you’re looking for good used-car recommendations, but you can’t go wrong with early-90’s Mazda Proteges. Really solid, great gas mileage, and *cheap* 
Yes, I’ve definitely have had those spells! But keep your chin up, things will work themselves out somehow!
E v e r y s i n g l e d a y.
My fiance is a student and this semester - the first of many - he has very part time job writing for his future firm. As soon as his first paycheck (each of which was going to be dedicated to the wedding account), our car stopped running. Since then, it’s been one thing after another - usually every two weeks. Every time he gets a paycheck it goes entirely into the car. It’s so depressing!
It’s frustrating when you can’t seem to get ahead, but eventually things work out. Or, at least, they always seem to - but usually not until you’re at the end of your rope and are ready to lose your mind. It’s life’s version of the “Gotcha!” joke.
i’m with n. at least you have money saved up. though i would be upset too. i have a stash of cash for emergencies and i always pout when i have to dip into it for those emergencies. no worries, things will turn around
D, that is it, precisely. The car, it’s like this huge festering money pit. This happened last year with the ring fund. Car accident! But yes, at least Woofie will be okay, and the car will “hopefully” be taken care of, too! Mr. Kiwi is fond of just ignoring it and borrowing his mom’s car. I, on the other hand am like, “Find out what it is and handle it!” It’s very stressful. 
And hopefully the classy face lump I seem to have caught will go away in a few days. I’m like a walking medicine chest: one regular asthma inhaler, one new one (3 puffs 2X a day), singulair, claritin, antibiotics (3x a day), and the birth control pill AND my flintstone vitamin.
Awww, it’ll all work out, don’t worry!!
And N - even though that wasn’t addressed to me, I totally feel better about everything in my life too now! You have a very good Pollyanna effect.
And Miss Kiwi, I am POSITIVE you’ll have a fabulous wedding, a healthy dog, a reasonably operating car, AND a flushing toilet! Although I agree, that it does always seem like everything happens together…and it SUCKS!!!
Argh that sucks! Poor little woofie too
My car has been the source of most of my trouble lately too, as someone ran a red light and hit me a few weeks ago. The insurance wanted to total it out, but I can’t afford the time/effort/cost of a car search right now, and it was only a dent in one of the rear doors. I’ve been fighting with them for 2 weeks now trying to get it back.
As far as your landlord, I would just ignore the mess and get them in their to fix things. I’m sure they’ve seen worse, and clutter isn’t really the same as trash/dirt.
Fizzy, you make a good point, and who doesn’t love crappy christmas decorations (decorating the floor). Is it sad that our dog is the most expensive thing we own, not counting the ring? And yes, counting the car, too.
Thank you everyone for your hopeful words, I really do LOVE my Wedding Bee hive!
Miss Bluebell, my dog is probably healthier than I am! Damn my soon-to-be bionic dog!
(Kidding, I love my Woofman)
Miss Bluebell - glad that it had that effect on you! Trust me, I get down in the dumps plenty and it’s always much easier to bring encouragement to others than when you’re dealing with your own situation!
And ditto Fizzy’s comments regarding calling your landlord. I’m sure they’ve seen MUCH worse.
Aww…I have those days quite a bit. I’m so sorry everything is coming down at once. Doesn’t seems to always happen like that?? I wish I could send you some funds, but I’ve dipped into my wedding fund for a few things too, so all I have is good vibes. I hope you feel better — physically, mentally and financially.
Beth, you are so sweet! I need good vibes more than money! (okay, not really, but life isn’t about money, it’s about happiness!)
I love you guys to bits!
Miss Kiwi, you guys are going to be just fine. Life seems to throw you curves when you’re not prepared for them–but like N said, you had the money to take care of Woofie when he needed it, and you have enough money to buy a new old car. Hooray for having savings and being responsible!
You’re doing great, so just keep smilin’.
I can completely sympathize with you.. when it rains, it really pours, doesn’t it? My FI and I recently had to make a car purchase because I had to give mine to my parents since their old old car finally gave out (and I had told them I would give them my car when that happened), then there is additional financial burden because we are helping FI’s sister pay off her insane debt that will literally leave her homeless if we didn’t help, and I just found out that my good friend’s brother was diagnosed with leukemia last night. All in all, such is life, eh? Good luck and keep your chin up. There’s no where to go but up, right?
sometimes I suspect it’s a conspiracy theory, that someone out there is enjoying my suffering, which makes me even more mad. ok i must be mad…
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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